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elleelisa -> The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 10:20:31 PM)

Curvy or thin, short or tall?  We all have our preferences; what are yours?

I started thinking about this because of the "sex and self-worth" thread and I'm curious what are people's thoughts on the subject.  I know it's a personal thing, but it's ironic because I find that while the media portrays thinnner/fit people as more desirable and the only "true way to be sexy," when asking my guy friends (I don't really have any female friends...) probably 80% agree that plumper is the way to go.  Then again, some are into plastic boobs and 25" waists, so it really depends.

(Granted this is really superficial [I prefer substance over anything] but I'm just curious.  On that note, does only wanting to date tall guys count as a fetish?  (Like 6'1" and over??)





CruelDesires -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 10:27:49 PM)

I prefer shorter women. That is my preference. It does not make me sexually excited so it is not a "kink".

C-D



Leatherist -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 10:31:33 PM)

I like women with small breasts. It messes with the heads of the big breasted ones who see that as what men want-big ones. I see them as cowlike and disgusting. They cannot understand what is "wrong" with me for feeling that way.



RedMagic1 -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 10:33:48 PM)

The things I find sexiest are (1) inner confidence and creativity, and (2) thinking that I am sexy, weird as that might sound.  I would want a candidate for a long-term relationship to have habits consistent with her maintaining long-term health.  If she's overweight or underweight, the reason for that is more important to me than how she looks.

Preferring tall men, or black women, is just a preference, unless that's all you care about to the exclusion of a person's humanity. Say there were only two guys left in the world, and one was a tall asshole, but the other was perfect for you except that he was short.  If you choose the short guy, you have a preference.  If you choose the tall guy, you have a fetish.  The shoe on the other foot is that I have a friend on this site who is a black woman, and it is a major turnoff for guys to mail her something along the lines of, "I've always wanted a black slave."  Unable to see deeper than her skin color.

Your eyes are fantastic, by the way.

-- TooShortAndOldDom



Diphon -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 10:43:25 PM)

Thick Girls, Thin Girls, girls somewhere in the middle... cute is cute. 



Maxwell67 -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 10:45:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I like women with small breasts. It messes with the heads of the big breasted ones who see that as what men want-big ones. I see them as cowlike and disgusting. They cannot understand what is "wrong" with me for feeling that way.


You have a right to your dislikes, that is not why they think there is something wrong with you.  It is because you are unkind enough to list them, their whys and wherefores that they think there is something wrong with you.  What is wrong with you?



Hippiekinkster -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 10:58:32 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I like women with small breasts. It messes with the heads of the big breasted ones who see that as what men want-big ones. I see them as cowlike and disgusting. They cannot understand what is "wrong" with me for feeling that way.
You know, I lean towards medium to small breasts myself. I just do not understand the fetish for udders. I think large breasts ruin the lines and the symetry of a woman's form. They look unbalanced.  



porcelain26 -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 11:01:48 PM)

I've felt judged by my size for most of my life, and as unpleasant as that's been, it's given me the unique perspective of understanding that what's inside is far more important than what's outside. Granted, I love looking at men with bulging biceps and tight asses, but if they can't string together an intelligent sentence or understand that there is a time and place to behave like an asshole, I'm beyond not interested. I think my 'preferences' have more to do with my own personal insecurities than anything else. For instance, I'm drawn to taller, bigger guys, because I don't like feeling like I could snap him in half *laughing* I don't believe I have any specific physical requirements, however. I am, at first glance, more attracted to men with darker hair (my Owner has brown hair, however, and I believe that particular attraction is due to this fact). The first thing I notice on a man is his eyes (I'm a sucker for beautiful eyes), next is his smile, then his hands. But like I said, he could be the most gorgeous man ever created, but if he was a jerk or an idiot, I wouldn't be interested.

As a side note; I remember feeling very insecure once when my Owner was going to be meeting my 6' tall, stunningly goregous best friend, and I told Him that He would love playing with her because she was so beautiful. His reply to me was "I've fucked enough beautiful women. What I care about is control." Had anyone else said this to me, I may have been deeply offended, but that simple statement gave me (and still gives me) and incredible sense of confidence not only in my relationship with Him, but in myself. I know I give Him control like no other, and I know that level of devotion is what makes, but more importantly KEEPS, Him hard (not to mention interested, engaged, and happy). His confidence in me and His pride at having such a devoted slave to call His own, translates into my confidence in myself. And as we all know, the single most attractive quality on anyone....is confidence!



Leatherist -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 11:04:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Maxwell67

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I like women with small breasts. It messes with the heads of the big breasted ones who see that as what men want-big ones. I see them as cowlike and disgusting. They cannot understand what is "wrong" with me for feeling that way.


You have a right to your dislikes, that is not why they think there is something wrong with you.  It is because you are unkind enough to list them, their whys and wherefores that they think there is something wrong with you.  What is wrong with you?



Because I discriminate and choose-they same way some of them reject short men-but that is different. [:D]



MercTech -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 11:27:26 PM)

Hey, tall, red hair, green eyes, long hair, buxom... that will get my attention at 100 yards.

But, what is between the ears is what will keep my attention no matter what the package.

The package I want to wrap in multi colored shibari like a christmas gift and take really need looking photos of just might NOT be the package that would work in my household.

Between the ears is where I look for more than package wrapping.

