Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever?

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Yes

33% (28)

35% (30)

Would depend on the person/persons involved

30% (26)

Total Votes : 84

(last vote on : 11/4/2008 6:16:22 PM)
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natasha66 -> Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 3:32:03 PM)
I was wondering how many of us can play with others in this lifestyle without ANY emotional attactment....I know for myself I cannot......

GreedyTop -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 3:34:27 PM)
Depends on how you define emotional attachment. I do have to like the person I play with..

ncprincess -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 3:36:34 PM)
I agree with GreedyTop, I have to like the person I play with....but, expanding that thought, if I'm just "playing" I'll be the top....in order for me to submit, I need the emotional involvement.

natasha66 -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 3:37:09 PM)
That's what I meant.....sorry it was not clear [:D]

Raziyalale -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 3:41:14 PM)
for me to "play" with anyone as a submissive i have to feel safe because after all i feel i am putting my life in the other persons hands so i feel i could not do it without some level of emotions but that is just my thoughts

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 3:42:16 PM)
Yes, I can, I have and I will again in the future when I am either single, or my partner lets me. I don't need any connection whatso ever to play with someone. Now if I don't like you, or you made a bad impression on me when we first met I will not, but other than that, nope no connection needed at all. I've played with people who I didn't know and enjoyed it quite well. Same as enjoying playing with people whom I knew. quote: ORIGINAL: natasha66 I was wondering how many of us can play with others in this lifestyle without ANY emotional attactment....I know for myself I cannot......

Daddysredhead -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 5:17:25 PM)
I've only submitted myself to Daddy for any type of play, except at my birthday party, where He restrained me with His arms while He allowed another Dom to use a violet wand all over me and get me off that way. I had never met him before the party, but he was very well known to everyone there and has taught electrical play up and down the East Coast for Black Rose, so I was fine. It was intense, and I enjoyed it. I have topped a couple of girls and while they were friends, I didn't feel esp. "attached" to them. The new subs I would like to play with, I feel no attachment for, so I guess my answer is no. However, I cannot imagine letting another person do the things Daddy has done to me, but we've been a couple for 5 years. I guess I make no sense whatsoever. [&:]

GreedyTop -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 5:19:19 PM)
made perfect sense to me, Red

Daddysredhead -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 5:31:29 PM)
Whew... thanks, GT. I felt like I was all over the place. goes and sits down quietly lol

MysticFireTopaz -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 5:33:13 PM)
I have topped a number of people during casual play at play parties. I had no particular emotional attachment to them. As others have said, I would have to at least like the person. To me, it is not as satisfying as playing with someone with whom I have a deep emotional connection, but it is doable and enjoyable. Lady Topaz

Nitefalls1000 -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 5:41:06 PM)
I can but prefer not too

silkncarol -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 6:25:11 PM)
Ditto what Nitefalls said................. quote: ORIGINAL: Nitefalls1000 I can but prefer not too

Leatherist -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 6:28:10 PM)
I prefer NOT to at this stage in life. I see bdsm more as art. It's the reason I also avoid having sex.

Tantriqu -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 6:47:32 PM)
Nope, not any more. When younger and just realising how intoxicating D/s sex was, tried it a couple of times, once with cute-but-stupid and once with not-mr.right-but-mr. rightnow. Never again. Need the whole package of someone whose company I enjoy before, during, and after mind-blowing orgasms. Otherwise he's just an unsatisfactory Hitachi.

Alumbrado -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 7:24:01 PM)
Where did you get the idea that casual play is about sex and orgasms?

Leatherist -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 7:32:14 PM)
Exactly. I'm not just a life support system for a "fuck stick." A great deal of the bdsm play I have done was not at all about sex or romantic intimacy- It was to practice things I see as art-or to play with control.

LadyIce -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 8:04:40 PM)
I could, but I don't, it would do very little for me. So why bother?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 9:05:40 PM)
I can have loads of fun with no strings attached. And no sex, either!! Sometimes a flogger is just a flogger.

cravesdom -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 10:30:56 PM)
I have in the past but I have to admit that when there is an emotional attachment it means a lot more to me.

subveritas -> RE: Can you play without any emotional attachment whatsoever? (8/10/2008 10:50:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Raziyalale for me to "play" with anyone as a submissive i have to feel safe because after all i feel i am putting my life in the other persons hands so i feel i could not do it without some level of emotions but that is just my thoughts I agree. I have to know someone well enough to trust them cause someone could get hurt. And more than likely me, but I am very co-dependent and know to be careful. So I watch, though when I was younger I could "play" with no emotions involved. Which I think tended to make me seem like a wannabe, since I could "play" go home and promptly forget them. Though then later was the fear of allowing my emotions to be involved. I am glad I found someone who allows me to open up and truly allow me to enjoy the experience. And really it has nothing to do with sex or anything else like that if anything "play" has a connection deeper than sex or an orgasm. At least for me, but I am also a cuddler.

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