Coupleofwhats
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I started out in a "house" but am now an independent.
My advice would be to decide what exactly you're looking to get out of a having this as a career. Are you looking to specialize in certain arenas? How much money do you have to make in order for it to be worthwhile? How much are you willing to invest (financially and psychologically?) What are your limits?
Working in a house (sort of like having an agency) is a good way to get over the initial stage fright that often accompanies playing with unfamiliar people. It's also a good way to meet others: networking is important. Most of the more difficult play will be taught to you by other dommes that you meet along the way. Houses make your appointments (which means you don't have to answer the phone/handle your marketing. It also means that you have less say over who you see, and they take at least 50% of your earnings. They will also probably want you to sit shift at the studio for several hours a day.)
Some people remain in-house for the entirety of their careers and that works for them. Personally, I prefer to have total control and run the show myself. Do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. If you decide to go on your own, get a separate phone line for business.
I would say this: don't expect to make gobs of money. When I first started, most of what I made went right back into the business: wardrobe, advertising, an extra phone line, tools, gear, etc. I make more now, but it's a continuing process: there are always more fun toys!
Also, don't expect that your dream submissives will line up just because you go pro. In my experience (this is the NYC market), the majority of your calls at the start will be from people who aren't really kinky, but use a few buzzwords to try to get sexual services. A different person calls me everyday to ask for an hour-long ass worship session. Or a pussy worship session. Personally, I think that's best left to escorts, who charge appropriately for those activities. My advice would be to keep your day job while you domme (at least until you become a big shot), so that you never feel as though you HAVE to cater to those guys. I've seen more than one girl have to do something she didn't want to do just to make rent: not cool.
Definitely know the laws in your area. Also know the general climate of the sex industry i your area: some cities have laws on the books but rarely enforce them. Others are fanatical and one can be arrested for any little thing. The climate isn't always static.
If you answer your own phone, screen your clients. Many cities have domme blacklists (again, this is where meeting with other ladies comes in handy.) You can also ask that clients provide referrals from other ladies.
The rest is just being a normal kinky person: go to workshops and parties, hone your craft, etc.
Have fun! This is a chance to get paid to do what you love, while improving at it.
If you have any other questions, feel free to PM me.
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