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StrongSpirit -> How to find the perfect master, sub, switch (8/16/2008 10:08:16 AM)
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Feel free to add rules here.
1. Understand your goals. If you don't know what you are looking for, the only thing you should look for is new experiences. Hopefully you will find what you desire by exploring new things.
2. Describe what you want. Specifically use good descriptions. The words "True", "Real", "Natural" are NOT helpful. They mean different things to different people. Instead try words like "Pain", "Roleplayer", "Foot", "Breast", "Oral", "Obedient", "Disobedient", "Pee", etc. etc. Be specific.
3. Put in NON-sexual things. Unless you are just looking for a one-night stand, chances are you want more than a sex toy.
4. Rank your requirements. If the thing you care most about is personality, put that first. Do not forget to include things like "Employed", "Not a convict", etc. Note, the ranking is very important, particularly if you are looking for something that every else is looking for (Hint: 80% of men want a thin female. 90% of women want a tall man.) The higher on the list the 'mass desired' thing is, the hard it will be to find a person that fits your other desires.
5. Describe yourself. You need to honestly describe who you are. You can highlight the advantages, but don't lie about the disadvantages. Specifically tell the truth about weight, age, height, gender. Putting down what you wish you were only works if you never meet the person. Yes, many men will ignore you if you are the wrong age, weight, gender. Yes, many women will ignore you if you are the wrong age, height, gender. It is unfortunate, but we all can't be 18 year old, tall, thin lesbian millionaires. No, surgery can not really fix it. (Fake breasts are nice to look at, but they don't feel nice. Weight comes back.)
6. Put yourself out there and look. If you don't contact other people, you have no one but yourself to blame. This specifically means that dominant women should be contacting men. Honestly, a smart submissive women would do better to seek out and contact men as well, but they at least have a better excuse. If you wait for other people to contact you, then THEIR requirements will be met, but your's won't. Not even if a thousand men are contacting you, because obviously they are not the right man.
7. If still having trouble, REDO your requirements. Specifically, if you are repeating rejecting people for being too much of a jerk, then move "NOT A JERK" higher on your list of requirements. This means moving other things down. As in, accept a woman/man that is uglier, shorter, older, fatter, etc.
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