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Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/27/2008 8:07:54 PM   
michelle1227


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Status: offline 		Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master.

Were you punished and if so how

M
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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/27/2008 9:13:49 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		Sugar you need to slow down a bit!  You're all over the board asking every kind of question under the sun, and if you were a guy, I guarantee you that you'd be labeled a horny net guy looking for wanking material.


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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/27/2008 9:29:40 PM   
clearlightblack


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Status: offline 		hmmm...perhaps I shouldn't be indulging her.....

but I remember a time when I was feeling very talkative....and Daddy said stop you are giving me a headache and then.......well i just kept on talking......

well needless to say Daddy thought it would be fitting that I "enjoy" some time with a ball gag in my mouth.....and then when my mouth got tired.....he then placed a thick leather gag over my mouth.......

punishment maybe.......worthy training exercise........for sure!

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/28/2008 5:50:27 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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this wasn't an act of disobedience however i was punished after telling Daddy i went to a known biker/leather bar with a band. He was upset that i did a public spanking and didn't take into account my safety in a place like that.  i received a very long lecture and no communication from Him for 24hrs. you might think it's easy but it was hard to handle.

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/28/2008 8:09:45 AM   
Donaldnola


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Status: offline 		Is this for real or you looking for things for yourself or would it be for a book your writin on the lifestyle. Your loaded with questions and some are just worded differnt then others.Everyone has diffrent styles and do things a lot more diffrent then others. I have a sub thats a 24 hour r/l . We or friends and family with other houses and do diffrent things some are the same but for the most part diffrent

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/28/2008 1:08:28 PM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		I don't punish mine for direct disobedience.  She is very committed to her role as slave.  If I gave her a command which she felt compelled to reject out of hand that's my tip-off that something is badly wrong, either with the command or our M/s dynamic.  Punishment would amost certainly only make the problem worse.  When I do punish her, it is not pain-based as that would not likely achieve the behavioral changes I want given her personality makeup.  The last time, I put her in the bathroom, kneeling, no lights for enough time for her to work through several different stages of emotions.  When I came to get her, we talked about how she had wronged me.  That was plenty punishment enough.  I doubt I'll see a repeat of that particular type of behavior any time soon.

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/28/2008 2:35:11 PM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		Has anyone mentioned the search function here?  You should probably use it -- I'm sure you'd find lots of different perspectives on several of the subjects you're interested in.

I don't know where you live, but you might also want to find some people in your area and attend some meetings, munches and/or workshops.. they might be helpful.



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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/28/2008 3:21:17 PM   
michelle1227


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Status: offline 		Sorry Angel

There is just so much I want to learn.
I have a defiant streak that pops up for no reason and I want to know if that would get me in trouble.

M

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/28/2008 4:38:53 PM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		Don't be sorry Michelle.  Last I checked, the limits on posting are imposed by the system, not by random readers who, for whatever reasons, feel like you're being to prolific. 

If you have a "defiant" streak, that may or may not be an issue.  Some Doms seem to like difficult subs and the punishmen that ensues from such behavior.  Others (such as myself) do not.  Really though, to my knowledge, pretty much all humans have a "defiant streak".  You can't really look at your behavior outside of a specific relationship then extrapolate that into the relationship.  I, for instance, probably would not choose to be the Dom again if my marriage were to end for some reason.  That behavior is specific to this relationship.

Really though, if you think about it, "defiance" is kind of the exact opposite of submission.  If a sub of mine were routinely being defiant, I would have to ask some questions about what is going wrong.  It could be a bad Dom.  It could be a mis-match between the Dom and sub.  And it could be someone who for whom submission isn't right.  Heck, it could probably be a lot of other things too.  But if it came up a lot with mine, I'd be wanting to know why.  If it only came up occasionally, I'd call that "normal human behavior" and deal with it as it happened, but otherwise not make too much of it.

I hope that helps.  Yes, as a sub, you're allowed to also be human with all the normal parts of human psych profiles in place.

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/28/2008 5:40:02 PM   
mjsinsolentone


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Status: offline 		Michelle,
Maybe it is just me but are these not answers you should be getting from your Dominant?

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/28/2008 5:50:51 PM   
smartalex


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Status: offline 		I appreciate that you want to learn. My advice (as someone fairly new to wiitwd) is to scroll through all of the forums and read anything that catch your attention. Even if it's the Mistress forum, there are things that you can learn. Read, read, read. Reading the way someone else phrases a question can help you phrase yours in less of a "I'm writing a novel/term paper/article" way. Reading the tangential discussions can give you room to think & explore.

