Missokyst
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There are people of both orientations and genders who are scared. Nothing new there.
And trust me when I say that it is not submissives in particular who are likely to stop talking.
I don't mind meeting people. But strangely as soon as I tell them I only meet as a human and not as a submissive meeting a dominant, men seem to drop the urge to meet.
The OP mentions several reasons and those I will address:
1. Distance; Some of us like more contact than a drive by domming. And as for moving? What of job, family, ect? I have a life here, I am not sure I would want to be with someone who could cut all ties to their location without a second glance.
2. I don't know anyone until I meet them. Not knowing someone in chat seems redundant.
3. Know your type. Seems pretty evident if you tell someone they are not your type, they are not interested. Does that poster want to see a list of preferences, no bald, fat, old, young, healthy, ect., before he chats someone up? I for one base my "type" on intelligence. That is something that can be weighed based on what they say. I have passed on people after a few emails.
4. Umm.. no, cyber, phone, is not a bdsm relationship in my eye. I am a maso and have been a cutter in my life, but I can do that on my own. I don't need some bozo on a cam telling me to pull my nipples so he can get off. BDSM is live, in person, in my view.
5. Married? That is a dead end road. Just because the OP is married and wants to play does not mean that women should take pity and understand his needs. I don't need to make his life complete while mine is put on hold.
6. This makes no sense. Of course people choose for their own reasons.
7. Taking a chance. Many people do take that chance. However when there is distance, attraction,. style, prior committments which take precendence over you before you start, I would say the deck is fairly stacked against any chance of a satisfying relationship with that guy.
UNLESS you are in a similar situation.
Kyst
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ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit
There are submissives out there that are scared. Even if you are correct LadyPact, that it is the posters' fault, they should at least have the guts to tell the dominant why they suddenly stop talking with the dom.
Frankly, I've seen quite a few people (men and women) do some rather rude things when they decide they are not interested in someone. Submissives in particular seem to be fond of ending a relationship without saying goodbye. They just stop contacting you. It's not that hard to send a little email "Thanks, but I found someone else", even if you haven't really found someone else. Or if you have a bit more guts, theres always "Thanks, but I'm not interested".
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