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brantgurga -> being served (8/4/2008 1:05:51 PM)
I have seen submissives be asked to write what it means to serve. I challenge other dominants to share what it means to be served. I have written my response which I will post shortly. I found it a useful exercise myself.

brantgurga -> RE: being served (8/4/2008 1:10:28 PM)
To be served comes with great responsibility. It is not being bossy and having others do as you say. That is a rather minor component of being served. The major component is providing an environment in which the servant feels safe to do so. That servant's burden is the desires of who he or she serves. The served's burden are those of his or her servants as well as satisfying his or her own needs. A served individual exists just fine without a servant. Having a servant leads to a more pleasurable existence. A servant on the other hand becomes dependant on who he or she serves in order to provide safety and comfort in order to make his or her existance more pleasant. There is greater risk in serving. Dependency can be abused. The served is everything to whomever serves: friend, teacher, mentor, trainer, owner, master, guide, lover, and more. If any one of these roles is not fulfilled, the serving individual can be greatly hurt. Despite the risk, there can be greater reward in a freedom of having only one motivation in life: the pleasure of the served individual. In a more narrow sense of being a master to slaves, the responsibility is in providing for the needs of the slave. According to Maslow, needs come in a hierarchy: physilogical, safety, love/belonging, esteem, and self-actualization. As a master, I make sure my slaves have appropriate access to breathable air, healthy food, drinkable water, sufficient sleep, and such. I make sure my slave feels safe from harrassment, sheltered from bad weather. Being my slave, I provide for her to have a place where she belongs. She knows she has her master always. I make sure she has confidence in herself. I make sure she doesn't feel inferior to me. I make sure she addresses myself and others as appropriate and in turn, I ensure they address her appropriately. I foster a pride in being my slave. She's my slave because she wants it, not because I want it. I reward her achievements as she meets my goals. And in the end, with no need of continued training, she knows she is my slave, accepts it, embraces it, and falls into doing what I desire without necessitating me to tell her. To be served means meeting the needs of another so she may meet your wants.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: being served (8/4/2008 10:28:51 PM)
In these kinds of relationships...ok, maybe just in mine...to be served is to serve. It's a synergistic thing creating a feedback loop that fulfills both partners. How all that is done is just details. Master Fire

AllietheKitten -> RE: being served (8/4/2008 10:47:33 PM)
What does your sign say (in your pic)? I can only read the "Army" part of it... curious Lady Allie

SirWAX -> RE: being served (8/4/2008 11:44:20 PM)
I think it says "Army of Me" , great saying and song.

Focus50 -> RE: being served (8/5/2008 3:15:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: brantgurga I have seen submissives be asked to write what it means to serve. I challenge other dominants to share what it means to be served. I have written my response which I will post shortly. I found it a useful exercise myself. Ahhh, a pissing contest because..... errr.... you say so.... Izzat it? Since I'm not in tha habit of assigning self-serving, ego-stroking "busy-work" to my girl (such as written assignments), I'm certainly not gonna be "dared" (or shamed?) into doing it myself.... You're here to right wrongs, then? And I thought all the white-knight doms had gone the way of the Jedi.... Focus.

brantgurga -> RE: being served (8/5/2008 4:57:10 AM)
No Focus50, not a pissing contest. I find reflection and self-evaluation a useful skill. That is why such tasks are given, at least that is why I may occasionally give them. I also tend to think about how I'd react or respond to tasks. In doing a corresponding activity myself, I can gauge if it is busy work. I did not find it to be such. I suppose that if you aren't a reflective individual or your don't value the lessons learned from reflection, then you may find it to be busy work. MasterFireMaam, it is interesting what you said as I have been told by mine that I am like a submissive a bit adapting to desires and needs of those I have.

