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RE: Nothing but 24/7 service? - 8/26/2008 12:29:13 PM

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So does this mean your not going to answer any questions?

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RE: Nothing but 24/7 service? - 8/26/2008 1:11:23 PM

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Well - that was all very interesting. Thank you to those that answered My question concerning their own experiences and those that took the opportunity to attack. Both were learning experiences.

I didn't see anybody attack you. Maybe you don't like when people actually pony up and address real issues with you ? And by the way, if you are offended by what was written by people, I for one used your own words and pix to respond to you.

Obviously if I'm lacking in resources, untidy and in poor health, I'm greatly in need of a slave. A sex toy or whipping post might not do Me much good - but a slave could be a big help. Why would they want to help? That's what I was trying to find out. Does anyone actually do it simply for the sake of being useful?

It seemed you were asking about what YOU want and not just asking about theory. And here you have shown that this understanding was in fact correct. Yes of course people do that at times. But you gotta offer something. I mean come on.

And I find it rather offensive that you would actually presume that you don't have to offer anything to an s-type. Perhaps rather than looking for a slave to take care of you, you might want to find a way to care for yourself. Most of us over here on the s-side prefer that the D-type actually have mastered their own life and enjoy a relationship of some flavor with us. How many people will really do this?

Again - the predominate answer appears to be - not really. Some people have - but most wouldn't do it again.

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RE: Nothing but 24/7 service? - 8/27/2008 4:59:16 PM

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Well actually sunshine, I kind of think you did attack her. Specifically, you posted completely irellevant stuff to what was a pretty clear question. The things you posted were, especially with your added commentary, not particularly flattering. And now your doing so again.

To the OP:
I've had this same question. I hear about subs living to serve all the time. Somehow though, I've always suspected that even the 'service subs' were expecting more out of the relationship than the opportunity to serve. The answers you've gotten here align well with what I would've thought. There is much hyperbole and flowery fantasy expressed on all sides in the BDSM world. But the real truth is that real people behave like... well... real people. For the most part, when someone does something, they are hoping to get something out of it. And honestly, serving me is no great treat. Really, if all some sub wanted to do was shine shoes, my shoes are no different than anyone elses. I'm assuming serving you would be about the same. So that means that all dominants are on a level playing field that way and so "opportunity to serve" isn't really a valid incentive to form a relationship with you (or me). In fact, if all some person wanted to do was serve another human, why be limited to the world of BDSM? Most people, in general, would be fine with that. I'd love to have a maid that I didn't pay.

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RE: Nothing but 24/7 service? - 8/28/2008 1:42:49 AM

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Well, I'm beginning to regret starting this thread. The original question is intended to be theoretical. Although, I admit I certainly had My own reasons for asking. It doesn't accurately reflect My entire idea any more than a CM profile accurately reflects the entirety of any individual's life.

I'm not much interested in being baited. Not to highjack My own thread but I wonder how many people have questions to ask or comments to give from different and interesting perspectives but are feel inhibited by some of the virulent responses they've read?

So, anyway, thanks again to those who have shared of themselves and their experience. It's all interesting and contributes to understanding.

leadership527 - thanks for saying I'm not the only one who's wondered about it.

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RE: Nothing but 24/7 service? - 8/28/2008 2:34:52 AM

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24/7 with no sexual service? This is called, 'employment.'

Maybe if I knew I'd get a good blowjob at the end of a shift, I'd have taken to service with more of a smile. As it is, hell fucking no, also ick. From both sides of such a relationship.

Well, wait. If the sub in question was an exceptional personal assistant, then I'd consider it... I don't need a maid, but a researcher and gopher, I could certainly use. I'd build a cage for her/him, no question.

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RE: Nothing but 24/7 service? - 8/28/2008 3:09:45 AM

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My girl and I are not sexual partners and are only SM partners on the rarest of occasions. she's been collared for two and a half years. The collar is a 'lifetime' collar, meaning that even if it comes off, we still have a commitment to each other for life. she's much older than me and has stated on numerous occasions that I am her last Master, so she won't be seeking it again. her previous collar was also to a woman. They were SM partners, but not sexual partners. That relationship lasted about seven years. Service is a calling for her.

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RE: Nothing but 24/7 service? - 8/28/2008 8:01:59 AM

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Service is something that I enjoy. However, due to not wishing to find myself in a relationship where that was my main calling, that isn't what I had been advertising on my profile.

Yes, I enjoy service, in the form of housework and many other tasks. However, I first and foremost wanted a D/s relationship with romantic overtones and preferably also an S&M side. And if the other person in the relationship didn't want me cooking and cleaning but could fulfill me in all those other ways, so be it. That wasn't the case as he has not said no to my cooking or cleaning yet -- but the rest of the relationship is more important to me. I would never consider a 24/7 TPE no-strings housework, without the rest of the parts that go into a relationship for me.

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RE: Nothing but 24/7 service? - 8/29/2008 5:58:04 PM

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