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presents - 11/19/2005 2:56:05 AM   
lucy59


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Status: offline 		this year will be the first year I have been with my Master. I am not sure about presents. Could someone advise me? What sort of things would be suitable and wouldnt offend. Perhaps I am worrying too much but would like to be able to give my Master the perfect gift for him
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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 3:03:01 AM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Master loves when i make him things with my own hands. So far i have made him a bdsm themed quilt, a flogger (i even braided the handle), wrists and ankle cuffs and i have made him heaps of fun t-shirts where i design and apply a transfer to.

Other than i try to think of something he needs but has been putting off buying.

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 3:12:46 AM   
imtempting


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Status: offline 		Well you need to look at the relationship. Do you want to give him something based on bdsm or something not. Like a shirt etc

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 5:54:50 AM   
ProtagonistLily


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quote:

this year will be the first year I have been with my Master. I am not sure about presents. Could someone advise me? What sort of things would be suitable and wouldnt offend. Perhaps I am worrying too much but would like to be able to give my Master the perfect gift for him


(Note, for sake of this post, I'm using the male gender as it relates to Dominant. These thoughts will easily translate to female Dominants as well, but sake of brevity, I didn't do that He/She thing. Ladies, I hope you understand)

Babe, if you don't know this guy well enough after a year to know what gift to give him, how would any of us know?

Seriously, sometimes I think we get so wrapped up in the role that we forget that our Dominants are regular guys. I've been Christmas shopping for Sir since August. He had a website that described some of the things he's been looking for for a hobby he loves. So, I have been E-baying my ass off getting him these things.

Without offending the Doms out there, I think it's important to remember that they are still men, and all men have a certain amount of 'boy' in them. I think the trick is knowing your partner well enough to know what will appeal to him. I could tell you the things I got Sir, but they wouldn't mean anything to you and certainly would probably not appeal to your Dominant as gifts. However, Sir's going to go nuckin-futz on Christmas morning ~grin~

Lily

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 8:08:25 AM   
jamesthehumanrug


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Status: offline 		greetings sublucy
CELEBRATE
give a person what they like exactly ,if you love them ,if ,not, GIVE WHATEVER ;send it prority.

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 8:51:32 AM   
sub4hire


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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 11:31:32 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Does he collect anything? Is there something he would like to start collecting? You could help him get started on that.

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 12:30:55 PM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		Ask :)

Also--Lily, I've been with my partner three years and I -still- never have any ideas for him :) Sometimes people are just impossible to buy for,

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 12:41:05 PM   
submissivesilk


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Status: offline 		i've only known Sir for about 6 months, and i'm having the same problem. i've asked Him for suggestions and He says not to bother, sheesh lol.

Thought about a watch, and asked Him but He says He breaks them to easily. Well i crochet so He is getting a scarf lol. i don't think He can break that.

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 12:49:08 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		your gift of submissiveness to him is priceless and all you have to give, because he loves you for that.
So, like all loving family members, buy him a tie or a pair of socks.

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 12:56:02 PM   
submissivesilk


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Status: offline 		uh oh, not the submission gift thing again.

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 1:08:10 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		yes, the submissive gift thing again. It's like the pretty cherry that was once there, but now gone, still the box is sooooooo purdy

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 6:00:10 PM   
sanita


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Status: offline 		i just sent my Master two Meat Puppets CDs for His birthday. That is His favorite group, and one of the CDs has his favorite song on it. He is working in Miami, and just got Himself a PO Box.

The thing is, that is a girlfriend gift. i know Him, and i know what He likes. i can buy Him clothes, and i can cook some of His favorite things.

If you and your Master are in a relationship that is strictly BDSM, then a BDSM-type gift, or even setting up for a huge fantasy of His, which doesn't have to be costly, might be appropriate. If it is a romantic relationship and friendship, you have a lot more to offer.

Heck, even if it is strictly BDSM, if you know He's a fan of a certain writer, buy Him the latest book, or collection. Really, whatever it is, if you put thought and caring into it, He will appreciate it, i am sure.

If you were getting a coworker a gift, and knew they loved a certain scent, and you found a candle in that scent, then boom, you have found a gift! i'll bet you know what your Master loves. Go from there.

Good luck!

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RE: presents - 11/19/2005 8:57:48 PM   
comesoncommand


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ORIGINAL: fastlane

yes, the submissive gift thing again. It's like the pretty cherry that was once there, but now gone, still the box is sooooooo purdy


LMAO!

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RE: presents - 11/20/2005 8:23:48 AM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		I have often found that the most treasured present is that which is made from your own two hands, and given with your heart.

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RE: presents - 11/20/2005 8:58:45 AM   
Cloudz


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ORIGINAL: fastlane

yes, the submissive gift thing again. It's like the pretty cherry that was once there, but now gone, still the box is sooooooo purdy


Ah, the gift that keeps on giving.

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RE: presents - 11/20/2005 1:27:36 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

Does he collect anything? Is there something he would like to start collecting? You could help him get started on that.


Be careful, this can become addictive for you too. I STILL find myself stopping and looking at Dale Earnhardt stuff and I haven't been in that relationship for YEARS.

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RE: presents - 11/20/2005 5:41:42 PM   
LessThanKate


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Status: offline 		I understand the gifting dillema. Honestly, the best idea is to take matters into your own hands-- literally. Make Him something, compile a photo album. I'm knitting my Dom a scarf for Xmas-time. Anything that comes from your hands, He will love.

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RE: presents - 11/20/2005 5:46:02 PM   
KatyLied


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Be careful, this can become addictive for you too. I STILL find myself stopping and looking at Dale Earnhardt stuff and I haven't been in that relationship for YEARS.


Yes, you are so correct.

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RE: presents - 11/20/2005 6:58:40 PM   
girl4you2


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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

I have often found that the most treasured present is that which is made from your own two hands, and given with your heart.

just be darned sure where you put your most precious gifts and ensure they will be well spent....

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