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Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 6:52:45 AM   
petdave


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My wife and i have always had a... complex relationship that's been on-again, off-again D/s. Sometimes really "on" for a few weeks, sometimes totally "off" for months.  It's stressful to me, because i've been submissive/a fetishist/etc for literally as long as i can remember, and it means a lot to me. More than it should, in honesty.

On Halloween 2003 we were married, and that night i was given a very fine stainless-steel collar. i've worn it 24/7 since then, with a very few exceptions- i think the last time it was removed was in 2005, before we discovered it didn't set off metal detectors.

Sunday night i removed it, and placed it in a drawer in my nightstand along with the "key". She noticed that night, and looked at me for a long moment, but said nothing. She stroked my neck that night as we lay in bed together. Approval, i guess.

So, if i've been offensive to anyone lately, i apologize. It's been a stressful month.

Guess it's time for me to do my manly duties and head off to work.

Dave
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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 7:34:30 AM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		Sometimes you just...need a break.
Not everyone does, and most do not understand it when I say this. (at least they haven't in the past)
But I understand.
I bet that collar, and your domme will be waiting for you when you are ready again.
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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 7:45:16 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Snorgles of support to Dave!  Enjoy your break, and see how it goes.  Don't force anything. 

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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 11:51:27 AM   
pixidustpet


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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 12:39:19 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I hope that the stress is relieved quickly and that you both find every happiness.

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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 1:28:14 PM   
LadyPact


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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 3:09:34 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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It must have been a very difficult thing for you to do Dave.  I hope you can find peace in your decision. 

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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 3:13:00 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Take a break, both of you. Be as good to each other as you both can. Maybe in some months you'll each have come to some decisions and can start in new.

In the meantime, even if she isn't dominant, as long as she loves you and you love her, then you are far ahead of most people. Be good to each other. And to yourselves.

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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 3:19:55 PM   
angelwithhonor


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Status: offline 		...sighs a soft sigh for dave. may the peace come gradual making you feel at peace. i know it feels like it wont come, but slowly it will heal. sometimes as all has said here, that time is what is needed. peace to you and Her...

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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 5:27:48 PM   
petdave


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Status: offline 		Thank you to everyone for the kind words

As far as "taking a break"... there's nothing to really take a break from. i've just realized that i need to stop trying to make her something she's not, and tearing myself up over it all the time... We've been together for 13 years, so this isn't something that suddenly happened.

Anyway, i needed sympathy, and aside from my wife, 3 co-workers, and my parents, i don't have anyone to talk to, so... here i am.

i'll probably be scarce for a while, because i know i don't have much to contribute... hopefully cloudboy and joyinslavery can handle the Bitter Malesub Perspective duties without me for a while ()... but thanks again.


-Dave

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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 5:45:58 PM   
GreedyTop


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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/30/2008 7:26:45 PM   
hisannabelle


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hoping things work out for you.


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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/31/2008 5:19:31 AM   
LadyRainfire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: petdave

Thank you to everyone for the kind words

As far as "taking a break"... there's nothing to really take a break from. i've just realized that i need to stop trying to make her something she's not, and tearing myself up over it all the time... We've been together for 13 years, so this isn't something that suddenly happened.

Anyway, i needed sympathy, and aside from my wife, 3 co-workers, and my parents, i don't have anyone to talk to, so... here i am.

i'll probably be scarce for a while, because i know i don't have much to contribute... hopefully cloudboy and joyinslavery can handle the Bitter Malesub Perspective duties without me for a while ()... but thanks again.


-Dave


Dave, I understand completely taking a break, I've taken a few myself over the years. But please don't think you don't have anything to contribute just because you're not actively in a D/s position. You still have a lot to contribute here and I for one have enjoyed reading your posts and look forward to them. You still have your experience and knowledge. Please continue to share with us.

{{{hugs}}}


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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/31/2008 8:46:00 AM   
undergroundsea


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From: Austin, TX
Status: offline 		I extend to you my best wishes and support :)

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Officially just a husband now - 7/31/2008 10:25:39 AM   
ThundersCry


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Status: offline 		You kinda sound like now that the collar is off that...and I KNOW that kinda thing hurts but...
 
Just being a husband is not a big deal...
 
ITS a huge...calling!
 
Good luck, dave...
 
 

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RE: Officially just a husband now - 8/1/2008 6:59:56 AM   
angelikaJ


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RE: Officially just a husband now - 8/1/2008 10:52:16 PM   
Lucylastic


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Status: offline 		Ive enjoyed very many of your posts Dave, like many others here, and I wish you luck in whatever you decide you need to do. I hope you find your balance
Best wishes and virtual hugs
Lucy


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RE: Officially just a husband now - 8/1/2008 10:58:02 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		*hugs dave again, just 'cause*

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RE: Officially just a husband now - 8/2/2008 12:13:46 AM   
angaothsi


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Status: offline 		******HUGS************ there are people here who can benifit from your experiences, there are people here who may understand how you feel and there are people here who wouldnt mind if you just vented, or cried or hell even lurked and popped off a one liner here and there. I hope your own personal healing process goes quickly for you and once again

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RE: Officially just a husband now - 8/2/2008 1:06:46 AM   
NewandSexySub702


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I hope all turns out well for you, whether it be a husband or a slave. Take from the lesson and learn. Also, be lucky and you have someone who loves you. Not everyone is blessed and has someone in their life. ((Hugs))

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