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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/12/2008 9:24:41 PM

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I'd definitely read up on past threads and THEN make a new one if you have something to add or are seeking something nobody has been able to provide before. This thread definitely doesn't need to be here, but it is, so let's move on :)

We're Daddy/girl. I can't really figure out what you're trying to ask, though. There honestly is no "by the book" for any type of relationship - they're all so varied! Ours is certainly D/s in nature, very much so. I'm in charge at all times. We're very much about the power exchange. She's younger, so we fit very nicely into our roles. We have a very loving and intense relationship. There are problems, but there always are in relationships. :)

If you want to chat, hit us up on the other side. We like talking about this and all kinds of other sexual and/or D/s topics.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/13/2008 3:38:06 AM

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Op no need to apologise. I got the same crap with the first question that I asked. I don't care how many times the question has been asked there is always a new prespective on it. If all we had to do was read the old stuff then this would be nothing more than a chat room. We already have one of those.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/13/2008 4:14:16 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Solipsistic

Not that I want to raise any more ire here, but it seems to me that if you have nothing constructive to add, you may as well just not read the thread. There have doubtless been new members who've joined the forums since the last posts on these subjects and they deserve to add their input just as much as all the vets did when they were new. Just because we've seen all these threads before does not mean we need to read them. Just skip them and let people talk about whatever they like.

The thing I like the least about these forums (and has resulted in alienating some great people I tried to introduce here) is the elitist attitude of a few of the older posters. Wisdom means helping others learn. Not proving how jaded you are by it all.

LA has a lot of constructive advice to add, and she does so on a regular basis. She also provides links to previous threads so that the OP, can go back and get even more feedback. If you have a problem with this, skip the posts.

Now if you had replied to the post that said "please learn to use CM's search function /
there are countless threads in which this subject has been argued and discussed "

I would have agreed.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/13/2008 6:33:59 PM

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*sigh*

I say it again, if you don't like it, don't post.

There are some yucky people here.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/14/2008 2:17:12 PM

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A Daddy Dom is just another varient or type of DOM.   A Dom is a Dom is a Dom after all.   But all us DOMs run in different types, sizes and flavors.

Ok, A Daddy Dom is nurturing and loving and supportive of his Little Girl. There actually is an excellent article that's on the Internet somewhere about this. I don't have the link Handy. But it was pretty well thought out and written.

In many ways, I'm a Daddy DOM but I hate to use slap that label upon me alone, because I'm a rather diverse creature.   There are Days, when I simply want to be the evil wicked slave driving bastard using a little girl as my Sex Slave. LOL..

All and All, When it boils down to it. There's a Loving, Supporting and an affectionate person that's part of my soul.

I embrace my dark side and my not so dark sides.   Both sides of my own Yin/Yang Wheel that's part of my personality, mind, spirit or soul.

My Wheel balances out a little differently at times, depending upon my partner that I'm life. Varies from relationship to relationship.

All the labels are just Generalizations at best, and the reality of things don't always fit nice and neat into labels if you start to break things down and nit pick.

Actually being somebody's Daddy gives me the warm and fuzzy feelings.. and well... Geee... I'm a bit like a Teddy Bear with Teeth and Claws I guess. LOL...

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/14/2008 3:55:33 PM

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I think this is pretty relevant:

"As adults, I think we sometimes need to retreat to a semblance of childhood to fill in the blanks and receive some of the unconditional love and sexual validation we never got when we were literally dependant upon our parents." -Patrick Califia" Introduction to "Doin' it For Daddy."

Becoming a "Daddy" is a further deliniation of the role of being the dominant. In many ways, being a Daddy is an addition of responsibility to your role. You are responsible for not just training and keeping a sub, but also their growth as a person. Their education, their health and their well being.

