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whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 8:22:05 AM   
femalesub41


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Status: offline 		Is there something in my profile that is hurting my search. If You think there is can You please tell me why.
Thank You for Your time.
donna
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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 8:25:04 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		Don't know - but your ad campaign to get people to view it has been done before with varying degrees of 'success'. 

Good luck!

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 8:26:12 AM   
SingleRarity


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Status: offline 		Do you realize that you say "i" almost thirty times.  Maybe including what you have to offer others in terms of skills, hobbies, and interests might be beneficial. 

Good Luck,

Daddy's Ballerina "e"

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 8:29:55 AM   
camille65


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From: Austin Texas
Status: offline 		A couple of things popped out at me. The following just give me a bad feel, 'is it too much to ask for' is repeated and sounds petulant to me and the 'total responsibility' seems more like something that is worked up to, not forced from the beginning.

The journal entries, the last 2 are negative. I see a lot of people getting turned off by negative journal entries because it is taken as representative of the profilers personality.

I also suggest deleting a whole bunch of your likes and dislikes, the list is too long. I would take only those that I felt strongest about, you have what looks like about 40 items under 'Likes' so try dropping it to just the ones that really mean something to you.
'If You aren't looking for total responsibility for a slave than i am not the girl for You.'
Is that to much to ask for?



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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 8:31:24 AM   
femalesub41


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Status: offline 		What do you mean before. Also does it seem like i am just doing it to get people to look at it because that was not my intent.

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 8:33:36 AM   
MissSCD


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Status: offline 		I agree with the others.   One thing I would change right off is that picture.  It is a nice picture, but too conservative to find a "Master". The next thing you use commas instead of periods, and use the all about me word I over and over. The final clue is you wish to make it real and you think you had a Master.

You have a lot to learn and need a Mentor first.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 8:37:44 AM   
camille65


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quote:

ORIGINAL: femalesub41

What do you mean before. Also does it seem like i am just doing it to get people to look at it because that was not my intent.


Many people ask this question simply to get others to look at their profile.

It didn't seem that way to me, but a lot of used it as an attention getting technique *shrug*.


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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 8:39:39 AM   
angelwithhonor


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Status: offline 		....I agree with everyone else on the profile, being said its all about me. Seems to be a bit demanding, and saying the responsiblity of a Master is xyz. He already knows that His job, over His girl. And i kinda think it needs to be narrowed down a bit. Your desires and wants are fine, thats what you should know. But sometimes they come out looking like a grocery list. I love the pic though, it shows how lovely your eyes are and shows the rest of your body. good luck with your search. its a long process and lots of getting to know ppl on here.

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 8:42:30 AM   
subeos


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Status: offline 		This is only my opinion, but you sound just a little desperate. Why not share yourself with people. Not just "i want." i hope you get lots of glances because i think that is what you "wanted."

slave eos

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 8:43:38 AM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: femalesub41

Is there something in my profile that is hurting my search. If You think there is can You please tell me why.
Thank You for Your time.
donna


1) you use "i want" too much
2) you say "is that too much to ask" too much...it obviously is if you are not getting interested inqueries
3)"submitting to a certain look" knocks you right out of the "slave" catagory because you now have "conditions"
4) negativity in journal is never good
 
Men here are either looking for sex or a symbiotic relationship. They are no different than their vanilla counterparts - just their kink is different. So make yourself appealing to them - just saying you are slave or sub is not enough when there is so many women to choose from~
just my
 


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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 9:03:50 AM   
seababy


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Status: offline 		This is probably abit cheeky of me as my profile sucks and I have no pic up. Guess Id try harder if I was currently looking.
However you are looking so I hope you don't mind me posting my view.

Lighten up!!!!!!!!
I know what you are feeling is very intense. However extreme angst isn't necessarily attractive.
I remember when the light bulb went on for me and I figured I was submissive. I was so HORNY and intense, and it was so much more than anyone else must be feeling surely and I bet I was the very deepest submissive maybe even a slave EVER!
And oh my gawd if some great big bully Dom didn't grab me by the hair and make me lick his/her boots right NOW I was going to DIE!!!
...Luckily I calmed down slightly.

Beware poetical expressions. I cant stress this enough. I have seen so much BDSM slavegirl poetry that makes me cringe from its triteness.

Rule number one before writing your post go off and masturbate and take the edge off please. (Im serious)
Now done that? Good!
Now delete everything you wrote.
Just write as if you were speaking to a friend (a kinky one who wont have a heart attack) about the kind of guy you would be attracted to and some stuff about you.
Let your actual personality come out.
If you want someone in your life, there are lots of great guys out there, but the great ones will want to know about you as a person not just how intensely you need to be Dominated and laid. Just mentioning something once in your post is enough, no need to belabor anything.
Stick around make some friends.
Welcome to CM






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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 9:34:06 AM   
FlamingRedhead


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From: Georgia
Status: offline 		I like the photo, and I'm not sure what MissSCD meant by inferring it's too conservative to find a master.  Your profile pic is supposed to be a head shot which is exactly what you have.  However, as far as the "about me" section of your profile, it doesn't really describe anything specific, either about yourself or what you're looking for.  You're basically just stating what everyone in the lifestyle already knows and wants.  This is where you're supposed to describe what kind of person you are and what kind of person you enjoy being with.  We can all tell you're a slave who's looking for a master on the left-hand side of the page.  Also, I'm guilty of posting rants in my journal on occasion, but I always delete them after I've cooled off.  No matter how well-written your profile is, though, you'll still have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince.

