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ElanSubdued -> RE: whats wrong with my profile (8/4/2008 2:45:16 PM)
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femalesub41,
I'm reading your updated profile. (Note, I didn't get to see your previous text before you changed it.) What strikes me about your current profile is four things:
1.) It's all about what your master may want.
2.) There isn't much about you or what you want.
3.) By using list form instead of paragraphs, you don't show your ability to express yourself.
4.) For my taste, it's a little too one-sided, potentially fantasy oriented.
You did ask for advice so here goes. Personally, were this me, I'd scrub the entire profile and start again. It's not that there is anything astoundingly wrong with your approach. Rather, I think you could describe yourself in a way that makes you seem like a more balanced, well-rounded, desirable person thereby making yourself much more attractive to potential dominants.
The BDSM stuff (being available for his use, fitting into his vanilla life, obedience, respecting him, worshiping him, etc.), in my opinion, doesn't need to be explicitly stated. These are behaviors a dominant would expect of their partner so you're not saying anything by listing these. I think you'd do better by describing yourself as an interesting, intelligent, creative woman. With this in mind, I suggest adding some vanilla things to your profile. Your interests. Places you've been. Future goals. And other things that make you the unique person you are. Like others, I love your "remote control" reference. :-) This shows you have sense of humour. Many women on here are offering themselves up for "his" use so this is a given. It's your other attributes that set you apart. If you want to add a bit of BDSM, sure, put a bit of this in, but I suggest keeping at least a 50/50 (vanilla to BDSM balance), if not a balance more weighted towards the vanilla side of things. Remember that at the outset, a smidgeon of kink is much more enticing and sexy than having the whole thing in your face. The art of flirting is a subtle art indeed. :-)
Afterthought: a personal preference but one that many share, I'd write in proper English. Drop the lower case "i", upper case "Him", and other writing styles that signify BDSM protocols. Once you've made a connection with a dominant, he will let you know what his preferences are, which may well be proper English anyway. Also, you can follow your dominant's lead in an organic way. Thus, if your dominant always writes himself as "He" and you as "she", then you might follow his example. By starting off with accepted, vanilla, proper English, you give your dominant the opportunity to mark, shape, and take ownership of you rather than you assuming (perhaps incorrectly) what he likes. And then, of course, once you're courting there is the golden rule: if in doubt, ask your dominant what he likes!
Elan.
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