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Mistress' Responsibilities - 11/16/2005 5:34:31 PM

WalterRego

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What are a responsible Mistress'/Master's responsibilities to a sub or slave?

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RE: Mistress' Responsibilities - 11/16/2005 5:36:51 PM

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i think that depends on the Mistress/Master and sub/slave involved.

my Sir demands full control and with that full responsibility. The list is far to long to post, so i leave you to your imaginations lol.

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RE: Mistress' Responsibilities - 11/16/2005 6:36:49 PM

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In a general sense they are responsible for potraying themselves as they are, and accepting and using well the authority transferred to them within a relationship.

If a dominant did not do these things, I would consider them irresponsible.

However, beyond that, there's nothing specific you can pin down.

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RE: Mistress' Responsibilities - 11/16/2005 9:18:42 PM

jamesthehumanrug

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responsibility, for your own behavior ,not ,if you're a top.

it's, not ,that simple kid
so -YEAH...

I'D LIKE, TO HEAR IT ,TOO....(whats the tops responsibilities)

CAUSE:,IF I ( A SLAVE)DID ALL THIS,(BLA BLA...),

NOW ....
WHAT ARE YOU GONNA'DO....
AH- ,FORGETTA 'BOUT IT???????(,NOTHING?!?)
-that's-what the"responsibilty",of a top is expected,to be;
what ever the slave did....
believe me ....
you ans. ,for it...
you can't ,just pretend it never happened,
or you're sepparate ,from your slave.
,now can you (dom?).

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RE: Mistress' Responsibilities - 11/16/2005 9:33:37 PM

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quote:

What are a responsible Mistress'/Master's responsibilities to a sub or slave?

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ok............let's do it this way---

every-------"couple" is different. no 2 are alike.
but since you asked..
in MY world? MY Mistress really is not responsible for doo doo.
as i say this,...She buys the groceries, sure. but then too, MY money goes to Her acct....
but all in all? i take care of myself, thank you very much.
i have BEEN taking care of my self since i was nigh 'bout 14 year old, and i am now 52.
i do not require anyone to DO nada for me.
BUT!
She is TRYING to teach me a new word called -- f a m i l y -- a word "I" am not familiar with. never HAD family. i have been a loner all my life.
even married i slept alone.
She is purported to be,......responsible for me,....but i have not learned HOW to let go enough to LET Her take care of me yet.

good luck to ya,,,,

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RE: Mistress' Responsibilities - 11/17/2005 2:52:01 AM

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When I move in with my Sir he will have total ownership of me and he is more then capable of handling it. I'm going to be a big project and while I would run the other way, he is actually looking forward to it.

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RE: Mistress' Responsibilities - 11/24/2005 7:35:00 PM

Simian

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Hello WalterRego.
I do believe their are a few responsibilities that come with ownership of another and even submission of another. There is a web site I have read, I thinks its a european one that states the base rules for BDSM play.
I remember seeing some of their responsibilities are:

To ensure those that have submitted to you have a debriefing post play and a follow up not long after play, to ensure the emotional wellbeing of the sub/slave.

To ensure all play is conscentual and sub/slaves are respected and loved at all times. I take that to mean, even if play is heavy they punish with love not rage.

To do play sessions clean and sober, not under the influence of any mind altering substance.

They are the ones I remember........
Hope that helps run a google search on BDSM rules of play. There are also books out there!
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RE: Mistress' Responsibilities - 11/24/2005 8:06:49 PM

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I agree with the everyone is different idea.
My relationship I'm responsible for everything. Especially with him being a novice if he's doing something wrong the one person I have to get pissed with is in the mirror.
I make sure that his chores are done, that he's gotten to work on time and stopped to eat properly. I help guide when he's having problems with work, family or others. As a Master or Mistress you are responsible for another. While you seek the best and most well adjusted/together person that you can there is still a level of micromanagement that takes place.

So to answer your question directly: the buck stops here good or bad I'm responsible for everything.

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