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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/23/2008 6:27:56 PM   
TheLadyConstance


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If the idea of strapping on a "penis" gets in the way of your wanting to enjoy a new experience, try using a "non-representational" toy in the harness rather than a realistic looking one.  Several companies make excellent toys in various styles and shapes that hardly look like a "wang" at all!  Even the good ol' Vac-U-Lock system has a less "penis-y" attachment... and it's even pink!

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/23/2008 7:15:04 PM   
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First of all, most videos showing strapons are not Mistresses and slaves, but porn actors, and most of the male 'slaves' are gay.  Like most porn, it's nothing to do with real life.  Watch the 'mistresses';  their nipples aren't erect and they rarely orgasm; they're usually standing up or otherwise with their legs together, and the 'slave's' legs are spread wide apart;  all for the camera, and to keep from touching each other.  Ewww.  The opposite of sex.

I tried strapons because it seemed to be the most natural thing in the world:  the man lying prone [on his stomach] or over a couch arm or kneeling, Me straddling him, My breath and voice in his ear, My teeth in his nape, My hands all over him, My breasts grazing his back.  Skin to skin. 
The very first time I tried it, I spoke in tongues!
Nobody gets pregnant, bladder infections or anything else.  Just what the Mistress ordered.

And now they make strapons with vibes in the base, My orgasms are guar-un-teed!

However, rarely, for correction or possession, he's Taken without skin contact.  When they know how intense it is but how impersonal it can be, subs'll do almost anything to have full-body contact.

I've rarely seen porn with realistic strapon play:  foreplay, one finger, two fingers, lube the ass, lube the strapon, sliiiiide the strapon along his crack and circle his asshole until he's sweating and begging, slip in, slip out, wait for more begging, griiiiind in all the way, forbid him to move until you HAVE to, then move in tandem, then fast in, slow out as he moves his ass in counterpoint, fret his nipples, bite his neck, donkeyslap his abs or butt, then when you think you can't take another second without exploding, turn up the gain to '11', slip your arms under his, pull back on his shoulders, and come HARD in his ass.

They also don't show aftercare.
When you regain consciousness, consider a sleepy reacharound if he's been good/hasn't come already; withdraw, but consider keeping the strapon against his crack and caress his back and torso to help with his feeling of loss/emptiness. 
When you're ready, roll off him, and have him unbuckle/unsnap you, and dismiss him to clean up himself and the toys.  Make sure he comes back from the bathroom with two tall cold glasses of water; you'll be parched from coming so hard, you'll need 'em even if you've fallen asleep.

Spoon against his back, or if your legs have stopped shaking, rinse/lather/repeat ;-)

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/23/2008 7:20:33 PM   
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For us, the idea of strapon play is both lovemaking and dominance at the same time.  Had you asked Fox a year ago if he had any interest in anal play, his answer would have been "No, hard limit".
Now, he is my slut when I want him to be, including being forced to orgasm several times in any way I want. Sometiems that can be anally, sometimes not. The point is, no matter how I chose to take him sexually... it is always loveaking. It can be soft and sensual, it can be rough and tumble but it is the same effect.

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/23/2008 7:24:29 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheLadyConstance

... and other times I want to tie him to the bed, cram a pillow under his hips, and bruise his ego.


Lol, and yes, occasionally with his wrists are strapped to the bedpost, his ankles to his wrists, his erection straining his CBT lock and his fresh Brazilian, he's quite the target for Correction ;-)

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/23/2008 8:23:05 PM   
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Oh my!  Tantriqu, I think I need a cold shower.  *whew!*

Who wants to babysit the rest of my entourage next week while I sneak off with my boy?


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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/23/2008 8:44:37 PM   
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I think that defaults to me. :)

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/23/2008 8:56:46 PM   
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You can have 'em!  Just go easy on my little one... the others you can handle any way you want to.  You know K now... Same one that was at WonderFest.  Did he tell you he makes toys?  Very handy.

I'm sure I can convince people that I need an after noon nap...

