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VixenXO -> Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 6:13:22 PM)
I am having such a hard time finding a master on here, are there any tips anyone could give me on how to edit my profile to find what I am looking for? I feel that it is pretty detailed. I get several messages daily, but none that really catch my eye. Thanks so much in advance xoxo

masterofdrkness2 -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 6:26:05 PM)
first things first... you need to give it more than 9 days( your profile says you just joined 9 days ago) , if for any reason you thought just because you signed up there would be a flood of M/D's e- mailing you, umm you was wrong .as for me there are things in your profile that just don't add up , I will not call them out , to others they may be what they are looking for I wish you best wishes in finding what you seek here

DarkSteven -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 6:28:10 PM)
You have several pictures and give an idea of what you offer. I'd suggest that you specify what you're seeking. Age restrictions, must be local, attached status, that sort of thing. Else it's no wonder that the respondents aren't what you really want.

VixenXO -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 6:34:55 PM)
thank you gentelemen!

katie978 -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 6:58:59 PM)
Second what those folks said. No one likes to think that they aren't intelligent, funny, and attractive (the types of undefinable qualities you seek). So, for those men and ladies who are hard of reading, spell out clearly what you're looking for: A man or woman between this age and this age (then block those who aren't), who is within this many miles of me (block those), etc. As for the photo requirement, I might reconsider that if I was you. Some attraction in a relationship is important, admittedly, but it's intimidating to know you'll be judged solely on how you look. I never sent a photo until I'd been chatting a while, and how soon they asked was a pretty good judge of whether they were looking for a relationship or easy sex with a kinky girl. Admittedly it's different when you're seeking men, but that's just my two cents.

StrongSpirit -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 7:00:30 PM)
1. If you are getting too many emails, remove the pictures. 2. If you are getting too few emails, add a picture. Or a better picture. 3. If you are getting inappropriate emails, then: A. be more specific about the activities that you enjoy - specifically add some NON-SEXUAL ones, B. adjust mail controls to automatically send certain emails to Bulk Mail. 4. If you are still not finding people you like, look in the forums. Things we post here are for all to read. That means they are not being crafted to appeal to the single person receiving the email. 5. I generally advice people to decrease their standards for a first date/meeting but increase them for the second. As long as you do this in a public place, this costs you only time but tremendously increases the chance of meeting Mr. Right. Lots of great people don't always give a good first impression. 6. There is nothing wrong with a woman finding someone she likes and emailing them first. You don't have to ask them out, you can just ask an innocuous question. If they like you, they will respond, and eventually ask you out.

VixenXO -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 7:04:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: katie978 As for the photo requirement, I might reconsider that if I was you. Some attraction in a relationship is important, admittedly, but it's intimidating to know you'll be judged solely on how you look. I never sent a photo until I'd been chatting a while, and how soon they asked was a pretty good judge of whether they were looking for a relationship or easy sex with a kinky girl. Admittedly it's different when you're seeking men, but that's just my two cents. I never thought of it that way! I'm so glad I asked this question. Thanks so much for your response!

VixenXO -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 7:05:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit 1. If you are getting too many emails, remove the pictures. 2. If you are getting too few emails, add a picture. Or a better picture. 3. If you are getting inappropriate emails, then: A. be more specific about the activities that you enjoy - specifically add some NON-SEXUAL ones, B. adjust mail controls to automatically send certain emails to Bulk Mail. 4. If you are still not finding people you like, look in the forums. Things we post here are for all to read. That means they are not being crafted to appeal to the single person receiving the email. 5. I generally advice people to decrease their standards for a first date/meeting but increase them for the second. As long as you do this in a public place, this costs you only time but tremendously increases the chance of meeting Mr. Right. Lots of great people don't always give a good first impression. 6. There is nothing wrong with a woman finding someone she likes and emailing them first. You don't have to ask them out, you can just ask an innocuous question. If they like you, they will respond, and eventually ask you out. thank you so much for such a detailed response! I have some work to do tonight! xo

MidMichCowboy -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 7:52:02 PM)
I guess I'm from the other school. My picture is on the profile along with height and weight. If there is not a physical attraction, I don't see it working. From what I read on the OP's profile, you want more than just that. Good for you. There are several of us who think there are a lot more important things. I myself want to know a lot about the person. I like a full description of the person (yep, I read all about the person), their list of wants and dislikes, their description of them self, any posting to the forums and whatever else I can find. I don't lower my standards. I am fussy. I think I'm worth it. Each person shouldn't settle but should pursue the best they can.

