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badlilthang -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/28/2008 7:59:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DS4DUMMIES So.....then ....if a Dom is "under consideration".....the sub should be able to obtain all of his passwords, restrict who he can talk with, and control his time online while she "considers" whether to keep him? ...LOL. *gee..i thought that was a given? LOL***

subtee -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/28/2008 8:10:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: subtee I'm going to ask for one for Xmas from everyone I know...so I'll have bunches and bunches of them. Dammit! I'm Jewish! How the heck can I be a Christmas gift? Shalom...

Mavis -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/28/2008 8:11:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64 ... in the long term how many people have stable marriages who have had a lot partners what percentage i bet it is very few... once you have went done a road of chaos I do not think you can be monogo I think for the rest of your life your always going to want more or never be satisifed with just one BOO! This'll scare ya... Popping out of the woodwork, a mixed bag of monogomous and poly and swinger AND long term. Actually, Today is 27th anniversary for Husdom and myself. We have only been "open married" or poly for about 12 years of that though. First 15 were monogomous. Over the years, we've had a second wife (3 years, nilla) playpartners (again, nilla) and I have occasional S&M play partners that are not D/s. Husdom may take on another relationship, probably nilla, because He doesn't do S&M. He'll exercise that choice when he feels like it. Just having the agreements in place doesn't mean poly people are constanly in multiple relationships. I hear the Luke reference a lot, that "no one can serve two masters". I am most happily Owned and operated by two. Hubby is my Dom, and I also have a Master. It's not that complicated if you think of it this way... In context, the above quote is referring to two Masters in conflict. (God and Satan) True, one cannot serve Two Masters that are at odds. But, if they are in unison, it's no worse than obeying two parents, or observing different rules at work and at Wal-Mart. Humans comply with multiple rule-sets daily! I am lucky that both work together in managing me, and I never have a service conflict. Each has final authority in realms they have agreed to between themselves, and I trust Them to manage the division of authority. They have genuine friendship between them, and share common goals, for themselves, their households, and for me. P.S. re the questions about "stable", after 27 years, we can't even define "stable". <grins> I'll go for solid, growing, fulfilling, and ongoing.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/28/2008 8:12:11 AM)
Wait? Dark Steven is gonna be the holiday gifts this year? oooooo. I'll be a gooooood girl. oh yeah

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/28/2008 8:18:32 PM)
you must be part of that group flds of bdsm or something lol some people are like viruses there is always a cure somewhere for what ales their needs no matter what they are into or do be a free and as liberating as you want because when it is truely all said and done only you have to account for the positve and negitive things you do in your life every one has a price everyone has a limit thats is proven so be sexual rock stars do it all the time i would rather set standards then fallow them be a step above a feel good moment does not make for a sucessful relationship compromising just leads to eventual mental anguish lets see Multiple doms could lead to MPD yep i can see that lol

badlilthang -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 2:34:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mavis quote: ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64 ... in the long term how many people have stable marriages who have had a lot partners what percentage i bet it is very few... once you have went done a road of chaos I do not think you can be monogo I think for the rest of your life your always going to want more or never be satisifed with just one BOO! This'll scare ya... Popping out of the woodwork, a mixed bag of monogomous and poly and swinger AND long term. Actually, Today is 27th anniversary for Husdom and myself. We have only been "open married" or poly for about 12 years of that though. First 15 were monogomous. Over the years, we've had a second wife (3 years, nilla) playpartners (again, nilla) and I have occasional S&M play partners that are not D/s. Husdom may take on another relationship, probably nilla, because He doesn't do S&M. He'll exercise that choice when he feels like it. Just having the agreements in place doesn't mean poly people are constanly in multiple relationships. I hear the Luke reference a lot, that "no one can serve two masters". I am most happily Owned and operated by two. Hubby is my Dom, and I also have a Master. It's not that complicated if you think of it this way... In context, the above quote is referring to two Masters in conflict. (God and Satan) True, one cannot serve Two Masters that are at odds. But, if they are in unison, it's no worse than obeying two parents, or observing different rules at work and at Wal-Mart. Humans comply with multiple rule-sets daily! I am lucky that both work together in managing me, and I never have a service conflict. Each has final authority in realms they have agreed to between themselves, and I trust Them to manage the division of authority. They have genuine friendship between them, and share common goals, for themselves, their households, and for me. P.S. re the questions about "stable", after 27 years, we can't even define "stable". <grins> I'll go for solid, growing, fulfilling, and ongoing. *Amazing - just amazing and how wonderful to read that someone has solved it this beautifully!*

gypsygrl -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 4:30:41 AM)
Yeah, depending on a person's personality type, its possible to submit to more than one. Like water finding its own level, I'm generally submissive to anyone who's around unless I have a damn good reason not to be. If I sense a latent or obvious threat to my interests, I'll draw a boundary and defend it, but aside from that, I tend to go with the flow.

