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littlewonder -> RE: is it proper? (8/19/2008 6:14:04 PM)

If you're comfortable with telling him then tell him. If you're not comfortable then wait for him to approach. There is no right or wrong, no protocol, no proper way.




masterofdrkness2 -> RE: is it proper? (8/19/2008 6:14:40 PM)

here is one way to find out, ask him how he feels about a sub approaching a dom , or if he thinks the dom should approach  the sub , if he says it is o.k for the sub to be first , then you have your opening to say how you feel 



YourhandMyAss -> RE: is it proper? (8/19/2008 6:19:58 PM)

 
I'd worry less about what every one on a whole thinks is appropriate and decide for yourself, or even have a conversation with the guy on the subject, bring it up in passing, hey do you think it's proper for subs to persue the dom? See what he thinks.

Personally I think you might waste an awful lot of time waiting for the man to make a move, and should make it yourself if you're so inclined.

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ORIGINAL: aislinn

As a submissive is it proper if i have interest in a Dominant for me to tell Him? or should i wait for Him to approach me? We talk all the time and i know there is interest between us but have never approached the subject seriously. How do i tell Him how i feel? Any and all responses would be greatly appreciated thank You for taking the time to read this and post a reply.



Abaddon2u -> RE: is it proper? (8/19/2008 8:48:21 PM)


It has been my experience that women allow us men to get them exactly where they want us. The really good ones do not let us know it is happening and thankfully keep us clueless.

Abaddon

“the only difference between myself and a madman is that I am not mad.” - Salvador Dali



Leatherist -> RE: is it proper? (8/19/2008 9:53:00 PM)

Just tell him you think he's cool-its' not rocket science.



mastersgemm -> RE: is it proper? (8/21/2008 12:15:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper..."Perhaps offer yourself to play with. If he jumps on it, he likes ya. If he doesn't, he either doesn't want to risk the friendship or doesn't want you as a submissive. At least this way he can be cool about saying no and no drama occurs".....
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Yes, whoring yourself to him is a SURE way to earn his respect *rme*

Only you know him and there are many good suggestions here - I particularly like the one saying asking your question of propriety to him and see if that opens up the conversation.

Never hurts to be directly honest "You know, we seem to be really heading somewhere...do you think so? or am I reading it all wrong?"  Simple, to the point honesty

Good luck



MizSexyVixen -> RE: is it proper? (8/21/2008 12:39:18 PM)

I like the honest but a bit subtle approach. I told the dominant I am currently seeing by dedicating a song to him (I sometimes DJ for an online bdsm radio station).

Send him a song, a card, make him a special dinner?

If you do go the honest approach, make sure and leave him an out.



MistressOfGa -> RE: is it proper? (8/21/2008 4:01:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: aislinn

As a submissive is it proper if i have interest in a Dominant for me to tell Him? or should i wait for Him to approach me? We talk all the time and i know there is interest between us but have never approached the subject seriously. How do i tell Him how i feel? Any and all responses would be greatly appreciated thank You for taking the time to read this and post a reply.

My gawd..M..email me.  



MistressOfGa -> RE: is it proper? (8/21/2008 4:02:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Just tell him you think he's cool-its' not rocket science.

I really think you are so groovy..do ya wanna go for a soda after class? It would be peachy! <psst..pass this note to Leathrist> lol



MistressOfGa -> RE: is it proper? (8/21/2008 4:05:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mastersgemm

quote:

ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper..."Perhaps offer yourself to play with. If he jumps on it, he likes ya. If he doesn't, he either doesn't want to risk the friendship or doesn't want you as a submissive. At least this way he can be cool about saying no and no drama occurs".....
\

Yes, whoring yourself to him is a SURE way to earn his respect *rme*

Only you know him and there are many good suggestions here - I particularly like the one saying asking your question of propriety to him and see if that opens up the conversation.

Never hurts to be directly honest "You know, we seem to be really heading somewhere...do you think so? or am I reading it all wrong?"  Simple, to the point honesty

Good luck


Since when was offering to have a play session with a Dominant or submissive for that matter "Whoring yourself out"?



antipode -> RE: is it proper? (8/22/2008 12:31:25 PM)

If all you have are "subtle hints", it probably is all in your head. If he is a Dom, and he wants you, he'll say so. Life is simple, honestly - if he didn't say it, it does not exist.



blacksword404 -> RE: is it proper? (8/24/2008 1:16:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MRandme

Seems to me that many girls expect the Dominant to be able to read their minds. Truth is many men don't get hints or clues. They need a direct statement or bluntness, and most prefer it if we are direct.
Life is too short to waste on 'what ifs' and 'maybes'.  Ask Him.



She is right about us. He may have been looking for hints at a time when you were not sending out any. And being he did not see you had an interest might have put that thought away.



califsue -> RE: is it proper? (8/24/2008 8:26:47 AM)

I say go for it and tell him. I know several Dom's and they prefer the submissive approaching them. Master told me he knew if he waited long enough I would ask for him.
If you don't ask you will never know and the best thing that could happen is you are able to start your journey together instead of thinking and wondering about it.



AMaster -> RE: is it proper? (8/24/2008 10:11:08 AM)

It is absolutely proper.  I would be most flattered if someone expressed an interest.  How else would I know who wants to get to know me?



ponch -> RE: is it proper? (8/31/2008 2:25:06 PM)

go to him take off his shoes and kiss his feet and said i wish to be your slave



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