In general, there's no right or wrong way to do this, just as there is no way to do other relationships. That's for you & the other (or others) to work out. Defiant subs can be topping from bottom, can be trying to get attention by being a brat, or could be just the thing that a particular partner is looking for.

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/28/2008 7:22:10 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: michelle1227

Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master.

Were you punished and if so how

M



I can't think of any outright disobeying. I've screwed up and bought the wrong stuff while shopping for food. When that happened, I was just told that if I did it again it would be all I ate until it was gone.

BTW, I would also suggest using the search feature since you can get a lot of useful information that way.

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/29/2008 7:49:14 AM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		~smiling~ It's all very interesting and exciting, isn't it? While the search function is helpful, I see no reason for you to not ask the questions you want to ask (if you can stand the somewhat irritable replies you may get). Enjoy yourself. We were all new once.

The most recent defiance was masturbating and having an orgasm without permission. It was so quick (it's been a long time since I had sex) and thus so surprising, I thought it would be a fun thing to share. Well. ~ahem~ Not a good idea at all. It was my fault - I disobeyed one of the very few long-term, long-standing orders he gave me. My punishment was no contact, no phone calls, no visiting, no e-mail, no nothing, for a few days. I could feel his anger seething at me, I knew I was the cause of it, willfully disobeying one of the very few orders I have ... so ... ow. I deserved it.

Fortunately, he knows me well, knows my tendency to react negatively and destructively to abandonment, and assured me that he was not abandoning me, but that couldn't think of a better way to express his displeasure since it is the one thing I hate and would thus be something I remembered, and I would hear from him when HE initiated contact again, not when I decided it was enough. I was also to continue with a particular nightly ritual he initiated, and I could either call and leave a short message or send him a brief e-mail of how I was feeling.

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/29/2008 10:05:42 AM   
sondraD


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Status: offline 		Hi michelle,

Don't sweat it and ask as many questions as you want.  New here myself, but actually somewhat suprised that people don't want someone to ask questions on a discussion board.  Don't feel bullied..just ask away and learn what you can.

Disobeying is not an option with my Master.  If I were to disobey, He simply walks out of the room until I am ready to obey.  The punishment is the seperation from him, it gives me time to think about why I disobeyed and allows me time to correct that disobedience and ask for forgiveness.

That does not work for everyone, but it works for us.

Good luck in your learning.
sondra

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/29/2008 12:08:41 PM   
FlamingRedhead


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Status: offline 		I was told to make a phone call on Monday to follow up on some financial papers which were supposed to have been mailed on Friday.  I thought it was silly to call on Monday since it would take 3-5 days to receive them, so I didn't do it.  I meant to give it 3 business days and then call.  However, during the week, I just flat out forgot all about it.  Daddy asked me about it on Thursday, and I admitted that I'd forgotten to do it.  I didn't receive the papers on Friday before I left to visit him.
 
When I got down there, we exchanged pleasantries and took my luggage into his bedroom.  He began unbuttoning my capri pants and pulling them down.  He bent me over the foot of the bed where toys were already laid out.  I was getting all excited until he asked, "Do you remember me telling you to make a phone call for me on Monday?"  I stammered as I tried to make excuses.  "Well....yes, Daddy, I do...but...um.....I forgot."  He then suggested that maybe I needed something to help me remember and proceeded to give me a spanking.  Now, I like erotic spankings, but this one was done so hard and so fast that I couldn't possibly call it enjoyable.  Neither did he stop when I squirmed around trying to avoid the blows and cried out for mercy.  He just held me down and continued until I was in tears as well as hot and clammy from the pain.  When he stopped, I lay bent over the bed where he left me, sniffling, while he lectured me on how I'd disappointed him and how that made him feel and how I'd feel if he "forgot" to do something for me, etc.  When he was done, I got up to "fix" myself for dinner and ended up hugging his neck and crying on his shoulder while I said I was sorry.  He stroked my hair and wiped my tears while assuring me that everything was okay and that he still loved me.
 
For once, I wasn't just sorry that I'd been caught.  I actually was sorry.  Daddy was pleased with my reaction which, to my suprise, wasn't my typical sullen poutiness.  It was my first and only punishment from him so far, and I haven't been eager to repeat it.
 
