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pandoravampire -> RE: Starting out (11/19/2005 9:06:56 PM)
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My personal experience is that a long term relationship couple are more likely to have the levels of trust and boredom lol, that enhances your willingness to try new areas of sexual experience. ie. kinky vanilla.
For the sex fix of bdsm- this is fine. For the power exchange experience, it doesnt cut it, so it depends what it is that you are seeking?
I started by converting unsuspecting but willing vanilla partners to let me do 'kinky' things with them. But i found this shallow to the extreem when compared to sharing a bdsm experience with another like minded individual. Much like the difference in on line D/s to real life D/s - NO comparison!
So a good friend directed me to 3 websites, where i could read, learn, and discuss this lifestyle with others.
From doing this, i learnt what it was i sought, which was a power exchange. Wasnt too bothered if that was topping or bottoming.
Then i went on to search for that special person for me. Im one of the lucky ones that found that person.
I answered a advetisment from a Dom, that to me sounded likeable. We emailed, talked on the phone, got to know one another and finally met up, to test if the 'chemistry' we were feeling was correct and would be good for playing with each other. It was.
My opinion is that you should not wait untill your physical image reflect you sexuality. Your sexuality is allready there, why not express it? Be aware that your transgendered status right now, will appeal to people for varying reasons, some of those reasons you may not be as comfortable with as others.
take it slow, go at your own pace.
On the one hand, you have a hurdle some of us dont have, on the other, you have a asset that some of us dont have. Depends where your head space is right now.
the usual advice of find a local group and meet others to talk things over with, learn from, be guided by applies.
have fun, be safe, and keep posting. Welcome.
pandoravampire
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