RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (Full Version)

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MidMichCowboy -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (7/30/2008 3:02:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MissMenagerie

We're only looking for people to play with (our apartment? WAY too small for a poly household =)  ) but these are the big ones for me:

Have a photo. even if it's awful or shadowy or your back turned. It shows you're willing to be you, AND be into BDSM.
Write, and spell, in a way that shows competent communication. If you can't spell very well, that's fine. 'OMG wll sum1 pls b my Dommme' is just not good.
Try to have at least one journal entry. Shows you're thinking.
Beyond that, I tend to compare my loves/hates with their loves/hates to make sure we won't implode the universe simply by meeting, and then send off a message and and sometimes an offer of friendship.
Good taste in music helps, too. =)



I too like the journal entries, I hate chat speak and the music ... YES.



goodgirl08 -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (7/30/2008 2:35:49 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: goodgirl08

Um, an approach that worked very well for me was trolling the boards and perving someone's profile until he contacted me out of interest and/or disgust (joke). Good strategy.


Yep, it was. [;)]


[&:][:D][:)]



chamberqueen -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (7/30/2008 8:55:41 PM)

When I first saw the profile of the man who is now my Master I paged past it several times.  His photo looked so stern I was just certain he must be terribly sadistic.  I finally wrote simply to ask where his city was because I hadn't heard of it before.  We got to talking back and forth and found out that we were really compatible.  We started with a friendship before we even met, and didn't make a firm decision to continue until after we realized we had a good chemistry.

I have seen some beautiful profiles and then found the people so incredibly shallow that I would swear they had someone else write their profile for them.  I think a good profile will catch someone's interest, but I would never allow that to be the only indicator of whether or not a relationship can come out of it.



badlilthang -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (8/4/2008 10:40:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

His photo looked so stern I was just certain he must be terribly sadistic.  We got to talking back and forth and found out that we were really compatible.  We started with a friendship before we even met, and didn't make a firm decision to continue until after we realized we had a good chemistry.

*Master wrote me first - and commented on the pic and my bike. Also that He very much liked my profile, and wanted to get to know me. i had 3 pictures up, 2 of them in more submissive positions - but He prefered the bike riding picture..grins..He also attached a painted picture of Himself, and like you, chamberqueen - chuckles - i thought this guy looked scary! We mailed back and forth - i read His profile, as He read my profile and journal, and we found the connection pretty quickly. One day He just said He had decided He was going to own me - and that was it. Why i kept in touch was because of His total honesty. He shared personal things before i did, and left it all up to me. Anything i ask - He answers - and i have not "caught" Him in a lie so far. So - even though the painting was a bit on the scary side - profile and the man behind it turned out to be pretty amazing. It also helps that people actually write the entire word and not -  how r u. Words are all we have to begin with, they have to trigger something in me - challenge me a bit, if you will...to get my attention.



vield -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (8/4/2008 11:14:39 AM)

I tend to have no expectations from an on-line site as far as making actual connections. Yes it has happened and yes some have been good, but long ago I found that what I like best is sending a reasonable message to someone whose own message struck a spark of interest for me. I have found some good friends this way. I have also been able to do a good deal of outreach and to help people find groups in their area.
I find myself answering an ad or responding to a post if it seems like a genuine question the person seeks input about. It does not matter if they are in my area or have interests that might cause me to look at them as a potential partner, if they are interesting I am OK to talk to them.
I am pretty fortunate. I know what I am doing, I have a great partner who shares many of my interests, and I have a large number of very interesting friends around North America and here in the Midwest USA. I go to the various events I can, I am asked to do presentations at meetings and events, and I keep trying to help folks keep safe and still keep open minds.



Prinsexx -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (8/4/2008 2:51:37 PM)

i got chosen......and then heaven and hell all in about three weeks.
Thank you for everything and all your support Cowboy.........



christine1 -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (8/4/2008 2:57:43 PM)

i can talk to a hundred people and if i'm lucky, i'll click with one of them...i choose the one i click with.



MidMichCowboy -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (8/4/2008 2:59:47 PM)

Just remember Prinsexx
If we don't risk, we are not alive.
If we don't dare, we will never arrive.
If we don't open our hearts, they will turn to stone.
If we don't risk love, we will die all alone.



subsong -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (8/4/2008 5:04:48 PM)

     Sometimes it's a combination of seeing a photo , and finding real substance in what someone has written .  Because I seek a whole relationship - I would tend to respond to those who mention the same goal .
 
  But the main draw for me , is content and how they say it .  I so appreciate good, imaginative writing , and have met some people sight unseen based on only that - though I do also like to speak abit on the phone before a face to face.
 
   But words - they are my initial lure !  



littlewonder -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (8/4/2008 5:17:30 PM)

I want the entire package so I look at everything the person has on their profile.

I look at their pic. Are they handsome? Do I find them physically attractive?

I read their profile word for word and I don't read into what's there. I take it for what it says and means and decide if they would fit in my life and would I fit in theirs. Do I qualify? Do they qualify?

I read their forum posts. I want to get to know as much about the person as is humanly possible. The more I know the better I can decide.

I read their interests and limits. If they are into something that I find is something you won't ever get me to do in this lifetime or any other than there's no reason for me to go any further. It's just not happening..ever.

Their journal entries give me a glimpse into their everyday lives and their emotions. I find it's a great tool into their thought processes.

The more the person has to offer for me to know about them the better. Knowledge is never a bad thing.



MercTech -> RE: What causes you to pick "that" Dom, Domme, Sub, Slave or Swithch? (8/4/2008 6:29:01 PM)

I'm here for interesting conversation.  If a profile has someting interesting, I'll converse.

Very occasionally, serendipity strikes and you run across a "keeper"... someone you want to stay in touch with and keep part of your life.

Stefan



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