With a previous dominant type, lectures made me feel bad but seldom ever apologetic, and spankings were never pushed past enjoyable.  I usually ended up secretly smirking about it later and feeling as if I'd gotten off too lightly which, instead of making me happy, only caused me to lose some respect for the D-type.  In fact, I used to try to provoke him to see if he ever would go any further, and I also did it because spankings are fun.
 
I can't imagine provoking Daddy since I now know that he has no qualms about punishing me in such a way as to be totally different from play and doesn't resort to ignoring me rather than dealing with the issue.  It has increased my trust and respect for him, and I won't soon be "forgetting" to do as he asks.

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/29/2008 7:18:04 PM   
Zechriel


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Status: offline 		Good evening!
Disobeyed..well I have not but boy do I push it sometimes!! We made out a list of punishments for me-maybe that's why I have not crossed the line. Things like wearing pants for 3 days, drinking water for 3 days(no soda), no rubbing Dddy's tummy for a week. Things that would really really hurt! 
  There was one thing that came very close but I do not t hink that Daddy could have pulled it off..or mybe he did. He has many friends in the PD and used to be part time-he still listens to his scanner!! I hate wearing seat belts, never have, thought I never would. Growing up I was not made to. So Daddy always told me to buckle up when leaving, and I was all "no I hate it" and he would just shake his head. Well one day I left and I picked up my kids from Martial Arts.They had theirs on as I always insist they do but I did not. Well, right into my town the PD blocked off the main road and was doing a seat belt check to justify some new funds from the state capital. OH MY GOSH!!! I put it on so quick. I called Daddy that night and asked if he did it. He just said, "Do you think I have that power to do that?" and I said "Yes, cause you know everyone here and there." and he laughed and said  "OK baby". Did he do it? Did he suggest it?I still do not know. Why that day of all days when mostly I stay home? But ever since that day 2 months ago, I have worn a seat belt. Punishment? Possibly.
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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/30/2008 8:32:58 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		The only time i disobeyed Master was early on in our relationship.  He wanted to read something on my computer and i siad you can't read that is is personal (remember i said very early in our relationship)  We have moved past that point now.  I deleted what he wanted to read.  Needless to say he was not pleased with my actions, and i recieved my first and only punishment,  It was a spanking and i am nor one who is into pain.  When i started sobing he stopped, and knew i learned my lesson.  Now i hide nothing from him.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/31/2008 10:39:07 AM   
Shawn1066


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Status: offline 		We've been together near a year now, and I have yet to disobey my Owner or to earn a punishment.  She has had to correct me verbally from time to time, but that's nothing serious...it's something along the lines of, "Fox, watch what you're doing" or "Fox, don't forget you need to _____"

Stuff like that.  She only believes in punishment when it's earned, and I really don't want to ever earn one.

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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/31/2008 10:39:16 PM   
scarlettjinx


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Status: offline 		I called an old friend after Papa had told me not to. This person caused me alot of stress while I was pregnant, to the point that I was hospitalized for a week for losing almost twenty pounds in 9 days. This person was supposed to be my best friend, and completly wrecked our relationship. I can't even say I was just hurt. It felt as though my heart had been ripped out of my chest, and the mention of this person made me break into sobs.
After getting out of the hospital, Papa said I was no longer allowed to call this person. After I recieved a nasty email from him, I disobeyed and and called to ask him what his problem was. He then went on to say horrible things to me that left brokenhearted. I was so upset that Papa ended up coming home from work. papa never physically punished me, but I did get a lecture on how I needed to listen to him and he forbade me to call him so I wouldn't get hurt like that. I realised he gave me that rule *gasp* for my own good.

Interesting side note, The 'friend' that put me through all this hell wrote to me six weeks ago to tell me that he missed my friendship and was sorry that he had screwed it up and hoped I could find it in my heart to still let him be my sons godfather. This time I obeyed Papa. who needs friends like that?


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RE: Tell me about a time you disobeyed your Master - 7/31/2008 11:56:06 PM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Is anyone besides me thinking... WANK FODDER!!!!!!!

Yeah... "Michelle" who joined... a week and a half ago... I'm gonna tell you all about it... Come on...

And by the way, why are you bossing us around?  I'll tell you...

I rolled my eyes at a fool once... My Master said, "good girl."

How's that?

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