TwoNYCDommes
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What is it about someone's profile page that causes you to contact them.
Is it the picture? The headline?
Do you read their profile introduction? Look at their picture? Do you read everything both interests and limits? Do you read their profile to see if the person would provide the right "kink"? Do you read their journal and what about if they post on the forums?
What is the most important to you. Picture, writings, interest or how they respond to you in your first email.
What turns you on: Just their attitude and sexual/kink interests? Do you get a feel from their profile page?
Are you attracted to the whole person or are you just interested in a couple of things in the profile? ... do you read all about them and try to understand them before you contact them first or do you go with first quick impression?
We almost never contact anyone, but I can still respond to the spirit of your question, if not the letter.
There is no one thing we focus on, but we review the entire profile (with a few exceptions noted below), along with their introductory e-mail to us, in order to (1) form a first-impression summary and (2) make a quick initial assessment of our mutual compatibility. If the two of us are not reading the profile, etc. together, and the quick initial assessment is positive, then the one reading typically e-mails her first-impression summary to the other.
When making the initial assessment, we look both at whether they seem to have qualties we value, and whether we think we meet their needs. (Between the two of us, we have a broad range of interests, but sometimes we are contacted by one-kink subs whose one kink falls on that short list that interests neither of us, or those only interested in online relationships, for example.) We also notice whether they seem capable of writing complete, grammatical sentences. In addition, we look for any interesting flavor that makes them stand out from the crowd (in either a good or bad way).
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The longer the profile is, the more likely that we may only skim it rather than reading throughly.
Regarding the Lives/Loves/Likes/Tolerates/Curious/Dislikes/Hates lists, we pay more attention to them if they are short. We pay less attention to the milder categories in general, unless the stronger categories are not used.
We look at pictures if they are there, but they don't matter terribly much in general (in part because a still photo rarely captures the person well).
We do not typically read long journal entries, or those on later pages.
We almost never look for their forum posts, although occasionally I recall reading one in the forums.
However, we quickly move beyond these things. Once they pass the initial mutual compatibility assessment, their e-mail messages (both style and content) become far more important than anything in their profile. (We also tend to discount their first message to some degree, as we understand that many of those are form letters sent without much hope of response.) And once we meet someone in person, our face-to-face interactions become paramount.
It's amusing sometimes to look back at the profiles of people with whom we've developed relationships and see how well (or poorly) they capture the person we've come to know.
< Message edited by TwoNYCDommes -- 7/28/2008 10:58:56 AM >
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