That, and it can be damned fun.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/14/2008 4:39:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Solipsistic
Not that I want to raise any more ire here, but it seems to me that if you have nothing constructive to add, you may as well just not read the thread. There have doubtless been new members who've joined the forums since the last posts on these subjects and they deserve to add their input just as much as all the vets did when they were new. Just because we've seen all these threads before does not mean we need to read them. Just skip them and let people talk about whatever they like.

The thing I like the least about these forums (and has resulted in alienating some great people I tried to introduce here) is the elitist attitude of a few of the older posters. Wisdom means helping others learn. Not proving how jaded you are by it all.

Do you think the original poster deserves one response, whipped off in a few minutes by a dozen or so people who just happen to be reading and responding at this particular moment?

Or that they deserve lots of threads and thoughtful posts by a myriad of people over time from a variety of perspectives?

Personally I consider giving them the answers I've given over a period of years to be far more worthwhile than what I could just come up with in a few minutes. And that's what those links are. Sorry you think otherwise.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/14/2008 7:22:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi

Now if you had replied to the post that said "please learn to use CM's search function /
there are countless threads in which this subject has been argued and discussed "

I would have agreed.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Personally I consider giving them the answers I've given over a period of years to be far more worthwhile than what I could just come up with in a few minutes. And that's what those links are. Sorry you think otherwise.

Just to clarify an unfortunate misunderstanding, my post was not directed at LA in any way. In truth, I adore her posts for the info she routinely compiles for everyone. The fact is, I used Fast Reply and it just tagged it as a response to her post because she was the last poster. The post was directed more towards the people higher in the thread who came out of the gate giving the OP a hard time. That damn Fast Reply gets me every time!

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/15/2008 9:03:44 PM

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And that supprises you why? There's tons of yucky people out there, and collarme is no diffrent.

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ORIGINAL: subswalow

*sigh*

I say it again, if you don't like it, don't post.

There are some yucky people here.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/19/2008 10:00:50 PM

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I never said it surprised me. I was just commenting.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/20/2008 3:24:02 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subswalow

Bird: I know how to use the search function, but we are new here and I am tired of being a lurker, I wanted to start something that I was interested in and would be more willing to converse with people about than other topics of which I have lesser knowledge. I don't want to read, I want to talk to people! I was told the best way to meet people is to get involved in the forums. Sorry if I bothered anyone with my previously-discussed post.

bird,

do not get down over some of the rankle here as it just flows naturally and the best referal source is LA that actually helps.

CP

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/20/2008 3:57:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subswalow

Bird: I know how to use the search function, but we are new here and I am tired of being a lurker, I wanted to start something that I was interested in and would be more willing to converse with people about than other topics of which I have lesser knowledge. I don't want to read, I want to talk to people! I was told the best way to meet people is to get involved in the forums. Sorry if I bothered anyone with my previously-discussed post.

Try asking a quesiton that has some revelance.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/20/2008 5:45:11 AM

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It was relavent to the OP.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/20/2008 5:50:54 AM

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i second that, Angelika.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/20/2008 8:56:59 AM

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Relevance? Um... to what? BDSM? Daddy doms are very relevant to BDSM, in my humble opinion. =3

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/20/2008 9:11:07 AM

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quote:

Sorry if I annoyed anyone, but like many people have already said (and I thank you ALL so kindly for that!) you don't have to post. Heck, you don't even have to read the darn thing. I think sometimes people forget that in a forum, you don't have to respond to every damn thing, just the things you WANT to talk about! It's like any kind of party - you don't make it a goal to talk to every single person who shows up (and if you do, you certainly don't have negative things to say to them. Sheesh.) only the ones that interest you.

I think everyone knows they don't have to post. But if you are going to start a thread then be prepared for the responses you get. Some of this stuff is posted about ad naseum to a degree that is annoying. Also, don't expect to dominate a group of strangers simply by suggesting that they do only what you want them to do. That rarely works around here.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/20/2008 7:14:11 PM

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Bird: You don't dominate anyone by suggesting anything.

I was just pointing it out, really. Not attempting to "dominate" anyone.

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