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Expectations ? - 8/16/2008 5:12:21 PM

Aneirin

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So, we are all here on this site, how long have you been here ?
Did you have any expections at the start, when you first created your profile ?
If you have been here long, are those expectations the same now or have they changed ?

Myself, well I came here with expectations, seeking the answers to my questions and yes, the hope of finding a similar mind with which to be. Along the way from there to here, I have made some very good friends, some have come and gone, others remain so and there is even one I look upon almost as family. I am glad to have found here and stayed these past three years or so, it has answered my questions, the questions that tortured my mind for many a year at least. My expectations, they have changed, though I do still seek a special someone, now I drift in and out with the mood, a far cry from how active I was on here. Now I just wander and see what comes, no expectations .

Well, that is me, how about the rest of you ?

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/16/2008 5:19:02 PM

simpleplan2

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I was here before under a different screen name. My expectations have changed considerably. I'm still here fairly frequently but mostly to read the forums. I've found a couple of friends and for that I will be forever grateful to CM; however, I don't expect to find a special someone, although I would call my friends very special.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/16/2008 5:31:04 PM

Lockit

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I was introduced to CM by someone that I had met at a vanilla chat and who became my submissive real life. That didn't work out and I just stayed here. I have gotten to know a lot of people who I consider good friends and stay because of them and all that I can learn or enjoy, rather than seeking a partner.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/16/2008 5:40:18 PM

slaveluci

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aneirin
So, we are all here on this site, how long have you been here ?

Had previous screen names but did not post to the forums. I'd say I first discovered CM in early 2006.

quote:

Did you have any expections at the start, when you first created your profile ?

When I created my very first one, I had expectations of meeting someone for "play" and casual fun, nothing more. By the time I created this profile, I was owned by Master and here only for the forums and possibly meeting another submissive female for fun and possible long-term poly if that was to work out.

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If you have been here long, are those expectations the same now or have they changed ?

Still just here for forums and perhaps meeting friends. Meeting a third person for a poly relationship has frankly not happened here (or even really come close)

. I'm not going to complain or be negative, though, so who knows? Maybe some day

. Just going to hang around, read, comment from time to time and do lots of laughing and eye-rolling when discussing these topics with Master................luci

< Message edited by slaveluci -- 8/16/2008 5:41:12 PM >

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/16/2008 5:43:59 PM

E2Sweet

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aneirin

So, we are all here on this site, how long have you been here ?

I've been active here for about 6 weeks actually.

quote:

Did you have any expections at the start, when you first created your profile ?

Yes indeed.

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If you have been here long, are those expectations the same now or have they changed ?

They've changed a bit, not a lot. I seem to be coming in contact with more like minded folks that I initially thought I would, so my expectations with regard to meeting others in person are a bit higher now than when I created my profile. I don't see there being any guarantees to the tune of, say, a soul mate. But still, emails and phone numbers have been exchanged, so I remain optimistic... for now.

Initially, I didn't expect to feel quite so welcome and included here, but I'm pleasantly surprised I was a bit off the mark on that. I actually expected at least a little hate mail along with the more positive message that land in my inbox, since I do post in the forums a lot and I don't exactly avoid hot-button topics. I'm glad to say I have not had any overly negative or nasty messages find their way to me... I'd very much like to continue the streak.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/16/2008 5:53:49 PM

Aneirin

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quote:

ORIGINAL: E2Sweet

Initially, I didn't expect to feel quite so welcome and included here, but I'm pleasantly surprised I was a bit off the mark on that. I actually expected at least a little hate mail along with the more positive message that land in my inbox, since I do post in the forums a lot and I don't exactly avoid hot-button topics. I'm glad to say I have not had any overly negative or nasty messages find their way to me... I'd very much like to continue the streak.

Ha, I have never been in receipt of any nasty PM,s, I think on the whole most of us here agree to disagree. I find this place fairly accepting of others in the long run.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/16/2008 7:34:09 PM

fluffyswitch

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i've actually been on the site for about a year, but i was under a different profile for awhile and then got back on once i moved well out of the area that i'm from so it'll at least give me some time to plan an attack if i get outed. not that i really care anymore so shrug.

my expectations haven't really changed. i was looking for social interaction more than anything else, the fact that i met a partner was a pleasant surprise. i've had some truly negative interactions with people from the site in real life but that's the risks of the game.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/16/2008 7:57:57 PM

Quivver

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I came here ages ago with the intent to lurk and learn.
Eventually I quit lurking but never have quit learning.
So, all in all ... my expectations were met and more..........

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/16/2008 8:05:31 PM

Leatherist

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I expect to be amused.

But that is not always the intent of those who aid me in that.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/17/2008 3:56:34 AM

RCdc

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It's a place of social interactment and entertainment. I expected that and so far, it's fullfilled my expectations.

the.dark.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/17/2008 4:20:16 AM

slvemike4u

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I expect to be amused.

But that is not always the intent of those who aid me in that.

It's the least we can do

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/17/2008 4:42:00 AM

IrishMist

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I have been here about three years; or around that amount of time.

Expectations? I had none when I came here; I still have none

I stay because I like the people who post here; all in all they can be very entertaining.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/17/2008 7:30:14 AM

ChicagoAmy

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quote:

So, we are all here on this site, how long have you been here ?
Did you have any expections at the start, when you first created your profile ?
If you have been here long, are those expectations the same now or have they changed ?

