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pets - 8/1/2008 9:33:55 PM

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For those who identify as a pet, rather than another term, what does that mean to you and how is that different in your mind than some of the more common terminologies for a bottom, submissive, girl, boy, boi, slave, etc.?

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RE: pets - 8/1/2008 9:43:40 PM

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I am his slave, which has its own descriptions he and I agree on - his servant, whore, personal assistant, sex toy, his object, his whatever he wants me to be at the time. But I am also his pet girl, as he calls me - his joy, his source of amusement, and his affection.

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RE: pets - 8/2/2008 3:22:18 AM

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to me it means i'm not looked at in a dominant/submissive viewpoint, but in a human/less-than-human viewpoint carrying with it a certain undertone of ownership, but with the attachment and affection intact.

for a lot of others it's roleplay.

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RE: pets - 8/2/2008 3:54:33 AM

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It means that i would prefer to be treated as such as a pet (at times...) i am not masochistic and not into pain, so it identifies me as what type of services i may be able to offer the Domme.

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RE: pets - 8/2/2008 5:50:38 AM

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the name pet is like any other name such as slave, whore, etc

why get so worked up over what others are called by their dominants/masters? shouldn't you be more concerned about what YOURS calls you?

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RE: pets - 8/2/2008 6:58:59 AM

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It means that i would prefer to be treated as such as a pet (at times...) i am not masochistic and not into pain, so it identifies me as what type of services i may be able to offer the Domme.

What type of service do you offer as a pet that would be different than what a submissive or slave would offer?
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RE: pets - 8/2/2008 7:20:27 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Surrenderwithin

For those who identify as a pet, rather than another term, what does that mean to you and how is that different in your mind than some of the more common terminologies for a bottom, submissive, girl, boy, boi, slave, etc.?

For us the terms aren't exclusive, the same as we don't regard being a wife excluding being a submissive or slave. For us, it means that there is a strong element of pet interaction. He brushes me, I drink from a pet bowl, beg for tummy rubs, etc.

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RE: pets - 8/2/2008 7:42:59 AM

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Fox and Angel are my pets. They are also my boys, my babies, my slaves and my kids depending on who you ask. There is no difference in how they act when there is a different identity being used. Pet is the more affectionate of the terms, used mainly when they are in the mood to be curled up on my lap being pet, snuggling at my feet and the like. Overall though, its all the same. They are MINE regardless of which words I use for them whenever I do.
They are all just terms, none of them completely define a person and no term ever will.

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RE: pets - 8/2/2008 11:25:08 AM

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I was often a pet to my former Dom, when I was first learning about BDSM. To me it meant that he would care for me and love me and I would try my best to please him and show my devotion to him. Sometimes I would be overwhelmed by the need to sit at his feet and lean on his leg as he went about his business, like go on the computer or play a card game. I yearned for pettings and the chance to nuzzle him. Sometimes I felt like a cat, and sometimes a dog.

It was very intense. This all came from what started as a vanilla relationship! I knew he was a Dom, but I didn't think that I would be into it. He never even suggested I do these things, I just felt the need from inside me, and was lucky enough to find that it pleased him.

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RE: pets - 8/9/2008 1:51:51 AM

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You got me there Surrender... i'm not quite sure...

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RE: pets - 8/9/2008 1:59:55 AM

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I'm absolutely his pet, I identify with that word much easier than the others: slave, submissive, bottom etc.
There is no sadism in our relationship at all, he takes care of me and actually wants to take care of me.

I think it might be easier to say why I'm not the others. There was never negotiation or talk of limits with us. Those were things that we managed as we went along without needing much discussion of details.

He owns me so some may call me a slave.
I submit fully to him so others might say I'm a submissive.
Submissiveness is a huge part of my personality.
Sensation play is his favorite, he spanks me and spends hours with me on his lap simply petting me.
We are lighthearted together and always within arms reach when together.

He treats me with full gentlemanly manners yet adores making me blush in public.

He orders are taken as gospel, something I simply abide by without fighting them unless I'm in a bit of a brat mode but that just means that I need something cathartic.

Okay I am typing this in the middle of the night so it might be all muddled, but at the moment this is how I'd answer your question. It could be a bit different after I have coffee in a few hours!
Drat that cat for waking me up.

