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CallaFirestormBW -> One line can say so much! (8/3/2008 7:24:39 AM)
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Take this with a grain of salt and an expression of my desire to just rant and hear myself talk this morning.
I've been reading on the forums, listening to both sides of the coin debate about one-liner introductory posts and being so willing to shut out a potential contact based on how many words went into the initial greeting... What got my back up this morning was a gentleman who was complaining that the dominas who contact -him- often do so with only one line. He was clearly annoyed, and commented that, essentially, he'd find it insulting and would dismiss them.
I have had some incredible encounters here that started with one line. One started with just a simple "Hello, Ma'am"... and a smiley wink. A glance at the profile had me enticed, even though this would clearly not be a "meet in two days" kind of situation. I have since not been disappointed at all. The interaction has been all that I hoped -- funny, exciting, pleasant, interesting... and yet not -one- of our posts to one another have been more than a few lines. I think the longest one topped out at 10 lines in either direction.
Heck, in the real world, I don't go up to people at a gathering and give them a dissertation about how I have read everything I could find on them. I say "Hello" and we go from there. Sure, here we have a little advantage in the profiles, but really, all those do is take the place of seeing that cool-looking flogging across the room and getting enticed by the sounds/smells/movement... we still don't know the -person- until we converse. Some conversations turn into friendships -- some turn into "Oh heck, what an idiot."... but how do you know until you say "hello" back?
Not everyone I meet here is going to be someone I play with -- but I don't presume that someone who just posts to say 'hello' is necessarily a "wanker" or "being rude". I have had so much fun sending a quick "hello" back, just to see if there is more to the person with a little encouragement. Shoot -- how many people can say that they have "too many" friends? Is that possible?
Some stuff turns me off. It grosses me out and disgusts me... and some folks don't bother to read -- they just send their own fantasies out there to see if someone 'bites'. Even these get a "sorry, not interested in this kind of conversation". I've had one or two of these people write back with an apology, scope the profile, and even make nice conversation for an exchange or two.
We're so quick to shut people into nasty little boxes. Heck... you never know when the "accidental creep" who just doesn't know the rules will turn out to be a really cool person.
Sheesh.
Calla Firestorm Bladewing
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