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chamberqueen -> RE: First Munch (8/16/2008 5:10:12 PM)
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At the first munch I attended I talked with someone about our jobs for 45 minutes before anything lifestyle came up at all. Many are held in family friendly venues, like restaurants, where people are asked not to come in full dress or with toys. I was nervous before I went, but very glad that I did. I made some lasting friends from the first night.
I am not sure of your position, but if you are a sub/slave you DO NOT have to act as one to anyone but your partner. Chances are you won't be asked to, but some like to cross the line and expect submission. Likewise, you do not need to allow yourself to be touched - though that is often much more of a problem for women.
When I attended in Grand Rapids I found a man I designated as my "safe" person. If I didn't understand a term, or an interaction, I would ask him. If I was uncomfortable with the way I was being treated at all I would go back and sit next to my safe person. You might look for someone like that who you seem to get along with well and knows the other attendees fairly well. There are game players in every group, and it can be confusing in the beginning.
Let people know if you are attached or not right away - or if you are not attached but just looking for friends. Your wishes will normally be respected. Just keep in mind that you are attending for the purpose of being with others with similar interests and relax and try to enjoy yourself. Sometimes it takes a while to feel comfortable, so be willing to sit through an hour of not much interaction if you are a somewhat shy person. I'm sure you'll end up having a good time and being glad that you went.
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