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The Mistresses here - 7/31/2008 11:21:33 PM

tifffy17

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What does it take to find a Mistress here, will it cost money to have a session with one? How can a poor sub find a Mistress to play with without it costing $$$$$.

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RE: The Mistresses here - 8/1/2008 2:26:48 AM

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Use the search function (top right, there, above the little flags -- try "find mistress") to see the 245000000000 other threads on the same topic, and see what others have already suggested.

Lose the "couples" photo -- don't know who your lady friend is, but it doesn't make it look like you're in the market for a partner. Put some interesting info in your profile -- something to make you stand out from all the other crossdressers who won't do knife play.

Good luck.

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RE: The Mistresses here - 8/1/2008 3:38:08 AM

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Listen to Allondra and lose the girl. Better yet send her to me. I will hold on to her for you.

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RE: The Mistresses here - 8/1/2008 5:54:04 AM

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If all you want is a session - then yes, it's likely that you'll have to shell out cash for a prodomme. If you're willing to dig deeper and actually develop a relationship with a woman who is also a lifestyle Domme - you may have some hope. You have to have more to offer- yourself, not just a temporary sex partner.

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RE: The Mistresses here - 8/1/2008 5:56:16 AM

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yes.. get rid of the picture with the woman, get better pictures.. make a longer profile... and get out, try some groups in your area .. .if you're really interested, then don't use this as your only outlet to meet a mistress

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RE: The Mistresses here - 8/1/2008 6:24:06 AM

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He's made this identical post before.

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RE: The Mistresses here - 8/1/2008 6:24:57 AM

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I wouldn't know.

I'm not "a Mistress" -- I am a dominant. Only one slave currently has earned the right to call me "Mistress".

Maybe if you realize that dominant women are people first and not a fantasy "Mistress" that might help. What attracts the average woman is likely to attract a dominant woman too to some degree.

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RE: The Mistresses here - 8/1/2008 10:54:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tifffy17

What does it take to find a Mistress here, will it cost money to have a session with one? How can a poor sub find a Mistress to play with without it costing $$$$$.

If you want a one-off session, yes, you'll likely have to pay money.

If you treat us like people and let life go from there, you'll likely find someone who will play or be in a relationship with you.

In any case, you need to offer us something worth our time... sometimes that's cash, sometimes that's a friend, spouse or even just being the playtoy we want at the moment... but just wanting someone to session with you for your sake for nothing isn't very realistic. We're people with our own desires.

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RE: The Mistresses here - 8/2/2008 7:39:16 AM

DiurnalVampire

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For A session... yes it will likely cost you. Why, becasue of supply and demand. What do you offer a Dominant with a single session? That session would no doubt be focused around your desires, which means shed be playing a part. Actors get paid.

Why would someone want a poor submissive? Why would someone want to take you when you are only interested in them because you are not wealthy enough to pay the ones you want... so you are settling?

Change the attitude from where do I find what I want in a Mistress to take care of my needs to What can I offer to a Mistress to take care of her needs. Lost the girl in your photo, most Dominants will skip over you and never actually see your profile if your taking a picture with your girlfriend (and we dont care what you say she is really, becasue if shes in a buddy buddy photo like that she looks like a grlfriend) and make the profile sound like you want to offer something to someone, not you are looking for someone to play a role for free.

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RE: The Mistresses here - 8/2/2008 9:20:00 AM

slavekal

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Read this.
http://slave2catwoman.blogspot.com/2006/09/how-do-you-find-domme-i-hear-from-guys.html

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RE: The Mistresses here - 8/2/2008 11:08:05 AM

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if your looking for a couple keep the pic , if not ditch it .If your looking for a random session from a Top be prepared to dole some bucks out .if your seeking a Mistress in a committed D/s M/s BDSM relationship change your wording ,gain knowledge ,and do have an idea what your seeking . The people here are smart , the Domme's wont put up with BS and few will just let you order from a menu to fill your needs .Being a subbie , or slave is knowing that no its not about you .

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