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JanusDom -> Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 12:02:38 AM)

I'm combining a bunch of threads here.
The question here is how to be a wolf in sheep's clothing?
As a very high level technical advisor I can't stand having the vanilla CEO of a company (that I might advise or critique) talk to her submissive admin assistant (or friend) and learn that I'm a Dom...so I keep a "low profile" profile and I don't do munches. Put another way, I'm well known as a maverick who is often right--if I destory my credibility by being a known dom then I'll lose what I can do professionally.
Conversely, as a genuine nice guy in the daylight I naturally start with the nice guy approach and genuinely wanting to get to know the girl. It normally takes months for a girl to know that I have a very kinky side--and many of them are totally shocked when they really find it when the lights are out.
I feel like, as a result, I'm meeting 1/20 of the available women who I might be interested in--not that I need to sleep with the other 19, but it sucks thinking that the right LTR might be one of the other 19.
Add to it (I'm sorry) that I'd rather be celebate than date a girl with a BMI higher than mine (25). Many of my best friends and co-workers are grossly overweight, but I hold myself to a higher standard and expect my g/f to do the same.
Of course, lastly, being a very highly studied technical advisor I'd also prefer a girl who is at least in a 4 yr degree program (medical and legal students are some of my best vanilla relationships).
Super fun, solid vanilla side, and a desire to contribute to society (lots of charity work, solid job, whateer) are all a must in my book. Bisexual with friends is cool, but not a requirement.
So while I've successfully had great relationships with individual women of every individual characteristic I've mentioned--what other technique or method am I missing to find the one right sub who combines everything I've listed?
This ties into the threads "what kinds of jobs do doms have," "what kinds of jobs do subs have," and one "how do I get girls to reply" (which I thought was a good chuckle)...but I had to start a new one because I'd like suggestions for bringing it all together...
Your thoughts are all welcome!



NumberSix -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 12:11:29 AM)

Looka here prick.  How in the fuck do you even have the goddamn gall to consider that you have enough brains to pour piss outta a fuckin boot with two hands and a flashlight?

First of all, there is something wrong with your pants in your picture, and you aint got a head.

Now, my name is Ron (whats yours?) but you aint got some grasp on the inner workings of kink or no other goddamn thing.

you can do this or that because you do.  highly degreed technical advisor to be your toilet slave is above you.

Try to fuckin chill pal.

Ron  (sex, up and down like old people fuck, or whips and chains aint at all special, and don't let anyone talk you into some veitmanese spin fuck chair outlook on it, because it aint gonna look good in grad school)

lol
take a fuckin pill.

Really good advice (even if you hate my ass for it)

Ron



WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 12:29:50 AM)

I'm thinking about what all the redneck girls in trailor parks across america are missing out on.

Oh wait, have you considered picking up girls in country club bars, or other high class joints?  Don't tell me you are stuck in corperate America when you should be looking for those in Educated America.   Female Doctors, and Lawyers.  Perhaps you need to spend time or live in a college town.   Find you somebody with a PHD.   Corperate people don't always seem to have the best of common sense, perfectly large companies making the wrong turns that they have in the last decade.  No wonder everything is made in China, and Microsoft Windows anything has never been stable.   Speaking of which, I thinking about buying a Mac instead of being railroaded into using Vista.



GreedyTop -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 12:45:43 AM)

why does this sound like it should be a profile/journal thingie?



DeviousGentleman -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 12:55:46 AM)

Hey man, the only secret is that there ain't no secret to meeting the right girl. And it don't matter none how 'nilla nor kinky you or her are looking for. But it seems you've been around so I'm sure that ain't news.
Although, I'd bet a six-pack this thread will scare up answers from subs. Some good, some bad. The good 'll be what ya want. Heck, if its too bad ya didn't want them anyway.
I do photography, amateur. Get better lighting in your pic. That'd solve No.6's problem.
Lots of smart people in trailers. It ain't environment, its whats in the head.



WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 12:57:56 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
why does this sound like it should be a profile/journal thingie?


LOL, now that you mention it, it does read like one.  I wonder if he has a mission statement drafted up too. 

The only clear cut question he asked with a "?" on the end of it was this.

The question here is how to be a wolf in sheep's clothing?

Basically, this guy is pissing in those slinky pants of his at the thoughts of being busted by his Boss.  Is this a new kink?  Corperate Pussy Whipping?  It would be ironic if his CEO was some hardcore Domme.  She might really have a field day with him then.  Think about the spin around, corperate blackmail.   



GreedyTop -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 1:01:25 AM)

sooooo..he's a sub identifying as a dom?



WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 1:10:03 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

sooooo..he's a sub identifying as a dom?

now now, let's not distroy credibility here.  I was just expressing some what if thoughts.



RedMagic1 -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 1:10:20 AM)

Be less afraid of what is inside yourself.  Unless you are internally seamless, how can you expect to find a woman who is?

In my experience, you are more likely to find "BMI 25 or less" women looking for relationships online than you are at munches or play parties.  Beyond that, at least half the women I've dated off CM have been advanced-degreed.  However, a lady who is secure in her kink is going to want a guy who is, too.  Months to broach the subject?  How about: "He's a really nice guy, but there's something a little... scary... about him, that makes me wonder what would happen if we were in bed together."  That's a positive, not a negative.  Honest.



