Maxwell67
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth quote:
2) Never be satisfied. Max, That used to be my 'prime directive' in every aspect of my life. Now, it is not a factor in my personal life, and is not a driving force or considerable part of my business ambitions. Perhaps it is a function of maturing, or simply a matter of getting old; but I don't think so. I still don't 'settle'; which I believe is a 'mortal sin'. However I don't envy either. I don't care that I'm not the 'biggest' or most well know entity in my particular industry. I'll read and relate to other's relationship representations. I'll challenge and ask questions. I believe there is an infinite range of relationship possibilities and hold firm in the belief that there is no lifestyle 'dogma' to follow or set of 'rules' outlining a path to succeed in any 'one true way'. The standards for my relationship and personal life are 'dogma' only for us. Our satisfaction with them isn't "settling" because neither settled for the other. We both felt, and feel, that in the other we found our ideal compliment. Our 5 1/2 years together is best represented a 'black hole' singularity; simultaneously representing both an instant and forever. I AM satisfied. Which is not to say that I'm done accomplishing things, doing things, or experiencing new things. I still have these as driving forces in my personality and life. I keep score in any game and play it to win. Personal satisfaction at giving an honest attempt has become more important than winning. I'm still angered and frustrated at the mere thought of loosing but no longer see loosing defining me as a 'loser'. The 'game' of life has been so much more FUN to play being "satisfied" regardless of the outcome. I used to belief it was ideal never to be "satisfied". Now I'd recommend satisfaction as a goal. The caveat being - never settle. I believe I understand what you are trying to say here. And I both agree and disagree(and I have a feeling we will find we actually agree) and here is why: Iagree with the spirit of your post, but I disagree with how you are defining "satisfied." For you it means to be happy enough with the result thusfar to be able to put it down, at least for a while. For me, to be satisfied with something is to be full of it, and need no more ("to grok it in fullness", if you are a Heinlein fan).
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