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PiercedHeart -> A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 1:16:52 AM)
I guess this is not so much a topic for discussion but request for prayer. My slave of 15 years has left. I am unbelievably lonely and heartbroken. Would those of you who are praying folk PLEASE pray that she would return to me as my slave? What other group can I turn to? Go the baptists and ask for prayer that my slave will be a slave again? I don't think so. So, I turn to you because I know you understand. I will be happy to reciprocate if you want anything prayed for. Thanks so much for your help...you're dear folk PiercedHeart

MissDominae -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 1:48:33 AM)
I am sorry for your loss. Knowing how hard it is to find a suitable slave, to lose one after so long would be heartwrenching. You don't state how you have come to lose this slave so I have to ask is there any chance at all that you may be reunited? Blessings and best wishes .... Dominae

Prinsexx -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 2:05:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PiercedHeart I guess this is not so much a topic for discussion but request for prayer. My slave of 15 years has left. I am unbelievably lonely and heartbroken. Would those of you who are praying folk PLEASE pray that she would return to me as my slave? What other group can I turn to? Go the baptists and ask for prayer that my slave will be a slave again? I don't think so. So, I turn to you because I know you understand. I will be happy to reciprocate if you want anything prayed for. Thanks so much for your help...you're dear folk PiercedHeart Although i have never met you and may never do so I'll send a prayer to Pierced Heart May the pain of separation Turn to pleasure within your heart May the emptiness and grieving become the strength to carry on It does not mean your slave has freed herself just because she's gone....... May you find that which you need to fill the void Amen Om madme padme hum...............

HeavansKeeper -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 2:36:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PiercedHeart I guess this is not so much a topic for discussion but request for prayer. My slave of 15 years has left. I am unbelievably lonely and heartbroken. Would those of you who are praying folk PLEASE pray that she would return to me as my slave? What other group can I turn to? Go the baptists and ask for prayer that my slave will be a slave again? I don't think so. So, I turn to you because I know you understand. I will be happy to reciprocate if you want anything prayed for. Thanks so much for your help...you're dear folk PiercedHeart I know what I'm going to offer is not what was asked for, and we will all treat it for the unsolicited advice it is. Since your slave left, something had to go wrongly. Maybe it's correctable, maybe its not. Maybe it is the natural course of things, maybe it was the result of poor communication. I'm not a praying person, but I am a helping person. Whatever the factors were, she left. She's not likely to come back to the same world she left. If you finally get your paw out of the bear trap, you don't put it back in. Instead, you find a cookie jar to put your paw in. Turn your bear trap into a cookie jar. (This, of course, assumes the problem is reparable.)

simpleplan2 -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 2:45:54 AM)
I was thinking the same thing. We all know how much it hurts to lose someone you love but if she left, most likely something was wrong...wrong to the point where she had to leave. Now, I'm not saying wrong with you, just that circumstances were such that she had to go. Have you tried to talk to her about it? Do you know what the problem is and can you "fix" it? If you have and she still hasn't come back, she may not. The problem may be within her and there's really nothing you can do. I am sorry for your loss.

Prinsexx -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 3:05:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PiercedHeart I guess this is not so much a topic for discussion but request for prayer. My slave of 15 years has left. I am unbelievably lonely and heartbroken. Would those of you who are praying folk PLEASE pray that she would return to me as my slave? What other group can I turn to? Go the baptists and ask for prayer that my slave will be a slave again? I don't think so. So, I turn to you because I know you understand. I will be happy to reciprocate if you want anything prayed for. Thanks so much for your help...you're dear folk PiercedHeart I just wanted to take a step back 9now i've made some tea0 and say why i sent the prayer to you so immediately. i have been broken, crushed beyone repair so i thought. i have freed myself three times from three in 7 years. Each time i freed myself i was so weak that i could not see why, what, or when the brokenness began or when indeed it might get fixed. But each time i have kept my faith and my faith is simply this; that to the extent to which i have no faith and at those times when my faith is utterly tested, only then do i cry out and surrender and ask....in the words adpted from Emotions Anonymous...... ~We realize that (insert your god/concept of a higher being) is doing for us what we could not do ourselves.~ i know, when i have taken the time, and flashbacked enough, and gone through all of my actions and interactions as i am able to, then i find the moment when that relatonship broke down. Sometimes it is within ourself that we can grow and fix a problem. Sometimes the breakdown happened within the other. There is only so many ways in which a Dominant/Master can shape, carve, train, and contain their slave. When that final bond is broken it may be re-made or it might not. Imo breakdown happens in no-man's-land usually, in the space between any two people now matter how strong the illusion of closeness has become. Often the breakdown is, was and always would have been within the dynamic itself. But when you have been able to look back and clearly see the when that breakdown happened....well if you still cannot see there is only one way and that is to surrender and hand it over to (insert our god here). If you have asked for prayers from others then you have surely already begun the process of handing the problem over. And it is always and forever in safe hands. prin xx

