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Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 11:16:35 AM

ASLEEPORDEAD

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Hi,

I have a question, I was talking to someone online and she asked if I wanted her to dominate me and I think all that stuff is pretty hot. She's pretty hot, 20 years older than me, so I'm going to be her foot slave and other stuff.

I think I love her to, she says it's lust, but I don't know, So does that make me bi that I want to be dominated by a woman I find really hot? It's not that I want a relationship with her, just like a mistress/slave relationship.

I was thinking No, because I know I'm straight, but a lot of people judge,so I wanted another opinion.

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 11:29:13 AM

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why label it, why not just enjoy your life, with out labels, or titles? anyways if it is just on line, does it really matter? it's just erotic writing and role playing.

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 11:43:55 AM

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The answer to this is to search your own thoughts and decide whether or not this person of whatever gender or gender preference is someone you may wish to get to know, someone you may wish to submit to, someone you may wish to play with, and/or someone you may think about forming a relationship with.

People tend to let pressures of the thoughts of others push them towards "I should".. or "I should not".. without regard for that you truly wish.

The ONLY label which is ever correct for me is one I tie on my own forehead. Even then you can not be sure from reading my label that you really understand what it means, without talking it over with me.

Bi or gay or straight or whatever are all terms many use in very different ways.

My thought is that if you are attracted to anyone, their gender only makes a difference if you chose to allow it to make a difference.

Submitting to someone does NOT necessarily mean that you will experience sexuality with that person, there are many forms of domination and submission.

Experiencing sexuality with a person does not mean you have a powerful orientation towards that person's gender, it simply means you have a powerful attraction to that person.

Some dominants require their subs to submit sexually to others for the dominant's enjoyment, whatever the genders involved may be. Obeying and pleasing one's dominant (within one's hard limits) does not mean one's sexual orientation is changed at all.

I have had the Honor to be allowed to play with and even to partner with women who label themselves as Lesbians on a number of beautiful occasions. The fact they might top me or submit to me or might enjoy me sexually does not change the fact that they are oriented to women, or that they label themself as Lesbian. T respect them very much and fully accept whatever label they wish.

I have also known women and men who labeled themself as "bi", but had a pretty solid orientation toward just one gender. Not my business to argue about the label, only they know what it means to themself. It seems than more men claiming to be "bi" to play with couples prefer women partners, but will accept men to get to the women. It also seems to me that more women claiming to be "bi" also prefer women partners, but prefer the term "bi' because they may still like a man at times. However both of these last are personal impressions about people I have met, with no statisitcal evidence involved.

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 11:55:29 AM

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Yeah but it's not going to be just online much longer

I guess you're both right, I just wanted to know because I can't really try to be someone I'm not and I don't want labelled as something I'm not either or judged by that.
Thanks for that long response vield

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 11:56:02 AM

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I am bi but I have to play it "straight" most of the time because of my job. So if you ask me then I am straight... I identify my self as straight. But I love to have sex both boys and girls. I am a bi versitile switch. I love all kinds of sex.

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 12:00:01 PM

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But how can you be bi and straight?
I don't have a problem with it myself - just wondering

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 12:30:17 PM

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*gets a big chuckle out of "bi-versatile switch."

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 12:45:53 PM

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I am not straight I just have to pretend to be thats all.

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 12:56:52 PM

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Why would it matter to anyone but you.. and your partner(s)?

Decide or don't what your orientation is...

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 1:02:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chaos9071

I am bi but I have to play it "straight" most of the time because of my job. So if you ask me then I am straight... I identify my self as straight. But I love to have sex both boys and girls. I am a bi versitile switch. I love all kinds of sex.

I call this "ambisexterous". *grins*

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 5:21:53 PM

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Maybe you're heteroflexible.

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/4/2008 6:20:45 PM

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Trisexual?
Try anything once. Twice if you like it. Three times just to make sure.

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/5/2008 3:27:10 AM

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But I already know I'm straight - I just wanted to see if other people would say the same

lol heteroflexible - I like that

and Ms Starlett - how could anyone be trisexual, if you can only be straight or gay

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/5/2008 11:36:43 AM

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Ditch the label s and enjoy the attraction of the person not the gender . Taking this journey may just answer your own questions as it pertains to the continued dynamic in front of you . If your hesitant now your blocking potential happiness .If you know your not attracted to the person or dynamic what so ever no point in moving on though that does not appear to be the case .Enjoy your journey .

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/5/2008 1:56:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: ASLEEPORDEAD

But how can you be bi and straight?
I don't have a problem with it myself - just wondering

Because its a slippery slope. No one can tell you where straight ends and bi begins. Maybe its when you helped one of your girlfriends get dressed and complimented her on her breasts. Maybe its if you kiss a girl when you're drunk. Maybe its having the desire to serve another woman, sexually or otherwise.

You can't only be gay or straight, there is a scale in between.

Yes, some people are exclusively heterosexual, but most are not. Most people are able to appreciate what makes their gender sexually attractive.

In layman's terms, the fact that I prefer porn stars to have big cocks makes me a little bi. The fact that you like another woman walking you on a leash and using your hind quarters (while you bark, as per my fantasy) makes you a little bi.

When your mum calls and asks what your sexuality is, tell her straight. When your mistress asks, tell her she can choose.

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/6/2008 3:38:19 AM

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Thanks Heavans Keeper

Thats the best reply I got

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/6/2008 1:16:26 PM

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Well, I do identify as bisexual, but that's just me. Sexual orientation has no clear-cut lines, ever. Even the Kinsey Scale is pretty much silliness. So, I identify as bisexual, but I'd be just as happy if labels and boxes went out of the window. Boxes are for toys. Labels are for my spice rack.

I'd say that you really have to listen to yourself on this one. Finding the idea of being dominated by a woman hot doesn't necessarily make you bisexual. But it might be indicative of something else. Or, it just might be that you think a woman doing it is pretty hot.

In general, a lot of straight women find relations with other ladies to be hot; so it's not like you're automatically switched sides, just 'cause it interests you.

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RE: Straight or Bi - 8/6/2008 6:45:32 PM

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Maybe you're heteroflexible.

I love that, Ms. La Mistressa. I have been trying to figure out what I am and you have hit it right on target. My first
"bi" experience was with a Pro-Domme and her "strap-on dick". Would that be bi; prbly not. Than it was "forced bi" by Mistress with a man friend of hers...and soon it wasn't forced any more since it was so enjoyable. I'm not into sucking but love anal...so, therefore, I guess not "fully bi"...but "heteroflexible"...Thank you, Thank you.... :)

cory

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