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 9:40:13 AM   
natasha66


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Don't know - but your ad campaign to get people to view it has been done before with varying degrees of 'success'. 

Good luck!


I was thinking the same thing......

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/28/2008 10:07:54 AM   
SteelofUtah


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From: St George Utah
Status: offline 		Well I went to your profile to see what I thought.

I review LOTS of profiles I like to People watch with a little extra because often in thier profiles people tell you what they think of themselves.

I got the distinct impression that you think you are better than most other submissives and too good for many Dominants.

You say you have respect for Masters and what they do and yet at the end you state that how they look is way more important than how good they are at what they do. This was a MAJOR turn off to me and so that you know if I were looking and I came across that no matter how positive I thought the rest of your profile way that would be an Auto-Kill, I would be instantly turned off by that.

Your Profile comes off as needy and at times parasitic, I got the feeling that if I were to be interested in you that from the very beginning you would expect a lot from me, and not be willing to give a lot in exchange, it seems from what you wrote that you believe that your submission is the golden goose and that a Master should be willing to forefit his life to posess it.

And although you don't come right out and say it I get the distinct impression that you expect your Master to support you financially.

The Journal was off putting, you insult MANY people in it and I don't even think you know you have done it. Long Distance might not be your thing but I know many people who effectivly do it and in a way that at times even I envy thier dedication.

And finally you mention Housework as a Hard Limit. If you are serious then instantly you cut yourself off from nearly 80% of all the Doms I know as you would be expected to maintain thier home. If it was a Joke, I don't Joke about hard limits and would not find it funny I would take it as someone who thinks Hard Limits are something to joke about.

All things considered I am sure you did not mean to come off the way you did to me and then again maybe I am just not the Dominant you seek which is also very likely. However I will tell you this much Most of what you have in your profile will come across as questionable to most of the people I know.

Also you mention that you want Lifestyle as if it is a Particular WAY of living. When the term Lifestyle is used it usually is in reference to being involved in BDSM in just about any way one can. If you mean you want a Total Power Exchange then you may want to start using TPE or 24/7 because just calling it Lifestyle leads me to believe you don't know much about the lifestyle.

Hope this helps you some.

Steel

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/30/2008 5:08:33 PM   
femalesub41


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Status: offline 		i redid my profile. Thank you for all your help.

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/30/2008 5:13:54 PM   
camille65


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From: Austin Texas
Status: offline 		I see a great improvement in it and I wish you luck! Sometimes it requires a lot of patience, posting in the forums will help make you known on the site and you may want to think about local activities to join in on.

The last line made me laugh, it really has more personality showing than the first profile.


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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/30/2008 5:39:02 PM   
femalesub41


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Status: offline 		Thank you very much.

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 7/30/2008 6:09:00 PM   
smartalex


Posts: 50
Joined: 5/29/2008
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

I got the distinct impression that you think you are better than most other submissives and too good for many Dominants.


Oh, mercy, the smart alek comments that are running through my head right now. . .because (sad to say) I do think I'm better than most & too good for many. But just when I've convinced myself, reality comes knocking with the clue stick.

ETA: That last line made me laugh as well.


< Message edited by smartalex -- 7/30/2008 6:10:30 PM >

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 8/2/2008 10:09:14 AM   
Vicariously


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Status: offline 		Hey there, this is my first forum post. I'm not sure what you had before, however I do like the way your profile reads currently. I think the bit about the remote was a nice touch; it gave me a good laugh.Welcome to CM! 

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RE: whats wrong with my profile - 8/2/2008 10:30:45 AM   
SteelofUtah


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From: St George Utah
Status: offline 		Excelent improvement.

HOWEVER,

Now I have lost the YOU part of the equasion.

I know that I am giving what appears to be mixed signals in this. I like how you did away with the negativity however you also did away with the things that were important to you. I think you should make a second section on things that matter to you. Not things you HAVE TO HAVE OR HIT THE ROAD JACK but Things that matter to you so that your Sir will at least have the information that he needs to determine if he can actually live up to the pedastal you wish to have him on.

And The Remote was the smartest thing I ever saw in a Profile. The TV remote is the ultimate surrender because as you may well know Guys do not Care what is on TV they only care about what ELSE is on TV.

Andi is learning to live with my OCD when it comes to the TV however now she says she at least knows a third of three different shows that were on during any time slot.

Steel

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