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Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 7:48:15 AM

ukmasterc

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I would like to know from anyone how often they get asked by potential submissives to send them money before meeting and what you do about it.

Over the past few years I have had about 10 people ask for money and I have refused as I have been caught out with sending money to someone in the past and never saw them or the money again.

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 7:50:50 AM

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just say no...

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 7:51:49 AM

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Not a dom but I would never send money to someone I didn't know. If you do a search through old posts some people have said that in the past they have paid part of the costs of a ticket for someone and reimbursed the rest when the person actually turned up.

I am pretty sure there is a big warning when you receive mail on the other side reminding people never to send money to anyone.

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 7:57:38 AM

RCdc

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No, never. Maybe you should take stock of what you are projecting that gives people the open door to ask for help or payment.
And neither Darcy nor I would be silly enough to send out money and expect it returned anyway.

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 8:00:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ukmasterc

I would like to know from anyone how often they get asked by potential submissives to send them money before meeting and what you do about it.

How often?
Not too many times but it has happened.

What did I do about it?
Deleted it and read the next e-mail. Easy enough.

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 8:06:33 AM

RedMagic1

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Your profile filter is off if you keep on getting scammers. Some are unavoidable, but if it keeps happening, all the way to "send the money, honey"? I've hit Ignore long before.

If she looks like a model and her profile is omg kinky sex to die for, well, hmmmmm. If she looks like a model and she is "just a simple God-fearing woman who wants an honest man to live with for the rest of my life," then double-hmmmmmmm.

She's more likely to exist if her photo was taken with a cell phone in the bathroom, instead of by a team of photographers on the beach. There are for-real models on this site, and some of them post on these message boards. Their profiles are mostly vanilla, or include the words, "Not Looking."

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 8:07:23 AM

LadyHibiscus

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No one ever sends me money.

Of course, I never ASK... and I would generally rather have champagne diamonds, and Betsey Johnson accessories....

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 8:15:08 AM

crouchingtigress

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yes it happens, remember this lifestyle is about power exchange, and energy exchange. every one has a differnt meaning of what that means to them, and if someone wants money, there is nothing inherintly bad about that, its just not where you are in allignment, and you can refuse.

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 8:17:14 AM

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Or you could send pie.

The second most valuable currency here at the lovely collarme hive.

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 8:28:02 AM

quickened

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quote:

Or you could send pie.

The best greeting card i ever received asked the question, "What if they threw a war and everyone showed up with a covered dish?" totally off subject and extraneous, but your pie, chiaThePet, brought it to mind. OK, and to reinforce a n brainer. Never send money!

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 8:31:22 AM

LadyHibiscus

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I prefer cake to pie, but a nice mixed berry, or cherry streusel? Okay.

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 9:04:18 AM

chiaThePet

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I prefer cake to pie, but a nice mixed berry, or cherry streusel? Okay.

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 9:04:55 AM

sailorfrank

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A lot of good replies here. So if you are unsure or uneasy about doing it........THEN Dont send any, most of them are scams! By the way if the Lottery People from Kenya contact you ignore them as well.....lol

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 9:53:17 AM

Lynnxz

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Damn.... now I want pie! Or peach cobbler... either one will work

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 9:59:12 AM

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So Red. So all I need to do is to say Im not looking and I will be a model?

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 10:17:17 AM

StormsSlave

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So,if I ask someone for money, they'll send me money? It's that easy? Hell, I may never have to work again! So, anyone wanna send me some money?

And Chia...make mine blueberry and I'm all yours!

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 10:26:56 AM

TwoNYCDommes

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
If she looks like a model and her profile is omg kinky sex to die for, well, hmmmmm. If she looks like a model and she is "just a simple God-fearing woman who wants an honest man to live with for the rest of my life," then double-hmmmmmmm.

Why would people who look like models be any less likely than anyone else to be God-fearing and want an honest man for happily-ever-after?

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 10:53:07 AM

LaTigresse

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I would never ever send money to someone I've only communicated with via the net. Not ever.

In fact I have pretty strict rules for meeting a prospective slave from here.

They must provide their own transportation to ME.
They must provide their own housing while they are here, until I feel comfortable having them in my home.
They must bring extra money for themselves in case they have any unforseen problems.

Basically, until I tell them I want them as mine, living in my home......they are expected to be a grown up and take care of themself.

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 10:54:28 AM

LaTigresse

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Oh......make my pie a red raspberry please.........

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RE: Submissives requesting money - 7/30/2008 11:00:22 AM

porcelain20

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quote:

In fact I have pretty strict rules for meeting a prospective slave from here.

They must provide their own transportation to ME.
They must provide their own housing while they are here, until I feel comfortable having them in my home.
They must bring extra money for themselves in case they have any unforseen problems.

Basically, until I tell them I want them as mine, living in my home......they are expected to be a grown up and take care of themself.

that is very smart.

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