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MasterFireMaam -> RE: How do I satisify the beast within? (7/26/2008 5:53:53 PM)

It isn't until we work with things in the Shadow* of our subconscious that we bring them into the light.

Shadow means anything that is hidden in you that you deny, be that Beast or creativity.

Master Fire



beargonewild -> RE: How do I satisify the beast within? (7/26/2008 6:05:13 PM)

Me thinks you may not be able to completely subdue or deny that part of yourself you've deemed the beast. We all have a part of ourselves that is considered the "beast" "dark side" or any other name you care to describe the baser part of human nature. One could meld the both sides into some sort of a compromise where you don't fear that part of you that is struggling to be free. 



lovingpet -> RE: How do I satisify the beast within? (7/26/2008 7:51:18 PM)

A question....

Do you seek satisfaction or do you seek peace?

Satisfaction is a temporary fix that will not solve your problem. 

Peace is the abiding calm that comes from struggle, acceptance, and resolution.

Best Wishes,
lovingpet



XaviersXian -> RE: How do I satisify the beast within? (7/26/2008 8:21:37 PM)

greetings to all,

OP, my advice would be to spend some time being introspective, and figure out exactly *why* you think your desires are "bad", and what you seek for yourself (for me, i saw my need to be dominated as a bad thing because "society" said it was, and that my true calling was to be a slave to a man; i am happiest when i give, not take). 

Over the years, I've come to terms with the fact that I am definitely not the person my parents/society raised me to be, and that I do not conform to "general ideas".  So be it.  I am happy living my life the way I live it (and if people disapprove, that is definitely not my problem...why should I "put my life on hold" for others, just to make them happy, when I am unhappy myself?).  Life is far far too short.

I've also found that I do not conform to general "BDSM ideas".  These days, I do not believe in "contracts" or "safewords" or "rights" within my relationship.  SSC and RACK are foreign to me now.  I am happiest when I can just give fully of myself (regardless of what is asked of me) in the role that I feel nature has designated for me (that of being a woman submissive to a strong man/men).

well wishes,



Shadow-tiger -> RE: How do I satisify the beast within? (7/26/2008 8:39:06 PM)

~FR~

Some interesting chatter among the replies, as well as some interesting perspectives and advice. I have another perspective for you michelle, from someone who had his own inner beast whom he feared to ever release. This dark creature that was kept caged lest I lash out and do unspeakable things as my emotions ran wild. Sounds quite dramatic doesn't it? All those suppressed emotions bound into one entity, one gnarling gnashing beast which seeks to devour all in its path. For myself this was a big thing, something I feared to let get out of control lest someone be harmed physically, emotionally, or whatever.

The thing is a while back I did let that big dark beast out. It was with someone I loved and trusted absolutely. And when everything was said and done there was no great beast, there was only another side of myself. A side I rarely show anyone else, let alone myself. After that big release I realized that all this fear of going out of control was nonsense. I'm still the same man I was before, I simply happen to know myself that much better.

For many people it seems that the beast is a way to bind up all those forbidden and unsavory emotions. All the things we're supposedly not supposed to feel, or want to enjoy. You say that you need to subdue this beast, to lock it away lest it destroy your world. Have you asked yourself if this world you seek to protect is one you truly wish to live in like a caged animal?



subsfaith -> RE: How do I satisify the beast within? (7/27/2008 12:45:20 PM)

The short answer is grow a pair lady!

We are what we are, fight it and supress it all you want, but there will be no denying it.

I was like you once.... I fought it, hid from it, put it in the cupboard and only opened it an inch periodically to make sure it was still there, but the truth never left me.  I like being submissive to my partner.  I like having pain inflicted on me by him.  I love serving him in a multitude of ways.  That's me.

It took me literally years to come out from behind the fearful attitude that BDSM is wrong, it is dirty and depraved, morally wrong and whole host of other thoughts and emotions.  Eventually I came out of my closet and started to embrace who I am.  I started to learn about 'it' and realised that a healthy and constructive relationship can be had within the bounds of BDSM.

And even though I see nothing wrong with how I chose to live, I still keep my personal life .... personal.  So I see no need to 'out' myself to my family, my colleagues, my children, or my church, unless I find a specific personal relationship within there that I feel comfortable in doing so.   There is however, no doubt as to who is the controlling force in our relationship.  He wears the trousers, he calls the shots and makes all the decisions.  If I am asked to make a decision when I am apart from him, I tell whomever, that I will get back to them.  No secrets here.

So I am still the good and proud mother, daughter, aunt, colleague, and many other things.  The only relationship that BDSM affects is the one between my partner and myself.

Good luck, and don't be scared.

Faith



SoulPiercer -> RE: How do I satisify the beast within? (7/27/2008 12:54:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subsfaith

And even though I see nothing wrong with how I chose to live, I still keep my personal life .... personal.  So I see no need to 'out' myself to my family, my colleagues, my children, or my church, unless I find a specific personal relationship within there that I feel comfortable in doing so.   There is however, no doubt as to who is the controlling force in our relationship.  He wears the trousers, he calls the shots and makes all the decisions.  If I am asked to make a decision when I am apart from him, I tell whomever, that I will get back to them.  No secrets here.

So I am still the good and proud mother, daughter, aunt, colleague, and many other things.  The only relationship that BDSM affects is the one between my partner and myself.

Good luck, and don't be scared.

Faith



Nuff said



StormsSlave -> RE: How do I satisify the beast within? (7/27/2008 4:31:45 PM)

So, nice art.(?!)

I'm with leatherist. Sex is sex, kink is kink. Be who you are, get laid, and get over yourself.



ratio -> RE: How do I satisify the beast within? (7/27/2008 4:39:42 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: StormsSlave

So, nice art.(?!)

I'm with leatherist. Sex is sex, kink is kink. Be who you are, get laid, and get over yourself.


As a constant lurker, I have to agree that the first thing I thought was get over yourself, too :) Glad to see I wasn't the only person who thought this was completely overdramatic.



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