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windchymes -> RE: My personal solution to the sub/slave debate... (8/9/2008 10:13:02 AM)
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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY
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ORIGINAL: windchymes
Maybe it's when people will stop thinking one is better than the other and stop trying to identify with the one that makes them feel superior to the rest.
I definitely understand what you're saying, but I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that it will pretty much never happen.
There is something in humans that drives them to want to be accepted by others. I would imagine that it is tied into evolutionary psychology... that mans' survival was greatly improved by being accepted to a group... by belonging to collection whose strength lay in numbers.
Yet man also has this desire to stand out from the crowd... to be noticed and thought of as "special". I suspect that stems from the natural drive to procreate; being recognized as "the best" ensured selection as a mate.
Here among "BDSM lifestylers" there is the safety of a group... yet the individual desire for uniqueness drives some members to strive to narrow the criteria for acceptance. It allows them to simultaneously push out other members and to draw attention to and hold themselves out as "the best", yet still guarantee their acceptance into the group thus ensuring their "safety".
Of course, there are always those who will argue for loosening the acceptance criteria. I would surmise they fall generally into two camps...
Those who wish to solidify their membership in the group by encouraging a consensus on criteria to which they unquestioningly meet;
Or those who don't particularly care whether they are accepted to the group. Perhaps they have found their mate and are confident of their own survival outside of the group... perhaps they recognize that equal safety exists in the larger group that is less defined... or perhaps they simply have evolved beyond the need to belong.
Of course, it could be that by arguing for greater acceptance into the membership, the advocates are both ensuring their position within the group by "watering down" the membership while at the same time making themselves stand out by virtue of their campaigning.
lol... Who knows?
Ain't the diversity of humanity grand? [:D]
Oh, I completely agree with everything you said! It's very much human nature, from everything to which sports team you support, which religion you practice or don't practice, which civic organization you belong to, which fraternity or sorority, whether you work for Coke or Pepsi, and politics.....don't even go there, lol.
I think diversity is grand, I enjoy it. (Sometimes it irritates me, but on the whole....lol)
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