CruelDesires -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 8:12:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VixenXO quote: ORIGINAL: katie978 As for the photo requirement, I might reconsider that if I was you. Some attraction in a relationship is important, admittedly, but it's intimidating to know you'll be judged solely on how you look. I never sent a photo until I'd been chatting a while, and how soon they asked was a pretty good judge of whether they were looking for a relationship or easy sex with a kinky girl. Admittedly it's different when you're seeking men, but that's just my two cents. I never thought of it that way! I'm so glad I asked this question. Thanks so much for your response! I disagree. If you want to see a pic and make it your requirement, by all means ask for it. I dont think that a "master" would be intimidated by that request. Puleeze. C-D

kinkypuppy2 -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 9:03:56 PM)
Hey it only took me 2-3 years to find a slave.. Be patient and be yourself.

Solipsistic -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/5/2008 9:35:45 PM)
I would agree that patience is a virtue. Also, go looking for a guy who fits your needs. Not all dominants are willing to troll CM looking for girls to message and some prefer the girls to contact them first. I would also say that if you want a picture then ask for it. Physical attraction is an integral element of chemistry for some people and if you are one of them, you shouldn't be ashamed of it. As for your current profile, I would suggest going into more detail about yourself as a person. Everyone here is into kink; what makes one girl appeal to me over another is her character and personality, and both of those things come out in a well written profile that tells me a little about who she is outside of her kinky side.

L8bloomer -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/6/2008 12:26:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy My picture is on the profile along with height and weight. If there is not a physical attraction, I don't see it working. I agree with you...in part. Let me tell you a story. :) When I was in my early 20's, I met a man I initially wasn't attracted to in the least. I did enjoy his company though and eventually he won me over big time. While even then I wouldn't have called him good looking or anything terribly attractive, I'd fallen for him and because of that I was attracted to him. Sometimes physical attraction may not happen right away. :) quote: ORIGINAL: Solipsistic Not all dominants are willing to troll CM looking for girls to message and some prefer the girls to contact them first. I know your message was for the OP, but reading it just sort of turned on a lightbulb in my head. I know this is going to sound incredibly stupid, because it's not as if the thought hadn't occurred to me, but reading your message made me suddenly realize that it really is okay for me to the be the one to contact a dominant man who interests me. Maybe that is how it was meant to be for me...hmmm... Edited to add second comment

Huntertn -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/7/2008 6:42:22 PM)
remember its the goal at the end that counts..Your going about it the right way..just give it time...

MusicalBoredom -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/7/2008 7:56:07 PM)
I agree with what everyone else has said. I would add that it's a lot like finding something in any type of relationship -- quit looking. I have usually just look for real friends whose company I enjoy. I have found many along the way. Some of those friendships have turned out to be more than just friends. I have never had any success at anything meaningful when I was looking for love/sex/submission/whatever.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/7/2008 8:28:11 PM)
I live a few hours from you by car, but your profile as written is not one I would write to. The reason is that it comes off as though you were extremely horny when you wrote it, without considering what you would enjoy doing or exploring outside the bedroom. As an aside, I don't send photos in a first email, even when they are "required," and I don't think that's cost me much in terms of real-time contact. I say something interesting, and mention that if she responds I'll send a pic. Seems to work. My main point about your profile is that I would have no way to say something interesting to you, because I have NO IDEA WHAT INTERESTS YOU.

Leatherist -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/7/2008 8:54:44 PM)
You will have pretty much what you ask for. Men tend to be funny that way-anything to get laid. I'd think pretty hard about what a "master" is to you. Especially since your ad reads pretty much like a bottom seeking M/s roleplay.

VixenXO -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/8/2008 3:26:18 PM)
Thanks Everyone, I've edited my profile a bit. It's still a bit sexual, probably because I'm overly sexual and it ends up bleeding into everything. I added a few things about me as well. I plan to revamp it a bit in the next few days when I have some time off, but until then, this shall have to suffice. :)

apiercedkitty -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/8/2008 4:37:23 PM)
K, i had to - i perved your profile... thought it was ok - but the part about the profile pic comes off as rather bitchy. If i were a D-type that would turn me off immediately. Just my opinion, of course. Good luck in your search.

RealSub58 -> RE: Just a simple question... (8/8/2008 4:39:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VixenXO I am having such a hard time finding a master on here, are there any tips anyone could give me on how to edit my profile to find what I am looking for? I feel that it is pretty detailed. I get several messages daily, but none that really catch my eye. Thanks so much in advance xoxo Vixen, If you have been looking only since you joined 7/27/08, some have been looking for years. Good things come to those who endure and have patience. Good luck

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