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RE: I HAVE ALOT TO LEARN - 8/24/2008 9:27:02 PM

NeedingMore220

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Well I recieved a message from an experienced Female SWITCH that told me ..Property and Owenship was the equivalent of a marriage...."would you marry someone you only knew for three months" was her question to me....Now is that basiclly true Im alittle confused... If she is my PROPERTY and I have OWNERSHIP...should I deny her the right to talk to other DOMS and deny meetings?Should I just not be using these terms even if training takes place in and out of the bedroom.Does this mean that I have to stop training other subs...AM I "HUBBY" Please GOD NOOOOO.If so does anyone know a good bdsm divorce lawyer?

IMO, the switch has no right to come into your relationship and dictate how you wish to run it. These are questions for you to answer, not anyone outside of you and your submissive. If you wish to give her the freedom to date and play with others, and she wishes it, so be it. If you wish to have the same freedom, just be up front with her that you are poly and may be seeing others. I am of the mind that she has the right to at least know you will may be out with others - it's up to you to share details/not share, etc.

I don't think you need a BDSM divorce lawyer - lol. I do think you need to stop listening as intently to sources and do what feels right to you. That's one reason I like the forums - I take what make sense to me and toss the rest.

A question - is this an online relationship or real-time?

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RE: I HAVE ALOT TO LEARN - 8/25/2008 6:21:54 AM

TLTEDDY2

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She and I talk to each other and discuss different things before every session.When she asks me questions and explains the things that she likes to do It is a big turn on for me.She knows that I train others and is fine with it...It was the first thing we discussed during the interview process.She seems to enjoy hearing about what others like and learns from it.She has said many times "I might like to try that" and it boner time in Teddytown.I was never into the extreme,but can do it if ASKED TO.I've made mistakes and learned from them but no one has been harmed to bad(alittle bruising).NOW....From what you've heard so far from me ....Am I a DOM...or is it just kinky sex.....? I am more willing to ansewer any questions from you to help me figure this out

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RE: I HAVE ALOT TO LEARN - 8/26/2008 8:24:04 AM

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I have been doing this for all of my adult life and then some. I have been a collared slave 2/7 for the past nine years. I have been an alpha slave in our household for almost six years... and I still have a whole lot to learn too!!!!

I look forward to my continued journey and education! I wish you luck and enlightenment on yours as well.
Maggi

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