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How to find a good key holder. - 11/19/2005 10:48:59 PM

norelease

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I am a 23 year old virgin locked in a CB3000 and I have no key holder. I hope to give my keys to a Woman who will train me to serve so I can in some way make women happy. Any advice would help.

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RE: How to find a good key holder. - 11/20/2005 5:05:22 AM

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I am a 23 year old virgin locked in a CB3000 and I have no key holder. I hope to give my keys to a Woman who will train me to serve so I can in some way make women happy. Any advice would help.

Are you seeking a keyholder service, or are you looking for a relationship.

If you are looking for a keyholder service, negotiate with a local prodomme to be your keyholder, and be gracious and willing to pay her fee.

If you are looking for a relationship, dig in there and be prepared to spend time developing a relationship that isn't all about getting your fetish needs met. This will take patience, dedication, and effort on your part. You'll need to update your profile to reflect that you are indeed a whole person with much to offer other than just your kink, and you'll want to refine your approach so you don't hit Dommes head on with "Hi, will you do me in this way?" You'll also want to get yourself out into your local scene - I strongly suggest volunteering to do whatever work at local scene events that needs doing, as that's a great way to meet people. You will also want to spend some serious time learning as much about all this as a lifestyle as possible.

All of this should be fairly obvious, and is standard advice to anyone who is looking to experience kink activities. There's a LOT of boys out there looking, and you're not going to get exactly what you want handed to you on a platter with no effort on your part. Life just isn't like that.

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RE: How to find a good key holder. - 11/20/2005 8:54:30 AM

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You might consider spending a bit more time on your profile. You do not give the reader much to go on, except that you want chastity.

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RE: How to find a good key holder. - 11/20/2005 9:05:42 AM

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I agree with MsSonnetMarwood and I'll add one more thing:

What exactly would anyone get out of being said keyholder?

From my perspective, what in it for me?

I'm looking at my keyring right now -- house keys, car keys, office key, elevator key, lounge key, my own slave's collar key.

I have a lot of keys, why would I add one more?

When you can answer that, then you'll be able to write a much better profile and have a better chance at finding said key holder.

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RE: How to find a good key holder. - 11/22/2005 8:52:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I agree with MsSonnetMarwood and I'll add one more thing:

What exactly would anyone get out of being said keyholder?

From my perspective, what in it for me?

I'm looking at my keyring right now -- house keys, car keys, office key, elevator key, lounge key, my own slave's collar key.

I have a lot of keys, why would I add one more?

When you can answer that, then you'll be able to write a much better profile and have a better chance at finding said key holder.

But isnt that quite clear? Your question could be "why should I hold YOUR key" - I am sure you know the pleasure of controlling a frustrated man in chastity. Spending some time in chastity myself, I would hate my keyholder/Domme/Owner to simply look at the keys and feel nothing?
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RE: How to find a good key holder. - 11/22/2005 8:58:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: arione12

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I agree with MsSonnetMarwood and I'll add one more thing:

What exactly would anyone get out of being said keyholder?

From my perspective, what in it for me?

I'm looking at my keyring right now -- house keys, car keys, office key, elevator key, lounge key, my own slave's collar key.

I have a lot of keys, why would I add one more?

When you can answer that, then you'll be able to write a much better profile and have a better chance at finding said key holder.

But isnt that quite clear? Your question could be "why should I hold YOUR key" - I am sure you know the pleasure of controlling a frustrated man in chastity. Spending some time in chastity myself, I would hate my keyholder/Domme/Owner to simply look at the keys and feel nothing?
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arione12

Actually no, it doesn't.

There has to be a connection between the person in chastity and the person demanding the chastity for me to feel anything.

Just controling someone else sexuality? So? Sorry, not really a thrill, and I can do that just by walking naked around my house or with a word for the men in my life -- I don't need a key or equipment to do that.

So my question still stands.

What is really being offered here that would make someone want to become a key holder?

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RE: How to find a good key holder. - 11/22/2005 9:03:28 AM

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Ok ok, I give. *S* I was speaking in general, and You for this speciffic case..sorry for misunderstanding.
..but the guy was a 23 year old virgin? Isnt that a bit interesting? I would think so if I were a Domme..but I am not so.. *s*

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RE: How to find a good key holder. - 11/22/2005 9:29:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: norelease

I am a 23 year old virgin locked in a CB3000 and I have no key holder. I hope to give my keys to a Woman who will train me to serve so I can in some way make women happy. Any advice would help.

I have some questions for those that are into chastity and seek a keyholder.

Is it enough to have a woman take your key and hold it and not give it back until you safeword or give up? Is the thrill from sending away your key and then realizing you have no control and a woman has it in her possession?

Or, would it be better, at least, if she emailed teases, made you listen to teasing voice mails, challenged you by adding an element of denial that made the chastity painful -- and made it more like an interaction? (mind you, I am using this as an example as a woman that offered this as a service to multiple men, but instead of just taking the key, she added more to it).

Or, is the only way you'd offer a key is in a relationship where the woman does really own you or want to own you -- or there is a personal, emotional connection between both of you?

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RE: How to find a good key holder. - 11/22/2005 1:23:16 PM

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As far as I know, many male slave/subs are into the first two categories that You describe. For me personally, it would never work. The services offered by prodommes for keyholding would mean nothing to me. But all that goes back to why one wants to submit - submission to someone that doesnt gain pleasure from domination will mean nothing to me...make sense?

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RE: How to find a good key holder. - 11/22/2005 3:20:21 PM

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I LOVE being a Keyholder!! I love the begging (see My post on that topic!) and I love arrangoing chastity schedules and making the slave WAIT. I love crafting fantasies for the slave who pleases Me and playing little head games with him!

I have been Keyholder before and am currently in-between slaves. I miss it! I miss the power sand the thrill! I miss the slave begging, serving, offering to Me, pleading... and I miss the connection!

I do have slaves on My Chastity schedule, the Calendar on My website gives the days of indulgence, but none of them are currently in Chastity. I miss it so! A slave has to have his own chastity device or be willing to buy it and must read my Lessons (wspecially the one about enforced chastity) and be willing to do things for Me, but those who make the cut find that the chastity is severe and long term.

It isnb't impossible to find a Keyholder, but you have to offer Her something in return.

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