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BIllCT -> Toys, Spanking, Impliments and respect and trust! And Meetings?. (8/2/2008 2:18:11 PM)
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I used to date a submissive in Norwalk, CT, and we started very slowly as I am sure most couples do.
It seemed to me, I always wondered what she wanted and how far she was willing to go untill I got there.
The first time i met her, we had coffee and a lunch. The second time we went to her place.
Now when we started scening or playing or whatever you wish to call it, it was interesting because we were basically experimenting with one another in many ways. But her main thing was being spanked and that would make her wet, happy and more submissive and ready for anything period.
The first time we scened and ended up naked, it was barehanded spanking of her that got us there.
The second time we expanded to floggers and crops. and Then the third time it became cuffs, barehanded spankings, floggers,crops, and then a belt too.
Toys were added as we went along such a vibrators and dildos also . We had a very good thing going and she never failed to serve correctly or to be happy herself.
After a year together and my traveling to her, she sold her home and moved on and got married. So, even though I miss her, I wished her the best of course. It was a special relationship because not only was it BDSM and D/s combined in many ways, it was a full trust and respect thing between both of us and she knew what I wanted and I knew what she wanted and we both got what we wanted out of it all. She trusted me, by what I did for and to her and vice versa as we went along it grew greater between us. At the final time we met and scened together in her home, it was complete trust and respect for each other and hours of scening and pleasures. I find it extremely important to the submissive as well as to myself as the Dominant that we both had full respect, and trust for each other, and we both had openess and understanding of what we both were seeking and getting once we started.
Yes I do miss this type of relationship, with a female submisisve in my life, but I am not saying I want to rush into anything, nor am I complaining of submissives not meeting me. For if a submissive just meets anyone quickly they are foolish without knowing whom they meet. But I do think, submissives, as well as us Dominants need to be open, honest, and willing to talk to and maybe meet if what you are looking for is out there at least. And following all safety rules and taking all precautions I do agree with. So who knows maybe I will meet someone again and see how it goes someday.
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