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Focus50 -> RE: what constitutes what an uncollared slave can ask for? (8/25/2008 3:51:43 AM)
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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse
So you are telling Me that if you are alone on a rock... you are gay? You stop being straight? Thats 'just wiring too' are you telling Me that for you it changes if you are alone?
No, I'm *asking* you what it matters to you whether you're gay, straight, kinky, sterile, blah blah IF you're outside a relationship or marooned alone somewhere.
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Or are you telling Me that this isn't how you are wired, that it is something you DO rather than something you are?
Of course I get "wiring"! I'm wired to be Dominant, NOT submissive. I'm wired to be straight, NOT gay. I'm wired (and built) to be male, NOT female. These things don't change whether I'm in multiple relationships or marooned alone on Mars - they just lose relevance and importance if there's no-one complementingly compatible to act on them with.
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For Me and for many, this is who We ARE, how We are wired. Alone or not Our wiring doesn't change. A slave is still a slave, a Master is still a Master.... I don't look for a submissive and hope I can persuaide her to "pretend to be a slave for Me" I look for someone who is wired that way, someone who IS a slave, someone compatable, a relationship where We can both be fully ourselves with no pretence.
If it is just a hat you put on at 'playtime' for You then it is no wonder you can't comprehend it.
This is where you're stretching the bounds of credibility. While I "get" the wiring differences between Dom and sub and that each is what they are whether in a relationship or living alone, I simply don't accept a Master (or slave) is still a Master when outside a relationship. IE, Dom or sub constitutes an inherent wiring difference - a difference I don't see between Dom and Master. No-one is wired to be married, for eg, you simply are or you aren't and it's the presence of the wife which justifies that status, not some hokey, alleged special wiring!
Raven, you're always a man but not always a husband - *that's* what I'm telling you. Only I used a different example that qualifies in the same way - you're always a Dom but not always a Master. Husband or Master are roles symbolic of your particular relationship with a complementing opposite - they have nothing to do with your *individual* wiring and the role/title doesn't even exist if not validated by the existance of your wife or slave....
When I read a profile that uses semantics like "uncollared slave", it gives me insight into what that particular submissive seeks in a *relationship*. But being a practical kinda fella, it also gives me pause when someone uses an oxymoron to describe their individual self that way. And when a Master does the equivalent same, it comes across as posturing and the keeping up of appearances - THAT'S wearing hats.
Focus.
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