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Dom or DaddyDom? - 8/3/2008 5:50:40 PM

Firebirdseeking

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I would like to know how one decides if one needs a Dom or a Daddy, esp if one is not interested in age play or dressing like a child.

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RE: Dom or DaddyDom? - 8/3/2008 6:33:42 PM

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Being a DaddyDom is not always about age play...nor dressing like a child...though some may...disagree...

The dynamics are different for everyone...

I am not into...age play, however...I have experienced a girls voice changing when she falls into that kind of girls...mode...at times...

When did I become one...the moment she said...

Hurt me...Daddy...

Ummm....oookkkkkkaaayyyyy!

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RE: Dom or DaddyDom? - 8/3/2008 6:59:08 PM

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Dear firebird...

There are two types of babydolls. Those who want to be treated the way they were when they were younger, and love a Daddy/Dom or Daddy Master, and those who want the same thing and but when they go into sub space, they like to age regress.

With the first type, when you ask when they are in sub space, "What age are you?" and they will reply "I am 43, or 19 what ever their real age it. The second type will flow to one or different ages and attitudes, and when you ask
"What age are you babydoll?" will reply.... "I am 5....Daddy." or some other age.

Here is the finest post that I know of, it is a Classic, by a sub named Kendra, and it shows how Daddy/Doms and Babydolls are not about incest.

http://www.subspace.cc/page68.html

I like to use this example. I love turning a sub into a puppy girl, but I would never have sex with a female dog.
I also love turning a sub into a babydoll, but I would never be attracted to a child ever. Babydolls are hyper
feminine. We see examples of babydolls in the media and advertising everywhere. Pouting and pink are
intended to arouse the pouter and the person who sees the pout.

I hope this has helped.

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RE: Dom or DaddyDom? - 8/3/2008 7:03:23 PM

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      I am not into age play or dressing like a child. I find in my experience with chatting with many different kinds if Doms, that Daddy Doms tend to be more nurturing ( I am not saying that any other Doms aren't ). They seem to be more patient and gentler. I read this and find it true for me and what I am looking for.

"What is a Daddy Dom?

OK, a Daddy Dom is a Male type Dominant Person Who has a strong Fathering urge,the counter part of the Mother Hen syndrome I would believe, How ever in D/s When the Daddy Dom takes a submissive, He treats her rather like a little girl(see the next page to find out more about the little girl sub) He guides, teaches AND.. offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of Dominants. He loves His little girl with an unwaivering and passionate Love that is timeless.
    His little girl is His sunshine the bright spot in His life. He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing He can not, He guides and teaches her helping her to be ready for this world. And then He waits, knowing she will run to Him when she becomes over whelmed and scared by the harshness of it all.
    The Daddy Dom always has His little girl's best interest in mind, He will help her set and reach goals, He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be,not for Him but for herself..and yes He will even at times punish her. This will no doubt break His heart, but He will always do whats best for her.
    The Daddy Dom gains as much joy and excitement from His little girl's daily acomplishment as she herself does. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way He cares for her, she has put that twinkle in His eye.
    The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to Him, to her they are real and He will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and He is her Hero for it.
    The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams and desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves Him enough to open herself up so totally to Him, and He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and He loves her unconditionaly.
     Even if during scening He brings her great pain to release her pleasures(admit it some like it .. so hush now.) He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself ,He will whisper encouraging words for her, when she feels ugly He will reasure her how beautiful she is to Him.. when she is scared He will be her saftey ,her medium against the world if need be. Even though she is all woman, she is His little girl and He is her Daddy! "

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RE: Dom or DaddyDom? - 8/3/2008 10:03:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

I would like to know how one decides if one needs a Dom or a Daddy, esp if one is not interested in age play or dressing like a child.

Well, if you were looking for a nurturing, guiding type of relationship where one party is considered superior in age or wisdom, you might prefer a daddy. If you want more of an equal maturity/different roles type of relationship, you may be looking for a dom without the daddy part.
I hope that helps?

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RE: Dom or DaddyDom? - 8/4/2008 5:35:53 AM

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OP, also do a search on DaddyDoms as this topic is discussed regularly. There is an extensive listing of various threads on Daddy Doms.

For a small list, see this message I posted on another thread a bit ago. It will have some links that you may be interested in.

And yes, I have a Daddy Dom. Lumus is my Daddy, Master, Lover, friend and soon to be husband. A girl couldn't ask for a better man in the world.

