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submissive in both home and work - 8/18/2008 9:34:37 AM   
rusty3434


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Status: offline 		love being submissive both at home with my partner and at work. Just wondering if anyone else on here has experienced being fullfilled by being bossed to at work and told what to do, especially by people you find attractive and quite dominant.I use to own my own business but found being the boss was very pressurising, now work as a trainee in a different field and enjoy the feeling of being subordinate to someone else, hate having less assertive bosses and thrive under authoritive and demanding types as i love the attention and feel safe, the emotional need that is met by this is similar to that of my sub-dom  relationship with my partner at home. Curious to know if anyone else feels the same or do people think this is highly strange or weird?
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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/18/2008 10:31:13 AM   
AdamTaylor


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Status: offline 		If it's what you enjoy, then it's just right for you.

My slave was intelligent, strong willed, and assertive. With everyone else. ;)
She was a loyal and hardworking slave for me. Always quick to please. And followed commands to the letter.

But she was a lawyer. She had to be smart, and had to be able to stand up to others. Point out unfairness. All of that.

Even when out and about... with friends, she was the leader. Always choosing what she and her friends would be up to. Always having the biggest say.
When out together, she'd talk back to anyone who gave her flak. She was of course, totally dominated by myself though. Seeking my approval for anything she wanted to do. So before yelling back at someone, she'd glance at me and wait for my nod before doing anything. But then she'd let them have it. ;)

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/18/2008 10:41:13 AM   
bratnwranglers


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Status: offline 		i do understand what you are saying op, but i think im quite different. i run my department at work, and constantly check others and correct them, and i feel secure doing so. i use my intelligence and wit through out my day. And even outside of work, with family and friends, i am assertive and stubborn as hell, and tend to lead.

But with Him, its my solice, He is in charge and i know it and submit to His will. i am constantly trying to please Him, without even realizing it. Not to say that the more assertive side of me doesn't flare up now and again, but part of it is ingrained in my personality and makes me who i am as a person :)

i do have submissive friends though that i know perfer not to lead at home or at work, so i do understand where you are coming from ..good luck :)

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/18/2008 11:09:02 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

Curious to know if anyone else feels the same or do people think this is highly strange or weird?


don't know about highly strange or wierd, but, for this slave, she hasn't had the pleasure of meeting very many folks who feel the same way.
 
most folks this slave meets on the "s" side of the slash aren't into submission all of the time---they have dominant sides/tendencies/relationship roles/aspects of their personality that they cherish as well, and are able to be comfortable with and enjoy both.
 
this slave has no desire to own, dominate or control anything or anyone.  that goes for intimate relationships, family ties, potential work environments, volunteer opportunities...you name it.
 
when this slave was first made aware of M/s and D/s structured relationships she thought that folks chose the side of the slash that was the best reflection of their personality or sexual preference...she has since learned that for most folks, it is a lot more complicated than that.
 
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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/18/2008 11:25:59 AM   
rusty3434


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Status: offline 		when i say i like to be subordinate in both my relationship and in work thats where it ends, with friends ,family and everyday situations i am highly assertive and confident and can be domineering. I just find having to submit to someone in work highly fullfilling and really does it for me, I am 32 and one of my bosses is a highly assertive,smart 23 year old, i just love the power he has over me. Dont get me wrong i can be assertive and confident in work and have to be with clients etc and i will give my opinions but just love when he asserts his authority over me and makes me perform tasks I normally would not like doing like running errands, love the fact i am in his control, while everyone else propbably hates that fact, is this normal?

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/18/2008 12:24:22 PM   
Mercnbeth


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...is this normal?


for some, sure.
 
there are those who report that they cannot and do not submit to anyone unless they are properly "inspired" to, in some way, by a look, or a tone of voice, or just how the person carries themselves.

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/19/2008 7:48:52 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I have to be the one in control in my field , cannot have the 4 year olds running my class.  I am a pre school teacher.  So as a teacher i have to be the boss.  Of course outside of work i an a sub  but i submit to only one.

Matt's littleone

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/19/2008 9:33:29 AM   
sillyslaveboy


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Status: offline 		Hm... no submissiveness in job, unless i work with my Mistress. There is no space for such thing in business world. :)

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/19/2008 12:34:32 PM   
rusty3434


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Status: offline 		i agree and disagree with sillyslaveboy, i can be very dominant in work situation and in business you do have to be, i ran my own business and was a tyrant when i had to be. But there is still a place for submissiveness in business ,you can still enjoy being subservient to someone else while maybe having others report to you. I just love the fact that this guy has power over me as i said its a huge turn on especially that he is so much younger i just love the feeling. maybe in work when you are dealing with so much responsibility and stress of calling the shots in previous job, just maybe being under the thumb of a guy like this lets me keep in touch with my submissive side i dont know i cant explain it, but i know if my boss became a 60 year old man that i didnt fancy or even if i reported to another female i wouldnt feel the same and would hate taking orders from them, am i alone in this???

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/19/2008 3:35:31 PM   
humble75


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Status: offline 		I had a summerjob some time back where I worked with a very bossy woman, and found that to be pretty good. She was in no way atractive and the kind you wouldnt give much time "out there". But at the time I was more or less traped in her world. I loved her clear commands and the slight arrogance with wich she gave them.

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/19/2008 5:26:04 PM   
silkncarol


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Status: offline 		In the past i've held positions in client services that have given me great feelings of pleasure, fulfillment and a sense of accomplishment......many of the same feelings i get from being submissive to my dominant.  

But then i've always been a giver......

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/19/2008 5:42:54 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I find myself quite fulfilled in an "assistants position"- although that's a far more powerful and controlling position than most people give credence (although that is one of the sources of our power, underestimation).  So yes, I prefer working under competent, authoritative people who know what they are doing, run a tight ship, and let me be first mate.

I don't happen to HAVE that right now, just the pretense of it, but it works out well for me in other ways.

But I would suggest that you not equate personality or job preference to your personal relationship orientation.

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/19/2008 5:55:25 PM   
Huntertn


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Status: offline 		You like what you like..and it works for you..why question it..I really doubt anyone else is.  

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/19/2008 6:03:27 PM   
FlamingRedhead


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Status: offline 		Generally speaking, I have problems with authority.  I don't enjoy being bossed around by anyone.  I remember a conversation with my mother where I was complaining that my boss changed my schedule despite the fact that I have a 4-year-old son and told her it would interfere with visitation.  I made the comment, "She might be the boss of me, but that doesn't mean she can tell me what to do!"  To which my mom cracked up.

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RE: submissive in both home and work - 8/20/2008 3:43:05 AM   
sillyslaveboy


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Status: offline 		At rusty3434:
In the environment i work in (fair competitiveness) i never had intention to mix job and the rest of the life. Because it would simply ruin the both. The only case in which i would allow this to happen is that the relationship was started before the job. And starting anything with the boss? Maybe in Canada or US, where i'd have a working contract in my hands and powerful law apparatus to protect me from power misuses. Imagine boss who can fire you every moment just because you didn't do well on fulfilling some kink, or maybe you just simply bored him. So no, but no, thanks. NO. :)

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