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RE: Dominant wishes. - 7/31/2008 10:15:21 AM

ThundersCry

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I am thjinking this might be an easy one to guess...

He wants taken with a strap on....

If so...

So what!

Spit it out...what is it...not like its going to make you look silly...its only a message board...

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 7/31/2008 11:18:29 AM

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snonymous information. Thanks Red. I may be able to use that to entice one of the women on here. MsStarlett how would you like me to give you some snonymous information (wink)

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 7/31/2008 11:44:23 AM

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The idea doesn't creep me out or anything like that. But it does not get my sub juices flowing at all. In fact it does just the opposite. But sadly it seems extremely important to him.

if it is SO important to Him, why are you questioning it at all? do it and think about how much it will satisfy and please Him.

i would not care if it did not get my juices flowing - that is NOT what i live for and i actually believe it is quite selfish of me when i do things just for my needs. think of His needs first and do it.

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 7/31/2008 3:56:58 PM

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MsStarlett how would you like me to give you some snonymous information (wink)

Oh Bay-Bay! I love it when you talk dirty.

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 7/31/2008 5:00:24 PM

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Hell just say it..I bet we have heard it befor...lol..I mean take a look around here for gods sake!!!! What does the guy want ?

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 7/31/2008 5:03:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist
So they do tend to gravitate towards those they think might be naive enough to be manipulated into meeting those fetish desires-especially when they are seen as young and gullible.

Yup yup...it is very interesting to observe the Fem Domme/male sub courting process. My alpha slave is a switch and pro Domme, so I have been able to watch her interactions with the men who pursue her first hand. The men tend to be much more aggressive in stating their demands than most of the female submissives I have dealt with...they also are much more willing to take the lead in the courtship, even when they are supposed to be the ones following. On top of that, they are soooo much less likely to actually show up for first time meetings than submissive women, at least in my experience.

Basically, men are crap and I have no idea how you ladies put up with us...

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 7/31/2008 7:24:26 PM

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Hello!
I love your screen name by the way.
I read your journal, I am guessing it is the #2 activity?
IF that is the case, and he wants it, why not?

IF it is not activity #2 in your journal.....PLEASE
tell us what it is?
We need to know the activity in order to give better advice.

If it IS #2 it could even be that he wants this because it is a limit for you, and he wants to push it. That isnt an unusual fetish maybe you need to be a bit more open minded?

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/2/2008 8:52:56 PM

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For a Sub to be real,not a fake.................G

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/3/2008 7:39:48 AM

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i read your profile - and i am taking a wild guess here, too..about what He wants you to do.

Well...first of all - you are very young - and to want a Master/Dom your own age may be understandable - but also remember - with age comes experience. Having an older Mentor might not be so bad, if He is a good Mentor - teaching you - having time to discuss and explain things. It does not even be sex/playing involved. Some Doms simply enjoy mentoring submissives. Being a teacher, so to speak.

Also - it is not all about "you" in a D/s relationship. Discussing hard limits and such i guess already has been done? Some limits we will move as time go by - some limits stay hard limits. If this thing He asks of you is one of your hard limits - He is not listening to you or respect your boundries. If this thing is a "i might do it" limit - He may push the issue a bit more - and another thought from me is - if you know this is a huge turn on for Him, and gives Him pleasure - why concentrate only on you? It is not something that will hurt you or damage you, and it is not dangerous, either. Being a submissive does not mean you get to chose all the fun things you love, and ignore His needs and wants. i belonged to another Master for years - and He pushed me hard. i did things i really did not enjoy personally or got turned on by - but i did them for Him...and i found tremendeous pleasure in that...and was very proud when it was done, and i got Masters praise...

i guess all i can add is you have to find One who is right for you - but if you want to control the relationship - you might be of a more dominant nature - or simply into kinky sex...*smiles*...

i wish you luck in your search for the right O/one..~s~

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/3/2008 9:24:19 AM

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Intent, not the activity, determines dominance

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/3/2008 9:31:45 AM

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Just do him with the damn strap on. Men love that prostate massage stuff.

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/3/2008 9:36:39 AM

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Just do him with the damn strap on. Men love that prostate massage stuff.

Just try and not refer to him as your little bitch while you are doing him..:)

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/3/2008 9:43:25 AM

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Just do him with the damn strap on. Men love that prostate massage stuff.

Some of us men would not enjoy that at all.

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/3/2008 9:46:29 AM

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OP...you need to tell us, otherwise how will we help you? details please...in any case if it is what I suspect, the strap on thing you riding him...as a Dom personally I would never indulge in that as it would be such a turn off or unatural thing for me. However some men do like it, but if it is something you are deeply against you need to tell him and let him know it won't work out...or be able to put your issues aside and please him as a Dominant. Without details we are making things up out of thin air.

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/3/2008 9:48:51 AM

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. Without details we are making things up out of thin air.

Which is par for this course

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/3/2008 10:04:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

Basically, men are crap and I have no idea how you ladies put up with us...

Taggard

while i don't completely agree with this statement, it did make me laugh out loud.

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/5/2008 6:42:53 PM

lostgirl83

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Hmm I think in a weird roundabout way making you do things to him (or him telling you to allow him to do "undomly things") may be his way of showing he is secure and "manly" enough to allow you to do these things.

On the other hand he may be a frustrated submissive male who decided he wasn't finding a Domme who would do exactly what he wanted, so he would find a sub and MAKE her do what he wanted so he can get off or feel whatever it is he's looking for. (this seems to be a common scenario, Ive encountered this issue)

Either way, its confusing. From your post it sounds like you haven't met these people yet. I would suggest discussing this thoroughly prior to meeting or going any further to be sure you will both be getting what you want out of the relationship. You may need to look to just continue looking.

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/5/2008 6:54:28 PM

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I'm assuming it's the activity listed in her journal? I feel like Nancy Drew here! I wouldn't call specifically a "submale" activity, it's really just a fetish and that's specific to the person.

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/6/2008 3:25:35 AM

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From reading the OP and subsequent posts by her. Is it possibly not what the action is that is comming across wrong but reather the way he is approaching the subject with her. That could be quite easily where she is picking up a submissive tone rather than whatever the action is itself.

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RE: Dominant wishes. - 8/6/2008 5:26:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: porcelain20

if it is SO important to Him, why are you questioning it at all? do it and think about how much it will satisfy and please Him.

i would not care if it did not get my juices flowing - that is NOT what i live for and i actually believe it is quite selfish of me when i do things just for my needs. think of His needs first and do it.

porcelain, it may be a hard limit for her. She's new and may not have the words to express that.

liveforchocolate, you're young and cute and are getting bombarded right now with Doms and pseudoDoms sniffing around you. I suggest that you use all of them as learning experiences rather than relationships. Ask them questions, and note not only their answers but also how they express themselves and what makes them tick.

The relationships will come.

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