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RE: Dom or DaddyDom? - 8/4/2008 6:42:19 PM

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Good evening!
I started out with a regular Dom but found myself wanting something more..more praise, more emotions, more guidance. And I needed to be bratty, moody and defiant sometimes, with someone stronger and more gentle and patient to keep me in line. I learned about Daddies when one contacted me later. I was so scared that he would not be able to still dominate me, esp. after meeting-he looked like someone's Grandfather!-but boy was I wrong.
Daddy is Daddy until HE says "Master wants.." or when the play becomes so intense that "Master" slips from my mouth. Then His mood shifts as does mine. Afterwards, it goes back to Daddy and Baby Girl or Lil Girl or Pumpkin or Cutie. But I needed an emotional person, someone who could "touch me inside". Some like one or the other, I found someone who is both. I cannot explain it too much but He knows when I need the naughty things and knows when I need the nice things. I do not do age play nor does my speech regress unless you call Daddy buying me a pink negligee and black stockings with pink ribbons age play?! But then what about the black corset outfit with heels?! See?? Both sides ::laughs:: Good luck!
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RE: Dom or DaddyDom? - 8/4/2008 9:55:53 PM

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i act like a kid most of the time; jumping in puddles in the rain, climbing trees, rope swings into rivers, sidewalk chalk and teether ball, color crayons and ice cream cones; it keeps me young and fun to be around...

i'm also a wanton woman, sexually and masochistically driven and primal at times...

i am the princess slut

i prefer a man who takes pleasure in all these things about me and
generally speaking, the men i attract have a protective nature about them, are gentlemen to the t, are articulate, intelligent, have a great sense of humour, are fun to be around, and have done very well for themselves. they are kind to everyone, and treat everyone as their equal, never shunning anyone that is less than or has less than...

they all know i'm a touchy, feely, cuddly, and giddie school girl type who is also an educated, intelligent, articulate woman that just happens to love to curl up in their laps, jump into their arms while wrapping my legs around their waist, and beg them to 'please daddy, fuck me harder'.

i'm not an adult baby, i don't regress, i wasn't sexually abused as a child, i don't 'go little' or whatever that's supposed to mean, and i don't prance around and act and/or dress like i'm an adolecent 24/7, nor am i into age-play unless it's just role-play...

and

i've always been in daddy dom type of relationships.

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RE: Dom or DaddyDom? - 8/5/2008 4:16:25 AM

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quote:

i'm not an adult baby, i don't regress, i wasn't sexually abused as a child, i don't 'go little' or whatever that's supposed to mean, and i don't prance around and act and/or dress like i'm an adolecent 24/7, nor am i into age-play unless it's just role-play...

I wasn't sexually abused as a child either, but I was physically abused by bullies (no, not my parents). A personality was created from my logical perspective to cope with the world. A cold harsh world, and so a cold unemotional personality was created. She would protect the child personality for her to eventually blossom...eventually forgot about her, but she emerged later, stronger than ever, but still emotionally a child. As such I don't regress as much as I become the me that was held behind bars for over a decade.

I do not babytalk or act bratty or such, though I like cuddling and some 'silly' things.

I dress like a teenager because those are the only clothes that fit my small build though :P (smaller ones are well, too small, and bigger ones are well, too big - fun to be too tall for children clothes and too small for adult clothes...).

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RE: Dom or DaddyDom? - 8/5/2008 5:15:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: daddysliloneds

i act like a kid most of the time; jumping in puddles in the rain, climbing trees, rope swings into rivers, sidewalk chalk and teether ball, color crayons and ice cream cones; it keeps me young and fun to be around...

i'm also a wanton woman, sexually and masochistically driven and primal at times...

i am the princess slut

i prefer a man who takes pleasure in all these things about me and
generally speaking, the men i attract have a protective nature about them, are gentlemen to the t, are articulate, intelligent, have a great sense of humour, are fun to be around, and have done very well for themselves. they are kind to everyone, and treat everyone as their equal, never shunning anyone that is less than or has less than...

they all know i'm a touchy, feely, cuddly, and giddie school girl type who is also an educated, intelligent, articulate woman that just happens to love to curl up in their laps, jump into their arms while wrapping my legs around their waist

Thats pretty much me. I'm a very playful girl and need someone that understands. The perfect example was yesterday...I recieved news my mother was 2 months pregnant. I freaked! I'm 22yrs old...my dad is too old..both of their healths are not the best, ect. Well, talking to my love he calmed me down. Knew I needed him. He called me and we planned on meeting at the park after work, so I could just see him. He made time for me cause I NEEDED him. For 90mins we cuddled and talked till I had relaxed enough. *smiles* At times I kinda see a little Daddy Dom in most Doms. When it comes to Doms, I personally like for them to be a Daddy Dom with some Sadist in them. I'm not a pain slut, but I do enjoy a great deal of pain. I'm not into age play and will not call someone "Daddy", so its just finding that mixture which I'm happy to say I have and he is a wonderful man.

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