NumberSix -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 1:15:11 AM)

teacher's pet, I wanna be teacher's pet...

if Doris Day can do it so can you!!!!!!

QueSeraSeraMaster



WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 1:16:11 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
"He's a really nice guy, but there's something a little... scary... about him, that makes me wonder what would happen if we were in bed together."
That's a positive, not a negative.  Honest.


OMG, this is so true, that it's funny.  I'm reminded time and time again that there are real people on here with real life experiences.  Priceless RedMagic, Priceless.



NumberSix -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 1:19:20 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile2

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
"He's a really nice guy, but there's something a little... scary... about him, that makes me wonder what would happen if we were in bed together."
That's a positive, not a negative.  Honest.


OMG, this is so true, that it's funny.  I'm reminded time and time again that there are real people on here with real life experiences.  Priceless RedMagic, Priceless.


RM, since you and me are homies...that's soooooooooooooooooooo  fuckin' gay

Judy Garland



WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 1:30:15 AM)

CM profiles with a searchable BMI fields anybody?



E2Sweet -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 1:41:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: JanusDom
....Your thoughts are all welcome!


Get over yourself?



badlilthang -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 1:50:03 AM)

quote:

As a very high level technical advisor I can't stand having the vanilla CEO of a company (that I might advise or critique) talk to her submissive admin assistant (or friend) and learn that I'm a Dom...so I keep a "low profile" profile and I don't do munches. Put another way, I'm well known as a maverick who is often right--if I destory my credibility by being a known dom then I'll lose what I can do professionally.
quote:

ORIGINAL: JanusDom

***i realize i am 1. submissive 2. woman 3. blonde - but i totally miss out on what would be so catastrophical if a vanilla CEO (how do You know she is vanilla...maybe she is just as scared as You are to be "outed"...food for thoughts) - found out You are a "Dom".

Odd..to me being dominant is something that shows in every aspect of life. How They deal with things, strength, integrity and many other things. Dominant to me is not to be a whimp during the day - scared of a vanilla CEO - and the great Leader in the bedroom...honestly i would have a hard time believing in His dominance...smiles***



NumberSix -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 1:58:03 AM)

Ja, kann du pa griepa?




badlilthang -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 2:09:49 AM)

nei..det er litt vrient å forstå...*L*



burntcynder -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 2:18:53 AM)

I am confused, a Dom that doesn't want anyone to know he is a Dom?



cyn



Allondra -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 2:20:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: JanusDom

It normally takes months for a girl to know that I have a very kinky side--and many of them are totally shocked when they really find it when the lights are out.
....
what other technique or method am I missing to find the one right sub who combines everything I've listed?



'K, first off, you're going to get (already have) heat about knowing what you're looking for in a partner (seems whenever looks and education get involved in that, people start to bristle, for some reason).  But, it's good that you know what you're looking for.

Secondly, since you know what you're looking for (and among other things, it's a submissive) -- what's the deal with not letting them know you're kinky from the get go?  I would personally find it pretty unsettling if someone, after months of relationship, suddenly tossed this new, *huge* item into the mix.  What sort of response are you expecting from these (presumably mostly straight) women that you've been deceiving for months?  If I were a submissive, I think I'd find your insecurity in your kink off-putting in a dominant.

Buck up, little buckeroo, and be honest about *everything* you're looking for in a partner -- you'll have a much better chance of finding a match than by taking random stabs in the dark. 

And, get over yourself.  That submissive admin assistant has as many reasons not to discuss her sex life with her boss as you do.  (And seriously, you'd probably be amazed at how little most people care about what you do on your own time.)

PS: Consider taking that "I'm not here to learn.... I'm more at the teaching stage" stuff out of your profile journal.  Sounds like you have a lot to learn about d/s relationships, and if you can't admit you're a dominant, uhm, well, "lack of credibility" comes to mind as a hindrance to teaching anyone anything.



NumberSix -> RE: Surprisingly Bad Boy (8/23/2008 2:34:43 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Allondra

quote:

ORIGINAL: JanusDom

It normally takes months for a girl to know that I have a very kinky side--and many of them are totally shocked when they really find it when the lights are out.
....
what other technique or method am I missing to find the one right sub who combines everything I've listed?



'K, first off, you're going to get (already have) heat about knowing what you're looking for in a partner (seems whenever looks and education get involved in that, people start to bristle, for some reason).  But, it's good that you know what you're looking for.

Secondly, since you know what you're looking for (and among other things, it's a submissive) -- what's the deal with not letting them know you're kinky from the get go?  I would personally find it pretty unsettling if someone, after months of relationship, suddenly tossed this new, *huge* item into the mix.  What sort of response are you expecting from these (presumably mostly straight) women that you've been deceiving for months?  If I were a submissive, I think I'd find your insecurity in your kink off-putting in a dominant.

Buck up, little buckeroo, and be honest about *everything* you're looking for in a partner -- you'll have a much better chance of finding a match than by taking random stabs in the dark. 

And, get over yourself.  That submissive admin assistant has as many reasons not to discuss her sex life with her boss as you do.  (And seriously, you'd probably be amazed at how little most people care about what you do on your own time.)



Well, as was I.  Imagine my surprise scanning my ~!voagrp adds, and you are all kinda kinky.........

That kinda shit must cease to be a surprise.

Its for all our own good.




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