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Slavesun -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 9:13:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats quote: ORIGINAL: Slavesun I am looking to try a heavy CP session with a pro Domme in which she uses CP to bring me to tears. I was thinking I'd like to be brought to tears as quickly as possible however I am inexperienced in this and am not sure wether it is wise to go from 0-99 without a warm up. Would you say I need to warm up first? If so, why? Is it viable to start a session full bore, or is there a reason why I shouldnt? Please let me know, I am curious as I try and piece together the session I'd like to have in my head. Thanks. I don't think that you can instruct someone to bring you to the point of tears.... at least not in the way that you might want it to happen. I'm assuming that you're looking to get some sort of emotional release that you can't achieve otherwise (many people, particularly male people, have a difficult time letting go and allowing themseves to cry.) I would suggest that you do this sort of session with a Pro that you've gotten to know over time. Personally, when people approach me with this sort of thing, I tend to refuse them. I need to have a feel for someone, their tolerance and reactions before limits are pushed. Also, if having it happen as quickly as possible is the goal... I'd wonder if visiting a Pro is worth it? Paying several hundred dollars for ten minutes seems a tad silly. I am looking for an emotional release but I know I wont find that kind of release through this. The heavy CP part is meant to be the basic groundwork or starting point for what I seek. I don't expect it to be enjoyable at all, but I see is as necessary for me to get to where I want to go in the session. The Domme I plan to see I do not know well but the is experienced, sadistic, works for a dungeon I trust and she was trained in the craft by a Domme I am familiar with who has relocated overseas. I think it will be well worth it...the fun will start after she has cracked me with the physical component.

Slavesun -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 9:18:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shadowcd I would think it would depend the reasons why you are in tears.. from shear physical pain or is the cp a trigger for an emotional release. I can't say I'm experienced in this matter however explaining your reasons for the scene to me are far more important then the actual details in achieving it. The reasoning is that I would be using CP to the point of tears as a vehicle to make the other components of the session a lot more effective.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 9:18:52 AM)
I used to get approached for these kinds of cathartic scenes a lot. A friend of mine had a client who was a Navy SEAL who wanted to be "broken". She could whip him until her arm hurt and he wouldn't make a SOUND! She found it ultimately frustrating, since there was so little energy exchange between them. He would have been a dream date for me, but at the same time, I think putting a person like that back together after a break would be a challenge that I might not be up to. The key to being able to cry, or whatever it is you want, is trust in your partner. If you don't have some level of connection with the person you are working with, you are not going to have any kind of emotional release. You will just panic and safe out, or just withdraw into yourself. Why is it that you want this experience? Why are you seeking out this experience with a stranger? I am not expecting you to answer here in public, but I hope that you have a good answer for yourself, one that has meaning for you.

apiercedkitty -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 9:21:00 AM)
~FR~ It sounds to me like you want someone you don't know too well to be a mind reader and know whether you REALLY wanna stop when you safeword out. Doesn't seem fair. The choice to end the session should lie completely in your hands - and in your head. If you feel like you use it too soon - that's something you need to work on... meaning that you should probably do this type of thing with someone you've worked up a rapport with so you have a better idea how She'll handle the whole situation.

Slavesun -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 9:21:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsJssk Let me understand here. Does CP stand for corporal punishment. And are we then talking about spankings? If so, I do not understand why a warm up is nessisary. I mean, if someone wants it cold, it's not like penial penetration where you need to start small and be very very careful. Getting past the issue of "reding" as soon as things hurt is a problem. For this, you may have to develope a strong relationship with someone. It may take several sessions and lots of aftertalk between the sessions to build the kind of trust you are talking about. I think you are basically asking to have a Dom that can read your limits and thus you can trust them enough to know they will read correctly... to eliminate your desire to red so quickly. That takes time. MsJ I don't think a relationship is necessary. I think I just need to be pushed outside of my comfort zone in a controlled way by a Domme who knows what she is doing.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 9:28:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Slavesun I don't think a relationship is necessary. I think I just need to be pushed outside of my comfort zone in a controlled way by a Domme who knows what she is doing. You really are mistaken here. I would think that your experiences that you have related thus far would show that.

apiercedkitty -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 9:35:34 AM)
i agree with LH... i know i'm MUCH less likely to safeword out with someone that i know and trust - because that means they know me and my reactions as well. Someone who can read your body language can back off a bit when they see you're getting to the edge. That kind of knowledge can only be gotten over time.

Slavesun -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 9:42:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus quote: ORIGINAL: Slavesun I don't think a relationship is necessary. I think I just need to be pushed outside of my comfort zone in a controlled way by a Domme who knows what she is doing. You really are mistaken here. I would think that your experiences that you have related thus far would show that. If you mean someone who knows me really well I agree that it would help immensely in making the session better. It is not necessary though. A total stranger can make a person cry.

apiercedkitty -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 9:49:48 AM)
Yeah - c'mere - i can make you cry and i can probably do it in under 2 minutes if that's all you're looking for. i don't think, however, that that's going to lead to anything in the session being a "lot more effective."

Slavesun -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 10:15:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: apiercedkitty Yeah - c'mere - i can make you cry and i can probably do it in under 2 minutes if that's all you're looking for. i don't think, however, that that's going to lead to anything in the session being a "lot more effective." Thanks for your opinion. I'm taking all comments here on board for consideration. Maybe your and other people's conflicting opinions will be validated by my real time experience...maybe not. We shall see.. Real time will be the true test for sure.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Heavy CP session question (8/2/2008 5:53:32 PM)
Since our opinions come from OUR realtime experience, I will be interested to hear if your results are what you are seeking.

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