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loverboyforfun -> Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 12:39:45 AM)

I'd like to know in general if Mistresses enjoy to be outside with their sub male while they publicly humiliate him. For example shopping at a mall with her sub male who is dressed in femme, etc. Also, isn't it a risk to expose humiliation to kids that can be out there?



sillyslaveboy -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 1:40:04 AM)

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For example shopping at a mall with her sub male who is dressed in femme, etc.

You got to know that there are countries where a crossdressed male going to shopping is just signing in for his brutal lynch on the next corner. Not to mention legal issues that might occur in some other countries.

Still any sort of public humiliation is a thrilling experience for many people, and thus there is certainly a number of people who are actually very enjoying it. Some of them keep it subtle, some of them enjoy showing off.



Usako -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 3:08:18 AM)

Some do, some don't.

Not really any other way to put it.



TNstepsout -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 4:53:49 AM)

I am not into that kind of overtly public scene. I don't really like to draw that kind of attention out in public.  I prefer things that are more subtle.  



Madame4a -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 5:08:39 AM)

Anything in public involves non consenting parties.. not a good thing... subtle things are a bit different...a little finesse is required, something I find lacking these days...




darchChylde -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 6:06:43 AM)

Come on ladies, he's looking for specific detailed examples in order to get his shorts sticky.  



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 6:10:53 AM)

you mean like going to a lingerie shop with my pet and having him model a black baby doll in the dressing room for me?

nope, i would never humiliate my pet like that ...never...  *whistles*



Madame4a -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 6:23:39 AM)

bingo

now where is that prize?[:D]



Madame4a -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 8:40:22 AM)

Sometimes, just the threat of going public is enough -- particularly because in the end, mine knows that I will carry out what I threaten, always, but safely.



cloudboy -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 9:24:34 AM)

The fascination for humiliation is related to experience. The more experience a sub has, the less fascination for humiliation he carries, whereas when he is alone or inexperienced --- the project of humiliation and objectification causes quite a hard-on.

Why?

Humiliation often runs counter to connectedness. Humiliation sacrifices connection for alienation (either from the Mistress or sub or both). The humiliation act does this by feeling transactional, forced, or contrived. So, in a relationship humiliation often strikes a false note, whereas when one is un-partnered the imagination thinks every note an elegant tune.

The real question is, how can act can cause two people to bond? For this, two people must look into one another.



slavekal -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 9:34:40 AM)

Yesterday I took Ms. Mlicious to the drugstore at the strip mall via rickshaw.  As usual, all the ladies loved it.



littlesarbonn -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 9:42:17 AM)

A submissive doesn't always have to be cross dressed to be viewed as a public submissive to get the same kind of audience reaction discussed in this OP. A close friend of mine likes to order for me whenever we go to a restaurant. She knows I'm submissive, and she's not even a dominant in our relationship, but she knows it gives me a bit of a thrill, and I believe she gets a little out of it as well. I can see her face light up when the waitress takes a step back, stares at her and then me and then back at her again before smiling and continuing. That's the cool thing about this whole endeavor; even simplistic little actions can bring pleasure to all involved.



MizSexyVixen -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 9:51:50 AM)

Public humiliation does not have to involve the chance of being outed by others.

Even a simple task such as sending a sub to the drug store for an enema kit has all kinds of humiliation possiblities.

I agree that when you start going into a public setting, consensuality issues and issues with minors arise. To me, however, there is a big difference between a minor noticing a man in drag and being exposed to let's say very public sex in the men's restroom.

Of course I would say that, I love cds.




thishereboi -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 11:11:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: slavekal

Yesterday I took Ms. Mlicious to the drugstore at the strip mall via rickshaw.  As usual, all the ladies loved it.


While the visual running in my mind right now is awesome, I feel the need to point out that I wouldn't consider it humiliating, hot as hell, but not humiliating. Of course, if I ran into something because I was too busy drooling to pay attention, then that might be. Either way, I really enjoyed the visual. Thanks for that.



ElanSubdued -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 11:37:17 AM)

darchChylde,

quote:

Come on ladies, he's looking for specific detailed examples in order to get his shorts sticky.


While I think your analysis is probably correct, I so didn't need *that* image this morning. :-)

Elan.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 12:16:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

Yesterday I took Ms. Mlicious to the drugstore at the strip mall via rickshaw.  As usual, all the ladies loved it.


While the visual running in my mind right now is awesome, I feel the need to point out that I wouldn't consider it humiliating, hot as hell, but not humiliating. Of course, if I ran into something because I was too busy drooling to pay attention, then that might be. Either way, I really enjoyed the visual. Thanks for that.


BIG RICKSHA ENVY!!! 



slavekal -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 1:09:17 PM)

Yeah.  It is a humble position, but not humiliating.  I love seeing the pride in Ms. M's face and the joy/envy it brings to other women who see it.



RumpusParable -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 1:20:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: loverboyforfun

I'd like to know in general if Mistresses enjoy to be outside with their sub male while they publicly humiliate him. For example shopping at a mall with her sub male who is dressed in femme, etc. Also, isn't it a risk to expose humiliation to kids that can be out there?



First question:  Yes, I do.
Second question:  Depends on the humiliation tactic.  A lot of humiliating/embarassing things can be done to someone aren't any big deal to others, especially not kids.  It all depends on what you pick to do.



darchChylde -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (7/31/2008 2:09:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

darchChylde,

quote:

Come on ladies, he's looking for specific detailed examples in order to get his shorts sticky.


While I think your analysis is probably correct, I so didn't need *that* image this morning. :-)

Elan.



Oh, so it's a morning thing; Elan?  I'm so sorry, think of it this evening and you should feel better.



rc4otkVA -> RE: Do Mistresses enjoy to be in public while humiliating a sub? (8/1/2008 1:51:06 AM)

If you mean public as in other people who are into kink, yes I do. I am firmly against subjecting those who wish to remain innocent to the lifestyle. I always welcome volunteer voyeurs.



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