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Up All Night - 8/15/2008 7:52:41 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		Since I'm going to be up all night anxiously awaiting tomorrow anyway.... could you tell me about meeting for your first real time play with someone who you knew was going to be able to bring out that quality (whatever it may be in your case)? 

That's where I am.  I have some experiences, but not like what lays before me tomorrow.  How were you before?  What was it like to meet? What about your play?  What about after? 

I have probably asked entirely too many questions in one thread and far too personal and I apologize.  Anyone willing to answer would be greatly appreciated.

lovingpet
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RE: Up All Night - 8/15/2008 8:05:13 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		I was nervous, it was wonderful, he is wonderful.  Lasting memories, all of them great.  No way I'm going to detail it for public consumption.    We did not "meet", we had dated and talked and knew each other for months before we got together.

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RE: Up All Night - 8/15/2008 8:08:52 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Try to get some rest or you may be too tired to handle play.

He went out of his way to calm me down, to slow down to a pace I could handle. He didn't want the first time to be the last. He talked to me, checked in with me frequently.

I got smart and made a plate of cheese and crackers and fruit ahead of time so we could take a break and nibble on stuff which helped me keep my energy level up.

And that was five years ago.

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RE: Up All Night - 8/15/2008 8:09:37 PM   
NormalOutside


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Status: offline 		Personal?  Who cares, not me.  :p  Too many questions though, yeah.

When I first met my girl I put my arms around her (in an airport) and it felt like finally getting validation for all those feelings, for all those years talking online and being in love and calling her 'mine'.  Realizing that we were both who we said we were, and that our connection was just as good and stronger even in person.  Our first time together was amazing and I'll never forget it.  It was her first time doing more than hugging a man, so it was very special for us both.

We're still together, after another 2 years of waiting, and now 1 full year together with her here in my home.  :)

Calm down and give yourself a bath or something to relax.  If it's not meant to be, then it won't work out.  If you guys are perfect for each other, you don't have to do anything to make it work.

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RE: Up All Night - 8/15/2008 10:37:15 PM   
Owner4SexSlave


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Status: offline 		Take a deep breath and relax.  As others have said, you'll be deadbeat tired when tomorrow rolls around.

Go to sleep with a smile upon your face, bask in the comfort of what tomorrow will bring.   No need to freak out...

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RE: Up All Night - 8/15/2008 10:54:19 PM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		Congrats... I hope you have a blast tomorrow.  Fisrt play for me was when we both new nothing.  No where near as nice as what you are going have.  At least one of you knows what you are doing from the implicatuions you make.  Just follow his/her lead and all will be well. 

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RE: Up All Night - 8/15/2008 10:56:04 PM   
psilence29


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Status: offline 		I go through exactly this every time I meet someone for the first time. 

But THE very first time, the first meeting wasn't about play.  It was in a diner (they being popular here in the Garden State).  I met a married couple, stammered my way through my shyness, eventually got comfortable with talking. 

The play happened the second meeting.  I remember my hand shaking as I rang the doorbell.  I remember my whole body shaking when I stepped into their home.  But either nervousness was something they were used to, or they were just exceptionally kind people, so it was a gradual ascent, by the end of which it felt like I'd been serving for years.

After, I was just sort of amazed at my capacity, relieved I was right about myself, relieved I didn't embarrass myself.  I still knew I'd had a lot to learn, but it was the beginning of my becoming.

That being said, and the Christmas-eve-like anxiety like an old friend to me, I concur with everyone, at least try to get some sleep.  You'll remember a lot more a lot better that way.

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RE: Up All Night - 8/15/2008 11:10:27 PM   
porcelain26


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Status: offline 		*grins* My first time playing in r/t was also the first time I was ever with Master in person, not to mention the first time I'd ever seen His face (with the exception of one really crappy picture I'd seen years previously). I was completely terrified and shook like a leaf the entire time. Master was wonderful, amazing, and more than I'd ever dreampt He would be. To go into details would take way to long, but it's enough to say that it was a night of many firsts, and the beginning of what's become a truly incredible journey.

I hope your experience is just as amazing!

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RE: Up All Night - 8/15/2008 11:57:29 PM   
sillyslaveboy


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Status: offline 		i can't help with this but lets have it here for the records. my very first time it was with Person i knew for long time already and it was spontaneous. W/we both had a hard day and needed outlet. There was a whole concert hall with its back stage empty. Y/you figure out the rest. :)

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RE: Up All Night - 8/16/2008 7:01:47 AM   
chiaThePet


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Oh, thought this was going to be an informative thread on the uses of Viagra.

Nevermind.

