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Masterwood1945 -> greetings (8/20/2008 5:12:18 PM)

I have always found out what my slave's likes and dislikes are so we could get the most from our lifestyle. Is that something other slaves like to be asked from their Masters or is it only a me thing?



MRandme -> RE: greetings (8/20/2008 5:51:32 PM)

Greetings!

i'm fairly new in this, as i have only served my current Master.  But to my understanding, the best relationships begin with this.  Why would anyone stay in a relationship if their needs are not being met?

Also to my understanding  the best Masters use what they know about Their girl's needs and wants to motivate her.



Masterwood1945 -> RE: greetings (8/20/2008 5:57:44 PM)

Greetings and thanks for your reply. It's always helpful when a person gets a response to a question no matter how silly it seems at the time. Be wellgirl and hope that your Master is well aswell.



silkncarol -> RE: greetings (8/20/2008 6:02:48 PM)

Of course i want my Dominant to be interested enough to find out my likes and dislikes..as much as i need to know his.  Communication and sharing are the foundation of a strong relationship......but....i also realize it's not always about me;  my likes and dislikes don't matter...i trust him to take them into account and make the best decision based on that knowledge.



peppermint -> RE: greetings (8/20/2008 10:02:00 PM)

Likes and dislikes of both should be discussed before you become her Master. 



GreedyTop -> RE: greetings (8/20/2008 11:13:21 PM)

if ya don't know about these things, how can you possibly be effective?



leadership527 -> RE: greetings (8/21/2008 6:51:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Masterwood1945
I have always found out what my slave's likes and dislikes are so we could get the most from our lifestyle. Is that something other slaves like to be asked from their Masters or is it only a me thing?

My refill for my Master's Psychic Pills is still back-ordered so in the mean time I just ask.



IrishMist -> RE: greetings (8/21/2008 6:54:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

if ya don't know about these things, how can you possibly be effective?

You beat me to it.

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  I have always found out what my slave's likes and dislikes are so we could get the most from our lifestyle. Is that something other slaves like to be asked from their Masters or is it only a me thing?

My question is this. Friends that you have...do you know what they like and dislike? ( generally speaking of course [8D] )

Relationships are relationships; they should...notice I said SHOULD...operate pretty much the same. You meet someone, take the time to get to know them, find out if you are compatible; and then move on from there.



AnnaOfAramis -> RE: greetings (8/21/2008 7:01:22 AM)

Greetings Sir,

I think you are very much on track with beginning by asking about her likes and dislikes.
It seems to me that in order to be able to completely control and master a girl, a man must know intimately everything about her, not only her likes and dislikes but ultimately her whole soul should be bare to him. One cannot truly master what one does not understand.

well wishes,

anna



littleone35 -> RE: greetings (8/21/2008 4:03:12 PM)

Master knows my likes nad dislikes we altked for 18 hours over 3 days(face to face) before we even though of playing.  We had talked on the phone for 2 months before the face to face meeting.   We wanted to make sure we were on the same page.  So i thinklit is impt fotr a Master to find out what his sub/slaves likes and dislikes.

Matt's littleone



subtee -> RE: greetings (8/21/2008 4:18:18 PM)

Some subs may have trouble expressing their wants and desires. We're not all hard-wired to produce an alphabetized and cross-referenced list. Be creative in how you discover...is my advice.



TheTXRanch -> RE: greetings (8/21/2008 6:17:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subtee

Some subs may have trouble expressing their wants and desires. We're not all hard-wired to produce an alphabetized and cross-referenced list. Be creative in how you discover...is my advice.


I agree with subtee. Some subs aren't fully aware of what they like/don't like. This was very hard for me as I am a "pleaser". It was very hard for me to distinguish what I actually like versus the satisfaction I received from pleasing Master.

Also, I've found that newer subs are often embarrassed by their deeper needs/wants. The creativity comes from exploring things together. I've found that a very detailed BDSM Checklist is a good start. Many will argue that they are too long or don't give enough information, but sitting down together with a completed list and discussing them is a great way to explore limits. A sheepish blush says they might be more than just curious :)



Masterwood1945 -> RE: greetings (8/23/2008 5:17:25 PM)

Greetings and thanks for your response. It good that there are those out there that really do read the post's. Be well and greetings to your Master.

Masterwood



littlewonder -> RE: greetings (8/24/2008 6:47:26 AM)

We talk about our likes and dislikes all the time. Has nothing to do with bdsm. It has to do with getting to know each other better as two human beings.



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