----Oh boy!  Hubby just brought me a little head in a jar!  Everyone needs one of these.

hmmmm.... On Topic!  Yeah.  Strap-ons.  I'm warming up to the idea.  I've got a Vac-u-Lock with two different attachments.  One that Westie bought for me to use on him... but we didn't get the chance.  We've also got the double penetrator that hubby uses on me.  Maybe you and I can sneak off sometime.  *giggle*


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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/23/2008 9:38:59 PM   
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as my M'Lady said both for sure. i enjoy the strap-on and even have a strapless one.

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/24/2008 12:24:31 AM   
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I know you would've.

~points and laughs~
:)

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/24/2008 1:47:04 AM   
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Thank you for all the responses, friends :) *HUG*



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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/24/2008 2:41:25 AM   
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I agree that strap-on play, can be both sensual & Dominating.

I enjoy the invasion, penetrating a bound, helpless oriface.
I also enjoy the "taking" aspect, yet also get a sexual kick out of it, so definately arousing for me.

The humiliation is also a great factor, but not always necessary, as many strap-on enthusiasts also become sexually aroused by being penetrated, and can can also climax so enjoyable sexually also. For many males/females that find strap-on play stimulating, are intune with their body's make-up. 
Afterall, that is where the delicious G spot is embedded, nice and deep for male & female, and also the prostrate for males.  

Some subs enjoy oral servicing a strap-on only, some enjoy/endure anal penetration and perfecting their deep throat skills with a strap-on training.

The ideal & ultimate senario, is an authentic spit-roast. Me with strap-on strapped on, a sub bound and a bi sub willy and waiting.
Then switching ends, under my direction, my favourite strap-on senario!

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/24/2008 3:59:44 AM   
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gotta love those women who wear strapons to do us guys  assuming the position anyway you want me my lady ...gawd it does feel good once its allin  to those into strapon play try fisting next ..once you have used your strapons on him he should be nice and open and relax for you to try and gain entry  once you slide in that feeling is amazing i must say and can be very addicting  oh and dont forget his prostate ..once you have that with your fingers he is totally at your mercy   good day ..hi Ms Rouge ...mal

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/24/2008 8:25:29 AM   
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quote:

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Do you desire a relationship with power exchange and/or kink, or do you simply desire a relationship with a very high level of intimacy?

Sometimes I see subs gravitating toward an idea of a femdom relationship being a sort of 'hyper intimate' love nest - devotion, adoration, affection, extreme intimacy.  And they could really do without the ass fucking, hair pulling, face slapping, bondage and S&M that many of us kinky people lust for.  Not that there's anything wrong with "femdom lite" per se - but really, you could TOTALLY expand your dating pool if you seek a spiritual level of love,  or a woman who demands and desires/deserves a very high level of devotion from her man - but she's not really kinky.

Akasha



This has some truth to it, but I think it's something of a false dichotomy. Some of us see kink as a path to intimacy.  

As an example, see Tantriqu's, ummm, SMOKING HOT post above...definitely an experience that brings you much closer to your partner emotionally, but very few vanilla women would be open to it.

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/24/2008 8:44:40 AM   
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I'm not much into strap-on play.... but only because I don't care for the harness and all.  I think I really would like the Feeldoe, however....

I do enjoy loving my boys tho--- taking their ass slowly and carefully with my dildos.

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RE: Strap-on "lovemaking"? - 8/24/2008 7:38:35 PM   
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However, for me, I much prefer to use it as a tool of pleasure, bonding, loving... to hold someone close to me, to gently prepare him or her, to kiss, and fondle... knowing that this person has allowed me to enter, has invited me.  To recall how I feel when I invite a lover's cock into my body - to transfer that into how I offer mine.  That we are so aroused as to literally ache for one another.  It is like exchanging gifts - a mutual sharing between partners.  I want it to be something that brings my partner to a place of feeling something very deeply, very emotionally - tickled with joy, flushed with arousal, touched, healed, loved, cared for.  This to me is the very best of what strap-on play can be. 


Thank you Racquelle for your excellent description that matches closely with how I feel about it.  I couldn't have described it better!
 
 
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And since there are no nerve endings in my silicone tool, I must focus on what pleasure I can give, not on what I can take - which is a distinct pleasure of its very own.


I'd highly recommend you investigate some of the newer offerings available with bullet vibrators available for use with them for your pleasure as well.  You might also consider using a jelly o-ring with a bullet vibe attachment on your existing "tool" to see if that does anything for you too.
 
 - pixel
 


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