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ORIGINAL: sunshine333

my fear of being publicly humiliated is to run into someone i know. it's a sensible fear and one that i have no interest in overcoming. i don't feel the need to be "out" and, fortunately, the Master i'm with is likeminded.

i think there is a line that is crossed when humiliation goes from arousing (on whatever level) to damaging ... whether done privately or publicly. of course that line is different for all of us.

humbly,
sunshine

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ORIGINAL: Synocense

I find such actions disrespectful and inconsiderate to the people around you that he makes uncomfortable.

Syn

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ORIGINAL: BlueAngelSub

I don't believe anyone should be force to watch such a display if they are not in the lifestyle. It's rude and you don't shit where you live.

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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

Reading the Gor threads, ran across the "humilation" one. i realised i see ALOT of talk about humiliation within a scene. With agreed upon terms, everyone knowing excatly whats going on, where the line is and so forth.

What i dont hear about, is in the moment on the spot humilation out side of scenes. No lines, no talk. No scene, no play, no "ooooo that makes me soooo horny" stuff.

Example (forgive me as its one of the few i have) : A certian girl appeared at a bar, that i had some maaaaaajor issues with. Master knew excatly what i would do if i had my chance with her. When she appeared, he had me kneel, next to him, right there, where we were standing in the bar.

Nother example : going out for ice cream, got abit playful with Master (too playful) and at the ice cream place, he snapped his fingers and pointed down. (means kneel)

Personally, i was embarressed in both cases.

There are MANY many things that Master can and does do (that i am not mentioning as they are embarressing) spur of the moment like, because he chooses too, and just where ever we are.

He uses humilation as a teaching tool, yet i have not heard anyone else speak about it. So i am curious to others experiences and such with it.

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But I would never risk damaging her own spirit, sense of worth or esteem by "jumping her through hoops" in front of others just because I can. It's just MY PERSONAL OPINION, but I regard him doing that to you in front of others, specifically someone he knows you have history and issues with, as an act of betrayal of you to boost his own sorry ego! That's how kids handle power....

Focus.

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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

Hehehehehe.. i'm feeling evil tonight. Dun ask why. You should find out WHY i had issues with her in the first place! It was a bad scene all around. But in a way i do thank him for having me kneel, as i know its the ONLY place i cant worm my way out of. There is NO possible way of getting up (and boy did i try them). So it did stop me from jumping on my impulses and dragging the girl off some where to beat the living tar out of her. In the end it did help me and at the time i was so boosted with adrenaline and anger that i wasnt completely embarressed. Master actually does OTHER things that embarress me, that are completely not D/s related.

Like tell a vanilla friend of ours, (that wants in my pants) that i like notice if one is going to cum. Or tell a girl that isnt really a friend of mine, but an acquaintence, that i've hung out with and previously worked with about a letter i wrote to him stating some of the "naughtier" things i'd like to try. Though he didnt tell her, he just instigated he would, i about died there on the spot.

he does alot of "vanilla" humilation as he is one of the few people who actually know how to make me blush. One of his favorites is to go to the bathroom, and then make ummm "going" noises. Which of course if i'm allowed i always flee the room and if i'm not i usually turn the brightest red you can imagine.

So i know this is old, and i'm bringint it back up, dont mean too. LOL But i thought i should respond to that. that in fact, he actually did do me a favor that night. (because i wasnt thinking with my head)