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OwnMeCherishMe -> someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 4:57:01 AM)
Ok this is my first question here, so please be kind and if this is not the right place to put it, i am sorry. ok i am submissive.. i was writing to this one guy who was to say the least very over the top, liked to degrade me call me names, said he wanted me to be nothing, only think of him, eat his waste ect. This was all new to me as i normally would never even think of talking to someone like that but something just drew me to him. Well this went on for awhile, he would say he loved me and all this and only called me names and would do the things he wanted to to me out of love. (never met him..) well the other day he asked me something and somehow he wrote back saying that made him feel very submissive, and he wanted to serve me. I went along with it and asked what he wanted, he said he wanted me to make him nothing, to be broken, for me to be cruel to him and what not. That he had always felt that way to me and was just hoping i would see that he wanted me to treat him like this and how he felt horrible the way he talked to me. First off i don't know if i can even do this, and secondly i don't know how to degrade someone, i tried talking to him the way he talked to me before, and it is ok, but just don't know .. i guess i am asking if this is way off the deep end. how would i know things to say to someone that wants to be degraded so badly. He also said he wanted me to find a Dom and be made to watch.. again if this is not the right place to put this sorry...

RavenMuse -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 5:55:22 AM)
you are not the first girl to be suckered by some lying twonk who presents themself as something over the net (Oh so easy to do) but is actualy quite different in reality. Many who are simply HNG's trying to present themselves as Dom or sub... but who are simply looking for a quick shag. subbie boys, who can't find a mistress who try and present themself as Dom in order to hook a girl emotionaly and then try and switch on them. Dishonesty is dishonesty. I don't care what 'reasons' they try to justify it with, they ain't worth the oxygen they breathe. WIITWD needs trust as a cornerstone NO dishonesty is justifiable! Move on and find what you need.... someone HONEST and someone actualy Dominant, compatible with you as a person AND compatable with what level of Dynamic you are suited to. Good luck.

DarkSteven -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 6:05:58 AM)
I lost count of the red flags.

LaTigresse -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 6:38:49 AM)
That's kinda what I was thinking myself. Along with, poor girl got sucked in by an internet wanker. Don't place any importance in anyone over the net until you've spent actual physical time with them. To do so is to set yourself up for heartache and failure. And yes, I know spending actual time with them is no guarantee, but it is a big step in the right direction.

Lockit -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 12:10:42 PM)
The biggest red flag to me... is that you accepted this and appeased him. This isn't even a switch. This is an emotional mess looking for a victim to play his games. If you didn't feel like running and felt drawn to him... I am worried about you. I don't mean to be unkind, but this is your first post... I hope your next is not that you got involved with a red flager, didn't notice and are now in serious trouble.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 12:30:01 PM)
1. It's online fantasy. Expect anything. 2. A Dom/Master is allowed to switch, whether that be Top to bottom or whatever. Usually, the bottom/sub/slave is serving the Top/Dom/Master by giving them what they want. 3. It's online fantasy. Expect anything. Master Fire

Cdub2U -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 4:05:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam 1. It's online fantasy. Expect anything. 2. A Dom/Master is allowed to switch, whether that be Top to bottom or whatever. Usually, the bottom/sub/slave is serving the Top/Dom/Master by giving them what they want. 3. It's online fantasy. Expect anything. Master Fire Hummm, I really never thought of the net bull(spit) in that light. Perhaps it's time to relax my opinion of Internet Dom's OwnMe step away from the computer and seek real life, as in your local community, they will not bite unless requested. Cw

Huntertn -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 6:08:39 PM)
your not a switch ...so why try to pretent to be.And I agree with the others..lose the guy as a dom...I think as soon as he figures out your not going to Dom him he will more on..sorry

Huntertn -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 6:10:05 PM)
lol..Dam thats move on...smacks typist[ouche}

MasterTiny10 -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 8:02:09 PM)
First off, this guy doesn't sound like a switch, he sounds like a train wreck. Either someone who deliberately lied, to get you into the right place, or someone genuinely mistaken, trying to be something they are not. Either way, I wouldn't go within 20 feet of this person, until they've gotten themselves sorted out. This is how Bad Things happen to newbies....sub and dom.

AllietheKitten -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/4/2008 10:46:02 PM)
My first time out was something like this. I think its easy to confuse the Desire for the Desired. You want so much to be a sub that you almost literally latch on to the first Dom (or pseudo-Dom as the case may be) that crosses your path and ignore all the big red flags. In fact, you may see them as a personal challenge, "I should just trust him...I shouldn't doubt...I have to learn to submit more." WRONG. You have to learn to submit more to someone that is worthy of you. Don't sell yourself short to a 'net wanker. Realize your worth so that you can truly respect your Dom. Best of luck, LadyAllie

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: someone switched on me, just want to ask a question (8/5/2008 5:04:10 AM)
Wow, and wow again!

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