LaTigresse -> RE: being served (8/5/2008 9:32:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam In these kinds of relationships...ok, maybe just in mine...to be served is to serve. It's a synergistic thing creating a feedback loop that fulfills both partners. How all that is done is just details. Master Fire I can identify with this really well in how I feel about it also.

celticlord2112 -> RE: being served (8/5/2008 1:38:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: brantgurga I have seen submissives be asked to write what it means to serve. I challenge other dominants to share what it means to be served. I have written my response which I will post shortly. I found it a useful exercise myself. To be served == she obeys. To be served == her final words in every discussion are "Yes, Sir." To be served == My final words in every discussion are "Go. Do." Anything beyond that is the stuff literotica stories are made of.

MadRabbit -> RE: being served (8/5/2008 1:51:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: celticlord2112 quote: ORIGINAL: brantgurga I have seen submissives be asked to write what it means to serve. I challenge other dominants to share what it means to be served. I have written my response which I will post shortly. I found it a useful exercise myself. To be served == she obeys. To be served == her final words in every discussion are "Yes, Sir." To be served == My final words in every discussion are "Go. Do." Anything beyond that is the stuff literotica stories are made of. Yeah...

Huntertn -> RE: being served (8/5/2008 6:02:08 PM)
Mom used to say to serve her kids was to love them....even Now it has meaning. I want my sub to serve me...and of course, to do it with love

Thadius -> RE: being served (8/6/2008 6:54:58 AM)
I like the Planet of the Apes reference... Go, Do. I do however have a question for the the OP, in regards to his "reflections". You say: quote: The served is everything to whomever serves: friend, teacher, mentor, trainer, owner, master, guide, lover, and more. If any one of these roles is not fulfilled, the serving individual can be greatly hurt. I have been served by slaves on many occasions without meeting any of those "roles", the slaves were perfectly happy in it, and I would dare say not harmed at all. My slave has served others, and I would dare say they did not fill any of those roles, that you list. Unless you are considering being a guide as explaining how they wish their drink to be mixed. I guess my question is, how do you feel that not being a friend to a slave is harmful? Or for that matter, not being a lover to a slave is harmful? Simply curious, Thadius

brantgurga -> RE: being served (8/6/2008 8:00:30 AM)
You do have a point: I think it important those roles be filled though the person served may not necessarily be the one filling those roles. The elaboration of this is what I say in the conclusion: ensuring needs are satisfied. That can happen with luck with no direction or influence from you, but it's important that those needs be satisfied.

Focus50 -> RE: being served (8/6/2008 3:36:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: brantgurga No Focus50, not a pissing contest. I find reflection and self-evaluation a useful skill. That is why such tasks are given, at least that is why I may occasionally give them. I also tend to think about how I'd react or respond to tasks. In doing a corresponding activity myself, I can gauge if it is busy work. I did not find it to be such. I suppose that if you aren't a reflective individual or your don't value the lessons learned from reflection, then you may find it to be busy work. Anyone with principles and a conscience is reflective in what they do - which would include me. But I got past written assignments etc several decades back when I left school.... If it works for you (or anyone else), that's fine and your business etc but there's just something in the way you've presented it in this thread that hints at guilt, too! And guilt in particular is where I'm literally affected by reflection - the big guy in tha mirror is a hard but fair task-master. His eyes do more for me than any boring written assignment ever could. They're the same eyes my girl answers to, as well. Focus.

AllietheKitten -> RE: being served (8/7/2008 2:22:24 AM)
1. Served To be beaten in a sudden, out of the blue competition. No previous knowledge is required on a subject to be served... Once somebody is served, and then this person serves back, then its on. "Shit son, you just got served." 2. Served to be put on notice; to be called out. to be served is an open invitation to serve back. unless you can serve back in equal or better fashion, then you got owned and have been bumped in ranking. to be served originates from being served with documents that you need to appear in court. "Me and my b-boy crew were pop-lockin and chillin, then this other crew came up and tried to serve us, but we had better moves, so those bitches got served back and owned." 3. served Same as "owned" "You got served! " Courtesy of Urban Dictionary.

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