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livvy252003 -> I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 10:42:43 AM)

Hi, im new to posting and asking advice but here goes..I met this dom, and we really clicked but something happened and i am heartbroken now because he seems so far away and distant..is it a game or a test to see how patient and loyal i really am. Confused and broken..and not wanting another should he decide he still wants me, i have no idea how to procede with my life. I have subs of my own, i am a switch. But this has hurt me way more than anything ever. I weep for what couldve have been, any ideas.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 10:45:40 AM)

This "something happened" leaves a huge hole. I really can't say whether he's just being a dork loser or whether he's reacting appropriately to something you very wrong that you did.

However, we all know that if one person wants to end the relationship, then it ends and that hanging on never brings fulfillment.



Marquisd -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 11:16:21 AM)


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ORIGINAL: livvy252003

Hi, im new to posting and asking advice but here goes..I met this dom, and we really clicked but something happened


If something happened it needs to be communicated how you feel, any regrets and solutions to not have it happen in the future. Without details a guess is the best that can be offered.

When you do communicate be clear and pecise so that there is no mis-communication

good luck with your situation

cheers

Marquisd



obis -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 11:38:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

This "something happened" leaves a huge hole.


Okay, I met a great girl, something happened, and now I'm covered in blood and hiding in Mexico. Any advice? [:D]



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 11:49:16 AM)


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ORIGINAL: obis
Okay, I met a great girl, something happened, and now I'm covered in blood and hiding in Mexico. Any advice? [:D]

Sell the rights to CBS :)



candystripper -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 12:37:24 PM)

MARRIED. He's not coming back.

candystripper



windchymes -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 1:14:26 PM)



Okay, I met a great girl, something happened, and now I'm covered in blood and hiding in Mexico. Any advice? [:D]
[/quote]

Don't drink the water.

chymes



daredevil865 -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 4:10:55 PM)

This is my first post on collarme so be kind...."but maybe just maybe He is not into you"



wipmebeetme100 -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 7:18:31 PM)

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Hi, im new to posting and asking advice but here goes..I met this dom, and we really clicked but something happened and i am heartbroken now because he seems so far away and distant..is it a game or a test to see how patient and loyal i really am.


Hi livvy,
This is so similiar to something that i experienced. I started communicating with a Dom from CM right after i joined. In a few months it advanced from messages to e-mails to phone calls. He purchased a sound card and webcam for my computer and sent them to me. I was enjoying the communication and friendship and was looking forward to meeting him in the future. I guess you could say that i got very accustomed to the couple of times a day communication. Just recently things changed. I didn't hear from him with the same frequency as before. This went on for about a week and a half, and finally i told him i noticed a change in communication and asked him if he was feeling differently in that time. It took some "pulling" to get him to talk about it, but what i did find out was that he was having a bit of difficulty with the fact that i am currently involved with others. He said he was acting in a manner to protect his feelings. My involvement with others is something that i made sure he knew of from the beginning, and it was nothing that was going to change any time in the near future. I do admire him tremendously for his ability to confront the issue and discuss it with me. By communicating we were able to determine what we wanted to happen going forward. Neither one of us wanted to give up on the relationship that one day might be, we are just going to take it one day at a time and see what results.
I can't stress the importance of communication...on both ends. Most people take communication for granted, but it is really something that needs to be focused on, skills developed, etc. to be effective.
My advice to you would be to attempt to communicate with him how you are feeling and why...it might help and at least if nothing else provide you with the answers you need.

Good Luck,
cathy



Kyami -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 7:22:54 PM)


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ORIGINAL: candystripper

MARRIED. He's not coming back.

candystripper


I would have to agree with this here.



OscarHargraves -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 7:24:15 PM)

Chin up, eyes forward and smile. He wasn't good enough for you anyway. Find another one.



Synocense -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/16/2005 10:06:08 PM)

Bottom line -- *you* need to decide how important he is to you and if *you* are willing to wait until you know what is going on for sure... expect and accept the pain, frustration and anger that will come in the meantime.

wishing you the best,

Syn



KatyLied -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/17/2005 3:29:30 AM)

Some people who are afraid of confrontation will become distant, they can't face things, I guess it's ingrained in them to hide and hope that the situation will go away. This may be what you are experiencing. If so, I'm sorry.



Dracironsgirl -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/21/2005 10:13:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: livvy252003

Hi, im new to posting and asking advice but here goes..I met this dom, and we really clicked but something happened and i am heartbroken now because he seems so far away and distant..is it a game or a test to see how patient and loyal i really am. Confused and broken..and not wanting another should he decide he still wants me, i have no idea how to procede with my life. I have subs of my own, i am a switch. But this has hurt me way more than anything ever. I weep for what couldve have been, any ideas.

i'm sorry that you are hurting like you are, but my only suggestion here would be to talk to Him about your concerns, doing nothing but waiting could get you a whole lot of nothing in the emd ....you never know unless you try. corney but my thinking. i hope this finds you with some peace of mind.
~kristin



SirButchTX -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/22/2005 12:50:54 AM)

Looking closely at your post I have a question. Is it a game or a test to see how patient and loyal you really are? You stated that you have your own subs, have YOU ever done something like that?
Here you say you have subs of your own....how does he feel about that? Have you discussed it? Is he "really" ok with you being a switch? Does he perhaps have some insecurity, a fear of losing you to one of your subs?...These are all valid questions that you might want to ask him. I will tell you that personally, I tried a relationship with a switch and it just did not work. I can't change my persona, and when my partner did...friction happened and not in a good way.

SirButchTX.
quote:

ORIGINAL: livvy252003

Hi, im new to posting and asking advice but here goes..I met this dom, and we really clicked but something happened and i am heartbroken now because he seems so far away and distant..is it a game or a test to see how patient and loyal i really am. Confused and broken..and not wanting another should he decide he still wants me, i have no idea how to procede with my life. I have subs of my own, i am a switch. But this has hurt me way more than anything ever. I weep for what couldve have been, any ideas.




Webmaster60 -> RE: I met this Dom.. (11/22/2005 7:46:17 AM)

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I met this dom, and we really clicked but something happened and i am heartbroken now because he seems so far away and distant..is it a game or a test to see how patient and loyal i really am


Aside from the aforementioned holes..
There are several possibilities, many already stated.. Other possibilities are:
The conquest is over, he topped the top.. he's done
The challenge was in the capture not in the keep
You pissed him off or the "click" was one sided.

Bottom line? Where there is one, there's more.. simply ask him WTF?
If he's worth his salt, you'll get an answer.. if not, screw em



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