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ORIGINAL: Alumbrado

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

Expesially when most munches and play parties are listed publically on a group somewhere and any one inclined can go look and see not only the date and the time but the location in most cases.

Then you should have no trouble providing a link to the time and place of the next Memphis Munch, should you?

Or the exact location of the major private bondage clubs and hosted play parties?

After all we have your word that 'most' of these post the details publicly.



What utter bullshit...if people decide that they want to keep their activities a secret, and they invite you into those activities on condition of discretion, (a requirement that you will find at more than a few places), then 'deciding to be out'  does not provide a convenient excuse to violate their trust without their consent.

Discretion means exactly that, discretion, not 'I'm going to the munch/private dungeon' followed by parental grilling on who, what, where, when, and why.

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I'm not in memphis, so I can't list anything going on in memphis nor do I give  a shit.  but I can list the date time and location of all the munches I know of happening in sacramento. It's not a big private secret, the munches are listed on the group and other websites. Hell there's a norcal bdsm list that'll list every group the list owner knows of an  the group name and where it's located. I can also tell you all the play parties going on at SF citadel,  I didn't say private parties were listed, I said Iknew plenty of groups that the info was public knowledge.

Munches are not big huge secrets there's other counties who's munces can be found just by looking up the name of the county. Lakecounty for one, and Yuba City and modesto and stockton munches, all can be found by doing a websearch on one site or another.



So no I'm not full of shit, because it's true you can go to any number of sacramento bdsm announcemnt lists, and other lists and likely all the munches going on that the group is aware of will be posted, time date and location. Which is what I said, that most munch info is public information that any one out there can go and find out.

but thanks for playing. Do not pass go and do not collect 100 dollars

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ORIGINAL: Thadius

Have you thought about talking to your aunt about it?  Getting her advice may be better than anything we can add, as she knows both you and your parents.

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ORIGINAL: Noella

Wow. . . lots of helpful people. A lot of the advice reassures me. A lot of the cautions against breaking confidentiality are accepted in good faith. I get what some of the concers are, and I wouldn't purposefully reveil info about people and their private lives.

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ORIGINAL: Alumbrado



That is the issue I'm addressing, in respect to people at those venues who thought they were assured of discretion..

This isn't about commerical clubs or publicly advertised munches, or about going off alone to some stranger's house, this is about betraying the trust of the entire community, who have gone to the trouble to provide a safe place for many people to meet and interact in privacy and without interruption or threat of exposure.