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how will i know if i am submissive or not ?HELP PLEASE - 11/18/2005 11:30:00 AM

submissivemale76

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hello everyone,
i just came to know about bdsm(mitress concept ) few days ago .. i live in india and if i discuss bdsm in india with my friends they will think i am mad ...but i am confused if i am submissive or not ......
when i was kid say 10 yrs. or so . they allow punishment in schools. so i think lot of females beat me (in my school all teachers were female)... so i spend 12 years in school and atleast 25 teachers beat me number of times(all ladies).... however all punishments were either slap on faces(normally 1 to 10 slaps depends on wrong work i did).. or beaten by stick on palm ...i think at that time i hate that and always had fear of it ... but now i felt it was good time .. i dont know but my mind says i want it again ... so does it mean i am submissive male ....
i think i can listen to woman at certain extent like . i can obey her .. i will accept punishment (all sorts spanking etc)......
but what i read this forums is i can do it like ... the things i will never do >>>
eating shit ,public humiliation .. i want secret relationship of slave and mistress may be in room . dont want public to know about it...... so does mistresses listen slaves do they dominate according to slave wish ?
frankly speaning i am still virgin and i did not even seen nude female .. so does mistress have sex with slaves too ????
i am tottaly confused HELP PLEASE

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RE: how will i know if i am submissive or not ?HELP PLEASE - 11/18/2005 4:05:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: submissivemale76

hello everyone,
i just came to know about bdsm(mitress concept ) few days ago .. i live in india and if i discuss bdsm in india with my friends they will think i am mad ...but i am confused if i am submissive or not ......
when i was kid say 10 yrs. or so . they allow punishment in schools. so i think lot of females beat me (in my school all teachers were female)... so i spend 12 years in school and atleast 25 teachers beat me number of times(all ladies).... however all punishments were either slap on faces(normally 1 to 10 slaps depends on wrong work i did).. or beaten by stick on palm ...i think at that time i hate that and always had fear of it ... but now i felt it was good time .. i dont know but my mind says i want it again ... so does it mean i am submissive male ....
i think i can listen to woman at certain extent like . i can obey her .. i will accept punishment (all sorts spanking etc)......
but what i read this forums is i can do it like ... the things i will never do >>>
eating shit ,public humiliation .. i want secret relationship of slave and mistress may be in room . dont want public to know about it...... so does mistresses listen slaves do they dominate according to slave wish ?
frankly speaning i am still virgin and i did not even seen nude female .. so does mistress have sex with slaves too ????
i am tottaly confused HELP PLEASE

Ok, lots and lots of questions here. I'll do my best to give my opinion!

Your question: Am I submissive?
My answer: If you feel that letting another person control the relationship and want them to make the decisions, then that might mean you are submissive. Others will say that the fact you like receiving pain makes you a submissive, too.

Your question: Can the relationship be private?
My answer: Yes, if that is the limit you set on the relationship. you need to find a Mistress who will respect your limits before you decide to submit to her, otherwise, she is doing you harm.

Your question: Does a Mistress have sex with slave?
My answer: If that's what is decided in the relationship. It may or may not happen.

General advice:
you need to make a list of thing you cannot do, such as a public relationship or sex (if you wish to remain a virgin). Also, make a list of things that you CAN do as well as services you have to offer. What you can offer a Mistress is as important as what you expect to get. When writing, offer these things first, then discuss what you like.

Hope this helps.

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RE: how will i know if i am submissive or not ?HELP PLEASE - 11/18/2005 4:08:32 PM

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there are plenty of indians here...I suggest you search by that term and find a male submissive to chat with....cheers

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RE: how will i know if i am submissive or not ?HELP PLEASE - 11/18/2005 4:29:16 PM

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I ( Miss Diane ) will not add any thing to the great advice MistressFire has given you but just thinking you may only be a pain Submissive who although willing to submit to a womans orders in ways that involve pain or spankings and floggings.
Just my thought here as we have a Sub who although submits to both of us only in anything to do with being subject to pain with no sex involved at any time.
Also all our activities are indoors and never allowed out the door of where ever it has taken place.
Just a bit of advice though in any beatings or spankings you receive or discuss with a Mistress add that all must be on some part of your body that is covered by clothes at all times so no marks are seen by any one.

< Message edited by MissDiandSirHugh -- 11/18/2005 4:30:52 PM >

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RE: how will i know if i am submissive or not ?HELP PLEASE - 11/18/2005 9:30:25 PM

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that is nice advice ..thanks but still my mind is full of doubts ....
first do mistress want from slaves? is it money or fun or what ?.
what is bdsm is it let woman control during sex or let woman control all of your life activities ....
what are the limits...here i read a forum ladies discussing how to torture male balls ? and some mentioned kicking it .....but it may cause hernia(which need surgery)... there are other bad things i saw on internet like using pins in balls .. i am wondering how anyone/males can accept it ??... ... also caining etc ... dont you think it may even cause death ... there must be some clear ways to do so otherwise it may be harmful for body ...(like in english school they choose spanking in ass cause spanking does not hard your body,, it causes pain but no harm like no long term effect)..... but now lets say if a mistress hit slave knee with wood it may permanently damage the slave knee??? so does mistress really care if there slave body is fine or does she limit to pain ...?

ok second thing does mistress get fun to spank someone ............ i dont know as a human being i just never spanked anyone and will probably never do it ..but does mistress do it ..

ok indian society is really closed . that is 99% of peoples dont know what is bdsm ... those who know (via litrature /internet) does not share it with other(otherwise peoples will call them freak).but still i want to know how would a woman know if she is dominating or not ? .... how much percentage of woman are actual dominating ..... I have never heard a woman beating her husband in india ... the only place where woman dominate(punish ) are schools .... (normally ,hitting with wooden stick on hand ,slapping face ,locking in closed room and so on---, but everthing is gone clothed ... noone does take off pents for spanking,its probably society affect)... so ladies choosing teaching as proffesion are more dominating ?..
i dont think here on this forum there is any girl from india ...probably i would be among very few peoples who want mistress from india(its 1 billion population 17% of world population) and i think mistress /slave concept is populor in westren world only .. so how would i get mistress if i want it ?

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RE: how will i know if i am submissive or not ?HELP PLEASE - 11/18/2005 9:40:09 PM

submissivemale76

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if i am submissive male then probably a woman will own me so i think only woman can answer my safets concerns , doubts services i need to offer , or what i will get .. thats why i posted it here ......

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