Maya2001 -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 5:12:45 AM)
It is all about finding people compatible and that share the same views as yourself for myself I have no desire to be with a Dom that wishes to have multiple subs nor do I wish to have multiple Doms...I have no problems with the idea of interacting/playing with others but as long as it is done as a couple, I seek a long term relationship rather than play partners ...so what would work for you would not work for me and there is nothing wrong with that...as long as the people you are with are in agreement

Sunnyfey -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 5:14:23 AM)
I serve 2 Masters currently. Master (the one im in love with also my "boyfriend") is my owner, Leather Sir, is my teacher,mentor,bestfriend, and all around buddy for more years then i care to remember (sometime before puberty). Master is the one Im in my only sexual relationship with who I serve in all things (aka he has final say), I serve Leather Sir at our fetish shows, and anything Leather Community related, and when Im not with Master. We've worked it out pretty nicely, they both adore and respect each other and each others "limits" when it comes to me.........and they plot together.....the buttheads. Cant say I not a happy girl!

WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 5:23:23 AM)
Two Doms - Threesome Three Doms - All holes filled Four or More Doms - Complete GangBang Slut

Prinsexx -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 5:39:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Barbie23 I know it is common for a Dom/Master to have multiple slaves/subs, whether in training or play.. But is it usual for a submissive to have multiple Doms? or Mentors.. I ask because there have been several opportunities for me to Submit but I feel that the different Doms i meet fulfill different needs of my personality.. So, Is it acceptable to have more than one Dom? and if yes... is is acceptable to have more than one Master? What do you think? In the past i have had more than one d type at any given time. Indeed it seemed that on these ocassions the d's concerned seemed to get off on it. However now i have a contract which states that i am for the sole use of my Master. Since we have an omni relationship and relate as friends, lovers, and master/slave and now each other's families there is no need/reason or desire for me to have any other relationship. I would not have consented to this being the basis of my contract had i not had this total relationship. That is the essential paradox of bdsm; that the power to consent lays with the submissive. However, impo, it is impossible to serve more than one master and that in itself allows me to distinguish the difference between a master and a dominant.

DarkSteven -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 6:09:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss Wait? Dark Steven is gonna be the holiday gifts this year? oooooo. I'll be a gooooood girl. oh yeah At this point, I feel it's only fair to mention that I doubt that I would be able to service more than fifteen sub ladies at Christmastime. At least, no more on a given day. Seeing as how there are twelve days of Christmas, though, I should be able to meet the needs of the CM community.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 6:43:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Barbie23 I know it is common for a Dom/Master to have multiple slaves/subs, whether in training or play.. But is it usual for a submissive to have multiple Doms? or Mentors.. I ask because there have been several opportunities for me to Submit but I feel that the different Doms i meet fulfill different needs of my personality.. So, Is it acceptable to have more than one Dom? and if yes... is is acceptable to have more than one Master? What do you think? Who has time for more than one dom? Plus it would be so mentally draining to always keep their names straight.

eyesopened -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 7:03:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Who has time for more than one dom? Plus it would be so mentally draining to always keep their names straight. wink not if all their names were "Sir"

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 8:20:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Who has time for more than one dom? Plus it would be so mentally draining to always keep their names straight. boggle It doesn't seem to have been a problem for any of the servants in our household -- even when a number of the members of our household (and their servants) live at a distance and we don't get to see them often.Heck, ours have even managed to remember the personal preferences of our collective Keepers -- who likes what in hir tea, who prefers iced, who prefers hot, who likes herbal, who likes Earl Grey -- and whether xhe likes it with honey and lemon or honey and cream... and who won't touch tea with a 50 foot pole, even during Teatime (barbarians!)...It doesn't seem to me that it would be any more difficult to remember their names than it would be to remember one's colleagues' names at work... Calla Firestorm

Aileen1968 -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 8:26:12 AM)
My response was tongue in cheek. I should have put a little [;)] after it. I'm not poly. Not my thing, but I have no issues at all with those who choose it. More power to you.

IvyMorgan -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 12:21:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx However, impo, it is impossible to serve more than one master and that in itself allows me to distinguish the difference between a master and a dominant. I'm not quite sure how this works. What is different between "a Master" compared to "a Dominant" that means you can serve one of the former, but many of the latter. What characteristics and attributes, I mean.

hopelessfool -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 12:37:06 PM)
I serve more then one Master, My first Master Is Fantasy, my Second Young adult, My third Mystery And somehow I fit a real life owner in between those book generes. As for more then one male human, I dont think Id be able to do it, Im more of a constant distraction kinda gal then a flip on flip off kinda gal, but if its your kink ^_^ and the Male Doms are trying to assert alpha-ness by mounting one another, can I watch and get a dvd?

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 6:35:30 PM)
I only serve one master my own desteny and where i take it

IvyMorgan -> RE: Multiple doms? (8/29/2008 6:43:24 PM)
I'm still getting my head round "multiple doms leads to MPD". (Which is now called DID, and which is an important name change not just semantics).

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