Stefan



Maxwell67 -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 11:36:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: porcelain26
As a side note; I remember feeling very insecure once when my Owner was going to be meeting my 6' tall, stunningly goregous best friend, and I told Him that He would love playing with her because she was so beautiful. His reply to me was "I've fucked enough beautiful women. What I care about is control." Had anyone else said this to me, I may have been deeply offended, but that simple statement gave me (and still gives me) and incredible sense of confidence not only in my relationship with Him, but in myself. I know I give Him control like no other, and I know that level of devotion is what makes, but more importantly KEEPS, Him hard (not to mention interested, engaged, and happy). His confidence in me and His pride at having such a devoted slave to call His own, translates into my confidence in myself. And as we all know, the single most attractive quality on anyone....is confidence!

Why be offended at all?  You may be one of those beautiful women he was referring to.  That was extraordinarily well played, on your Masters part.  *claps*



hisannabelle -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 11:46:53 PM)

greetings elleelisa,

i prefer tall, big built men. He is short (a few inches taller than me) and up until He gained weight after a bout of hyperthyroidism and having His thyroid radiated, was rather thin. i think He's sexy as hell nevertheless. most of my previous partners have been tall or short and very thin/small builds, but i would have to say i think tall and big built is what i find most attractive in general. i love being around a man who can dwarf me, which is somewhat difficult to do :)

He prefers short, slightly overweight women. i'm short and clinically obese, although most tell me i only look somewhat overweight (i'm extremely top-heavy). i know He would be pleased if i lost 30-40lbs., but because of my health situation and past history i am approaching health with a totally different attitude...so if it happens, it happens. He still finds me attractive, though :)

hope this answers your questions! i'm wondering on the fetish question myself...He's about 5'8" but i have a 6'4"+ fetish ;)

respectfully,
a'ishah.



Maxwell67 -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/7/2008 11:57:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hisannabelle
hope this answers your questions! i'm wondering on the fetish question myself...He's about 5'8" but i have a 6'4"+ fetish ;)


There are more ways to have the stature of a big man, than height. Height just gives one a genetic advantage in the presence game. In the end it is all about presence. How much space does he take up in your perceptions?  If He is holding your focus that ought to tell you something.



porcelain26 -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/8/2008 12:06:20 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Maxwell67

That was extraordinarily well played, on your Masters part.  *claps*


Yes it was *grinning* The Man is a genius - He understands me better than I understand myself sometimes.



hisannabelle -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/8/2008 1:22:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Maxwell67

quote:

ORIGINAL: hisannabelle
hope this answers your questions! i'm wondering on the fetish question myself...He's about 5'8" but i have a 6'4"+ fetish ;)


There are more ways to have the stature of a big man, than height. Height just gives one a genetic advantage in the presence game. In the end it is all about presence. How much space does he take up in your perceptions?  If He is holding your focus that ought to tell you something.


oh, i agree :) He has an amazing presence, and He's the sexiest man on earth in my mind. i just tend to be more physically attracted to taller men - if you lined up a bunch of equally attractive men in a row, but some were short and some were tall, it's likely i'd pick the tallest, emotional connection and knowledge of the person completely notwithstanding. since this thread was speaking specifically on the subject of physical preferences, i don't even limit who i date or play with based on gender, race, weight, height or anything like that...but it's unfortunately or fortunately a fact of life that i tend to find physically taller and bigger built - in terms of actual height, weight, and bone structure - men more attractive. as i mentioned, though, who i end up in relationships with doesn't always hold to those grounds, so those are not hard and fast rules :) by the by, i also tend to be drawn more to older men - He is 55, for example - but i've been in long-term relationships with people six months younger than me, before. definitely not a hard and fast rule.

respectfully,
a'ishah.



OrionTheWolf -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/8/2008 6:27:46 AM)

Short and petite. Slender as long as they are doing it in a healthy way. Do not like plump.



hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/8/2008 7:39:31 AM)

I freely admit that I'm shallow as far as who I will and won't date.  While most of the parameters aren't bound in stone, some of them are.  And the ones that are, are such that many would find Offencive to one extent or another.  If I find someone physically unappealing, it doesn't matter how good a friend they can become - I'm Not going to date them.  My dating parameters don't affect simple friendship - but they do definately affect whether or not I am willing to actually DATE someone.  Dating specifically is for the purpose of courtship - finding a mate.  If I already know from looking at them that they wouldn't be acceptable to me on some level as a Mate, then dating them is a pointless waste of my time and theirs.
 
As for what my preferences are : tall (I've dated short men, all of the ones I've dated had Napolean Complexs of one sort or another; average to athletic build without being obsessive about it; within 5 years younger to 12 years older than myself (outside of that range, I find there are to many generational differences for me to be comfortable).  The rest I'm keeping to myself for various reasons. 



CalifChick -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/8/2008 9:50:14 AM)

It wouldn't be a fat thread if someone didn't say that large breasts are "cowlike", "udders", etc.  All is right with the world.


Cali



fluffyswitch -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/8/2008 10:03:35 AM)

i have preferences, i just never seem to actually date anyone that falls within them (with the exception of body modification, i heart the piercings), which makes me wonder if i really do have any preferences at all.



SingleRarity -> RE: The "weight" discussion (8/8/2008 10:27:06 AM)

All of the men I've dated would be considered "conventionally" attractive.  Some were thinner, taller, etc, but all of them were fit, and clean cut guys, even the one with long hair.  Daddy is the biggest man I've dated.  Not in the sense of weight, but in terms of muscle mass and hieght.  I love being held in his strong arms.  I think he's smokin' hot!  He's also intellegent, educated, witty, and successful.  I like the total package.

Note on the boobie discussion:  Daddy likes small real breasts or big fake ones, but not big real ones. 

Daddy's Ballerina "e"



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