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RE: Up All Night - 8/16/2008 8:47:31 AM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all the encouraging replies and I will continue to check in until time to leave.  I did take the advice and got some sleep after all.  Like I told him this morning, I was like a spastic puppy running around in a circle until I finally just plopped down in a pile and went to sleep.

We will be face to face in a few more hours! 

lovingpet

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RE: Up All Night - 8/16/2008 11:10:38 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		Good luck loving pet! Do come back and tell us how it went!

My first time as a Domme was with a sub boy I had talked to and played online with for some time and had met for lunch previously. When he finally made it to My house I talked nonstop to cover My nerves and he could barely utter a word even when I did stop talking. I proceeded as had been rehearsed many times online, I sat down in My chair and told him to strip. Well, he took off his shirt, then shoes, socks and jeans, no trouble. Stood there in his underpants, shaking. I told him to STRIP! he choked out, "i can't Ma'am, i just can't!" "Great" I thought, "My first ever sub and I can't even get him naked!" On impulse I told him to come over to Me, kneel and give Me some foot worship, something I knew he was looking forward to. he complied so fast and very enthusiastically. After a few minutes I leaned down, hooked My thumbs in his waistband and said "I think you can do without those now pet" and he readily took them off. The rest of the scene was great, really enjoyable for both. Snuggling afterwards and debriefing, I asked him why he wouldn't strip at the start. he blushed and mumbled "because i wasn't hard yet Ma'am!" Whereupon I explained that one of My pleasures would be to see him grow hard ... it was never a problem again. But it was a shaky start!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Up All Night - 8/17/2008 5:25:09 AM   
VioletAshes


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Status: offline 		The first time for me was something I'll never forget. He was forceful yet gentle and ensured that I felt comfortable the whole time. It was the aftercare that was entirely essential, without it I may not hav wanted to continue with the lifestyle.

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RE: Up All Night - 8/17/2008 5:38:44 AM   
panthersub


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Status: offline 		i had nice dreams about what it may be like. But on the other hand i knew not to expect too much at first and to just see where it goes. But yes do not lose sleep over it, you want to be well rested. And hope everything works out well for the both of you 

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RE: Up All Night - 8/17/2008 12:18:19 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		I just got home from this, my first serious session.  And as I sit and use such a term, it seems sterile for what I encountered.  So does play, scene, and all those other words folks use to explain the time they spend together.

We went to dinner and chatted lightly about everything under the sun.  I am fairly certain the poor waitress thought she would never get her tip, but her job was easy as we both were not much interested in the meal.

I nervously took the plunge when it was time to move into private.  We sat quietly for literally several hours before I made a single sound.  He was so patient and kind in getting me to calm.  And at the word "My", all the hopes and worries of all the moments before dissolved.  It was just here and now and perfect..... for us.

Thanks to all who have kept me company as I have been up all of two nights now. (insert giggles here).  It helped knowing I wasn't the only one to approach the first serious time with nerves and maybe just a little panic, but also that it all worked out okay in the end. 

With a Happy Glow on Both Sets of Cheeks,
lovingpet

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RE: Up All Night - 8/17/2008 12:54:27 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


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Status: offline 		Heeeey, Lovingpet, sounds like you got yourself a good one.   Congratulations!

Everyone else has such romantic stories of meeting their other half.  I just got insanely drunk on New Year's and porked my class officer in my old WoW guild, woke up the next morning, and said "I like you, wanna hang out?"  We're still together to this day.


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RE: Up All Night - 8/17/2008 3:46:04 PM   
NeedingMore220


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Status: offline 		So glad to hear it, sweetie!  Enjoy the glow ... 

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RE: Up All Night - 8/17/2008 3:49:23 PM   
Sandyshores29718


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Status: offline 		Good luck! I was a roller coaster of emotions. The next day he had me write a paper on my thoughts/emotions that day. I still have it to this day though hes and I no longer talk.

*edit* cause I just saw your post...congrats!

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RE: Up All Night - 8/17/2008 5:00:07 PM   
IvyMorgan


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Status: offline 		First time I met someone...

He was late, I was waiting in the rain.
He was kinda rude.
He lacked patience, or an understanding of what I was looking for, kept changing from one mode to another, very disorienting.
I forced him to walk me back to the station so I didn't get lost.
He never called again after that first meet.

It was awful.

I can't believe I decided to do it a second time, glad I did though, cos I met someone wonderful.

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RE: Up All Night - 8/17/2008 5:08:31 PM   
Nitefalls1000


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Status: offline 		Enjoy there is never goin to be a first time... I hope you find subspace, it is addictive and you will spend the rest of your life chasing that dragon...lol

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