Twicehappy2x -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 3:25:30 AM)
Sorry for your loss. While i understand you are in pain, i must ask, why? There has to have been a reason that she left. Perhaps if it is a correctable issue the two of you could patch things up.

badlilthang -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 3:39:06 AM)
First of all - i am so sorry for Your pain. But as so many have said - there is always a reason why someone choses to leave. Could be You - could be her - maybe she is ill and does not want to tell You - maybe she just was empty and could not give anymore - or maybe she has found Another...we have no idea why she chose to walk away, but i would also suggest - if possible - that You talk with her - and ask her why she felt this was the only way - to leave. Communication is so important, and You might be surprised when/if You hear the reasons she give You... We can always better ourselves - smiles - in every aspect of life, and even though You are empty and lost now - find the strength inside - look into Yourself - and also try to look at Yourself from her point of view... Have You listened to her - truly listened to her. Has she tried to talk about leaving before - has there been signs that she was pulling away, for instance? I wish You the best of luck - and i hope this can be patched up and even grow stronger...if not - look ahead - and bring the experience with You and learn from it... So many brilliant people around here - so i hope they can bring You some good advice and also a shoulder..s..

DesFIP -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 5:46:32 AM)
Go to marriage counseling by yourself. Learn what you did that forced her out to save herself. Learn why you ignored her when she told you that you were deliberately leaving her lonely and heartbroken. Fix this so if you do manage to talk to her again, you can sincerely tell her you are committed to change. And fix this so you don't ruin your next relationship the same way.

thishereboi -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 5:50:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Go to marriage counseling by yourself. Learn what you did that forced her out to save herself. Learn why you ignored her when she told you that you were deliberately leaving her lonely and heartbroken. Fix this so if you do manage to talk to her again, you can sincerely tell her you are committed to change. And fix this so you don't ruin your next relationship the same way. Do you know the OP in real life?

sirsholly -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 5:53:31 AM)
Sometimes the most we can hope for is acceptance of the situation as it is... Good luck to you.

DesFIP -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 6:00:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Go to marriage counseling by yourself. Learn what you did that forced her out to save herself. Learn why you ignored her when she told you that you were deliberately leaving her lonely and heartbroken. Fix this so if you do manage to talk to her again, you can sincerely tell her you are committed to change. And fix this so you don't ruin your next relationship the same way. Do you know the OP in real life? We're not talking a six month dating relationship here. 15 years is a long term investment. People do not just walk away saying "OMG He doesn't floss nightly, how could I ever see someone like that?" Moreover, you may have noted that he does not recognize any responsibility in the failure of the relationship. He doesn't commit to improving himself. No, he wants the same relationship that didn't work for her back again, without a word about caring enough for her that he wants her to be happy also and is willing to make changes for her. You don't need a PhD in interpersonal relationships to see the obvious here.