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RE: pets - 8/10/2008 11:56:03 AM

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i am His slave, His toy, His slut, His pet, His little girl and much more besides..

For me none of these, with the exception of slave, is only really any different from the other in that they all represent certain facets of my personality brought out by my Dynamic with Him.. i would be hard pushed to put words to the feeling i get as a pet, when it comes out i find it very cathartic.. and there is a definate change in my behaviour.. i stop using furniture and go almost completely non-verbal - speaking becomes uncomfortable to me.. There are other things, but those are the most prevelant in my experience. This part of me shows itself less frequently than most of the others, but it is also one of the most intense.

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RE: pets - 8/10/2008 6:26:51 PM

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I am His pet because I *want* to be treated like a pet. I am not necessarily a fan of humiliation, and don't enjoy much other 'humilitating' activities. However, I love being petted like a pet, being treated like a precious animal, begging for something (raising my "paws"), crawling around to wag my tail (I did have a butt plug that had a tail, but it quickly unraveled!!), and I like to eat out of His hands. I am His kitten. =) meow

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RE: pets - 8/10/2008 10:49:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: Surrenderwithin

For those who identify as a pet, rather than another term, what does that mean to you

Being a pet means I wish to belong to someone. To be useful and pleasing to them. My job would is to assist them in a variety of capacities, depending on their needs, wants, and desires. It is a position, not a purpose. It is also an acknowledgement that I choose my position; instead of my personality dictating it.

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and how is that different in your mind than some of the more common terminologies for a bottom, submissive, girl, boy, boi, slave, etc.?

I’ve read many posts by others stating they have a need to be controlled, or to serve; I have neither.

I do not believe it is accurate to claim I can give control to another. My understanding of the human mind is such, the best I can offer is to choose to control myself, under the authority of another.

My preferred mode of serving under the authority of another, becomes a desire, once I have found someone I have compatible interest with and believe to be honorable. If I find I was mistaken, the desire becomes dormant.

Also, I do not find myself obligated to stay in a relationship that has become harmful to me.

My passion for being in a successful D/s relationship, comes from my discovery that the dynamic, and many of its activities, can be useful in my endeavors of understanding myself, and the world around me; and my search for greater truths. Besides that, they have proven to be an excellent means for becoming refocused, when being human gets to be overwhelming.

Thank you for asking the questions I’ve been wanting to answer for a long time.

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RE: pets - 8/11/2008 6:17:52 AM

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Giving yourself has nothing to do with the labels you place upon yourself, it has to do with the depth of feeling in your heart and soul, no label on your relationship can make that happen.

I personally feel I can no more call myself a slave because I am submissive than I can call myself a hobbit because I have hairy feet.

I don't wish to be a slave, but I do still feel owned... more importantly like I belong... I ask to be referred to as "pet". For us this doesnt involve animal roleplay, I don't do puppy or kitty play per se, although some elements like being referred to as bitch, eating from a pet bowl at times get me hot... but as I see it this is how many other s-types are treated regardless of how they choose to identify and it is not specifically restricted to petplay.

I have read a lot of posts on the boards from Masters who claim that with their slave they can do anything, and the slave has no right to object, no right to disobey, they can beat the slave mercilessly if they choose, am sure you have read them too. They justify it with analogies about cars or dogs, and when I thought about the dog and mistreatment, I thought would not the dog bite back?

That's when I knew I was happier being treated as/thought of as a pet, rather than a slave. I get all the benefits of ownership, of shelter, protection, love etc. I am loyal, faithful, dependable, obedient, but I also have a set of teeth. I can and will bite if you keep prodding me with the same stick repeatedly and I will piss in your shoes if you make me unhappy.

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RE: pets - 8/11/2008 9:17:52 AM

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I can and will bite if you keep prodding me with the same stick repeatedly and I will piss in your shoes if you make me unhappy.

Heh. Maybe I should re-package myself as a pet. :)

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RE: pets - 8/11/2008 9:28:14 AM

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Very interesting discussion. I identify as a pony, simply because I loved prancing and strutting to make my owner proud. However, there were those special times that you don't bring a pony into the home. At those times, I was his slut. The masochistic pain loving fuck toy he could use and abuse in any way he wished.

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edited, because spell check was off..

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