*Not long a month or so
*I only created a profile because I thought I had to and I wanted to do "research" of sorts to learn more about dominating, being sub came naturally but I was bored with it. I post on general topics not really bdsm when I'm bored.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/17/2008 5:17:44 PM

Vendaval

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This site was recommended to me by a couple of different people. I started out slowly and have met a few people in person to socialize. One became a member of my household.

CM can be a good source of information sharing, listening to differing viewpoints, and learning new concepts and techniques. I also appreciate the fact that we have membership around the globe and other insomniacs who are up at all hours like myself.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/18/2008 6:15:51 AM

sub4hire

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I've been here since about 2 week's before whatever it says near my avatar. Basically the day they created the forums I was here.
I was expecting nothing from CollarMe. I was already with my dominant. A friend from the east coast had told me about CollarMe one day. So I decided to check it out.

I like the boards. Though there are ups and downs here as well. So, yes I found what I expected to here.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/18/2008 7:35:13 AM

Maxwell67

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*FR*
I have not been at CM long. Only a few months. I came to learn and get acquainted with different aspects of D/s and BDSM, and I have been doing that and enjoying it. I have a second goal of finding a sister for Mine, but I can't even say we have really begun looking yet. I am not sure if this is the right place to look. We have not yet integrated ourselves in the local scene, and that may be a better prospect. The actual fact of the matter is, I met Mine within hours after she and I both decided to quit looking.. and that worked out beautifully. The whole online seeking thing has never struck me as the best way to do anything, except get conned. So I have been waiting. Either one day I will decide to stop waiting and start making a move, or someone will simply fall into our sphere and we will discover a fit. She does need a sister.

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/18/2008 9:37:31 AM

Termyn8or

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When I joined and found out it cost nothing, I expected to get what I paid for. I was pleasantly surprised. Though I have not met anyone in person (got to the phone stage) I have learned a few things. I am somewhat an intellectual and I appreciate that.

Mostly, the other fora I have been on were very topic specific. This is like a whole different world. Literally a plethora of topics (I think that means 10,000) and opinions abound. Actually I consider this a slow time, mainly because so many want to talk about the election that other subjects get squeezed out. But that is natural at a time like this and I think after November things will resume their normal pace.

Though I have not met the Woman of my dreams, I get some interesting reading, and a chance to actually respond. In doing so I have learned alot. Some subjects, while not strictly taboo, are among those which people simply do not want to discuss.

Ironically, under the relative cloak of anonymity that CM provides, I think this is the most public place where I have ever been. I have also learned to choose my words more carefully, I am not perfect at it yet but I think I have come along. On a thread about privacy "Hows about I get some of my hacker friends to..." got me a Mod warning. It is a threat to that anonymity we all enjoy. That thought was not in my mind when I wrote it.

That brought me to the realization that we really don't know each other except through our words. If you know me you know I would never carry out a threat like that. But you don't, so how was Mod11 to know that I wouldn't. People do it all the time. The sweetchastity.com forum has been hacked to death, and they sent the fag bashers to the guy's house who runs the site and he got an ass kicking. That is a dirty rotten thing to do, if I don't like your site I will not go there. But how does anyone know that without knowing me personally ? The answer is they don't, so I had to adjust myself, and I think for the better.

I have tried to argue effectively and agree to disagree long before I ever joined, but here, I have been forced to hone those skills a bit. For the most part, views opposing something I said are presented effectively, intelligently and respectfully. Some lead me to question my own beliefs, and I see that as a good thing because unlike some people in the world, if I am wrong I want to know it. "I stand corrected" is no cause for shame.

There are many other aspects of CM, but I think the forum has helped me grow up a bit more, and I think the same may be true of others. And there is more to it than that. I think the forum is the best feature, and I think I know why CM keeps it going. After all none of us pay anything to be here.

Everything we write is public, they want to show people that kinksters are not radical unorganized militia types, possible terrorists, after your children, want to convert you to our lifestyle, nothing of the sort. Show us for who we are, regular people whio happen to be kinky. Opinions vary in this subset of society just as much as they do in the whole populace, pretty much.

I think more people here than per capita support Gay marriage, or at least some form of union that would enable the health insurance, the tax benefit etc., that heterosexual couples enjoy. Many people who are not Gay have no problem with this. Here anyway.

I can understand if a church does not want to marry John and Jerry, or Jane and Jennifer, that is their perogative. For the government to prohibit it is stepping on somebody's rights, something they seem to be pretty good at. [even if I had ended that sentence "at which they seem to be adept" it would still be grammatically incorrect, so I ain't fixing it].

The baseline is this : I am better for having been here.

T

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/18/2008 5:44:29 PM

Jeffff

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I came because I was bored...... I stayed because I was amused..alomg the way I have "met" quite a few really great people and I have learned a thing or two. I still however, demand amusement. It is after all. all about me..:)

Jeff

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/18/2008 5:55:59 PM

PrincessJ77

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Been here three weeks. Taking me awhile to learn the controls- bulk filters are my friend. I'm in contact with a number of interesting men. There's a few I consider friends (without benefits), a persistent "stalker" and others I could see a relationship with. I'm in no hurry to find an owner, but I hear a distinct tick tock... darn that poster who said his girlfriend was pregnant. sigh Or it could be a Timex left from the last time I was fisted...

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RE: Expectations ? - 8/18/2008 6:28:28 PM

sophia37

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I guess I first posted about two years ago. At first I was suprised by how much I learned. Then I stayed around long enough to see the same topics arise again. So I switched to the general topic section. So far Im still finding the site informative. And I certainly know myself better and have added some catchy phrase words as well!

All in all this site's pretty opened minded unless you tell people you're a philanderer. Kinky people welcome, the affair minded not so much. lol

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