sirsholly -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 6:03:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Go to marriage counseling by yourself. Learn what you did that forced her out to save herself. Learn why you ignored her when she told you that you were deliberately leaving her lonely and heartbroken. Fix this so if you do manage to talk to her again, you can sincerely tell her you are committed to change. And fix this so you don't ruin your next relationship the same way. Do you know the OP in real life? We're not talking a six month dating relationship here. 15 years is a long term investment. People do not just walk away saying "OMG He doesn't floss nightly, how could I ever see someone like that?" Moreover, you may have noted that he does not recognize any responsibility in the failure of the relationship. He doesn't commit to improving himself. No, he wants the same relationship that didn't work for her back again, without a word about caring enough for her that he wants her to be happy also and is willing to make changes for her. You don't need a PhD in interpersonal relationships to see the obvious here. the op did not provide enough info to make this statement.

thishereboi -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 6:03:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Go to marriage counseling by yourself. Learn what you did that forced her out to save herself. Learn why you ignored her when she told you that you were deliberately leaving her lonely and heartbroken. Fix this so if you do manage to talk to her again, you can sincerely tell her you are committed to change. And fix this so you don't ruin your next relationship the same way. Do you know the OP in real life? We're not talking a six month dating relationship here. 15 years is a long term investment. People do not just walk away saying "OMG He doesn't floss nightly, how could I ever see someone like that?" Moreover, you may have noted that he does not recognize any responsibility in the failure of the relationship. He doesn't commit to improving himself. No, he wants the same relationship that didn't work for her back again, without a word about caring enough for her that he wants her to be happy also and is willing to make changes for her. You don't need a PhD in interpersonal relationships to see the obvious here. So in other words, no you don't know him. That's kinda what I thought.

angelikaJ -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 6:10:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Go to marriage counseling by yourself. Learn what you did that forced her out to save herself. Learn why you ignored her when she told you that you were deliberately leaving her lonely and heartbroken. Fix this so if you do manage to talk to her again, you can sincerely tell her you are committed to change. And fix this so you don't ruin your next relationship the same way. We don't know why she left... people leave for all kinds of reasons; not all relationship unhappiness has to do with the other person. To the OP...there is value to what she said though...unless you know what was wrong you can not hope to fix it if she chooses to come back...if in fact it is yours to fix.

DarkSteven -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 6:31:09 AM)
OP, you're in denial. she left and you haven't accepted that. Not to kick a man when he's down, but what can YOU do? Remember the old adage, God only helps those who help themselves. Do you expect that you can avoid reaching out to your ex-slave and working with her, seeing what both you and she could do differently, and putting in a lot of sweat if God just waves His magic wand? And of course you can go to the Baptitsts or whatever your denomination is. Just pray that your women returns to you. You don't need to use the word "slave". However, I feel strongly that you've demoted the Supreme Being to an errand boy here. You've diagnosed the problem and determined the solution and just want God to do it. I suggest instead confessing that your heart has been broken and asking Him to heal it in the way that He considers best Should the solution involve reconciliation, so be it. And add a prayer for your ex slave as well. I suspect she's hurting and could use help.

sirsholly -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 6:34:38 AM)
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Aileen1968 -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 6:36:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Go to marriage counseling by yourself. Learn what you did that forced her out to save herself. Learn why you ignored her when she told you that you were deliberately leaving her lonely and heartbroken. Fix this so if you do manage to talk to her again, you can sincerely tell her you are committed to change. And fix this so you don't ruin your next relationship the same way. Do you know the OP in real life? We're not talking a six month dating relationship here. 15 years is a long term investment. People do not just walk away saying "OMG He doesn't floss nightly, how could I ever see someone like that?" Moreover, you may have noted that he does not recognize any responsibility in the failure of the relationship. He doesn't commit to improving himself. No, he wants the same relationship that didn't work for her back again, without a word about caring enough for her that he wants her to be happy also and is willing to make changes for her. You don't need a PhD in interpersonal relationships to see the obvious here. You were able to gleem all of that info from his very short, no detail OP?

kittinSol -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 6:37:31 AM)
Sometimes it's sad when relationships end, but I wonder: how do people still manage to confuse prayer and superstition?

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: A Prayer Request (8/20/2008 6:47:44 AM)
sorry i cannot offer a prayer based on hurt pride and vanity for your behalf. prayer isn't something to be used in this way - my persoanl belief. like what others have mentioned, you should look towards your relationship and determine what went wrong between you and her. there's probably a good reason why she left you and doesn't want to return.

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