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jamesthehumanrug -> RE: WHY EXPERIENCE PAIN, AND WHAT MOTIVATES A SUB TO ENJOY IT ?? (11/17/2005 10:06:12 PM)
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dear dava ka master,
GREETINGS,
basic dynamics really: ,but, beyond the scope ,of this space ,to go, thru all the volumes, of knowledge ,on the subject ,of: what a top, or ,esp. a bottom psychology is ,in regards,to liking pain ,for sex.i hope i can be simple ,and ,clear ,because, IN BED; it boils down ,to you have, to take me(bottom), and,you have ,to earn me( top),but ,there's more, to it ,than, that, but, that's' SCIENCE', beyond the space here....,and, it is somewhat ,individual, if you want ,to actually calculate this one bottom, or ,that....
i'm, not sure what the" bottom"is asking ;you never said what the bottoms ' specific question is....it sounds like you're asking ,but, the tendency ,for a bottom, to enjoy sex ,only ,after the ,infiction ,of the right kind ,of consentual pain is what ",opens the flood gates"....
you know slaves have all, that guilt ,and ,'only ,if.... you really beat me; can i really be interested'.... ,and ,really go, to town ,for the two, of us,so ,to speak....
a provintial type; catholic-attitude, in some sense.you have to brake down the walls,to get to the center.
very generally speaking:some people are subdued ,by nature; taught manners ,as an emphasis ,and,lifetime priority, and, need ,to feel free;
ie:,that it's" o.k. ",to feel,or do this ,and,likewise :the top ,too has, to feel,
ie: 'to get me intimately,or sexually: you have, to really suffer, for it ,or earn it -cause :i'm special,or i'm no slut ;you are-,(,if i beat you ),
so the" pain" allows the gates ,to open:allows the getting,of "pleasure" ,for the two....
the top allowing it ,after the rights ,of passage ,and, the bottom has their flood gates ,open ,now ,and ,it's "ok", to orgasm and have sex because : i'm being hurt, for it.
here's, another type ,of typical example ,on the bottoms' possible senario, in regards, to pain -one broad example-
" ugggh-i can't get ,into tits ,and ,azzz
its everywhere
its boring
its vanilla
,or: it's work ,or performance, but,
i do change my mind ,for sure ,if you beat me ....,
then the bottom's REALLY GREAT IN BED ,NOW
( it's ,just the right top ;delivering the right pain ,for, sex ,that would'nt be had ,or desired any ,other usual,or more available,and,much less COMPLICATED way.)
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